If a man cares too much about his height, he is insecure. But if a woman cares too much about height, she is not insecure. She just has "preferences". This is a double standard.

shogunofsarcasm · 2016-10-27T21:32:27+00:00

There is a double standard, but not in the way you think.

A man wishes he was taller = insecure about his height. This is pretty true.

Woman only dates men taller than her = preferences. Shallow but in general, ok.

Woman wishes she was thinner = insecure, also pretty true

Man only dates thin women = preference, shallow but in general, the worst possible thing!!! #fatshamer

You can't compare what a woman likes to what a man thinks about himself. That doesn't make sense.

You can however compare two different preferences as being a double standard. Such as women liking taller men being more acceptable than men liking thin women. That is the real double standard and it is terrible.

[deleted] · 2016-10-27T21:30:18+00:00

Apples to oranges.

A woman having a preference for tall men has no more to do with her insecurity than your preference for tits does yours. I think the double standard is 'women can feel insecure about the SMP but men can't' but that's not what's being argued. Jury's out on whether its fair but I don't think we can change it until some sort of genetic engineering singularity.

[deleted] · 2016-10-27T22:50:28+00:00

The thread title literally sets up a personal insecurity vs. an aesthetic preference in mates.

If you are worried too much about your own deficiency of height, you are by definition, insecure about yourself.

If one is picky about their chosen mate's height, this is just a personal preference, yes. I'm not seeing the double standard.

ProbablyBelievesIt · 2016-10-27T21:05:36+00:00

This is an issue where there's a definite double standard.

I'm thankful that I'm on the higher end of average height, but I do have a lot of empathy for shorter guys. It seems that their clear disadvantages in life are ignored, and they are in a lose/lose situation if they ever broach this subject.

speltspelt · 2016-10-27T22:48:48+00:00

It's funny how guys talk about this like men and women are equal height. A woman going for men taller than her is including a lot of people genetically shorter than her in her preference. It's no more ridiculous that an ordinary height guy refusing to date girls under 4'10".

sublimemongrel · 2016-10-27T22:16:35+00:00

One is an internal negative view of oneself while the other is an external preference. That's why one is insecure and the other isn't. If I'm insecure about my weight it doesn't mean I have to like fat guys, lest I be insecure.

Skratt · 2016-10-27T21:22:50+00:00

Guys, problems like these are caused by men themselves. Why doesn't a tall woman need to feel insecure? Because men will fuck her anyway. Men will fuck anything, always.

Women have standards, that is what causes men to be insecure about their height.

LittleWindowpane · 2016-10-27T21:21:58+00:00

You short, bro?

But seriously I think a better comparison is guys with weight requirements... girls who require 6'+ guys (who are less than 5% of the population IIRC) and guys who require thin women are both swimming upstream as far as I'm concerned. good on ya if you can find it, but be prepared to spend a long time looking unless you're really attractive yourself.

[deleted] · 2016-10-27T21:46:33+00:00

If I changed my actions everytime a woman ran her mouth, I'd never get anything done but fetching take out and les bottes des rosés

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haikufun · 2016-10-27T22:22:29+00:00

I tried dating someone shorter than me, same as in OP. It doesn't work b/c he did have confidence issues. He called my hands "man hands." Consider my lady boner dead at that point.

wombatinaburrow · 2016-10-27T22:02:45+00:00

Short men and tall women are both insecure about their height.

humankinda · 2016-10-29T00:20:09+00:00

Two different standards or two different set of people?

[deleted] · 2016-10-27T22:22:14+00:00

It's not a double standard.

If a guy says he only dates 6 foot blondes, that is his preference. No problem.

If he is stressed because he is 5'4" then he is in fact insecure.

You really should think more before you post stuff like this OP.

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