Q4Women What good reasons are there to NOT get prenup?

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2016-05-06T14:05:56+00:00

What do you mean by "wrong"? Does anyone say prenups are illegal or immoral? I've never heard people say it's wrong to want or suggest a prenup

wombatinaburrow · 2016-05-06T06:03:13+00:00

Because neither of you have anything worth claiming.

shoup88 · 2016-05-06T16:28:28+00:00

Like the majority of posters here, I wouldn't recommend a prenup to couples who have no resources, or equal resources, going into the marriage. You don't need to spend a lot of money on a lawyer if you have nothing to protect.

TheChemist158 · 2016-05-06T07:09:56+00:00

Inherently? There's nothing wrong with them. If you live in the US they can take a bit to implement and your situation might not be worth it. Your SO might not be accepting.

funchy · 2016-05-06T14:07:52+00:00

When the assets/income are not significantly different than the partner.

When both people have very little assets/income. Plus hiring a lawyer at $300+ an hour may not be a good use of resources when a person is on minimum wage.

When both people are firmly rooted in a culture/religion where divorce rate is very low and where extended families always look after someone should something horrible happen. For example Amish whose divorce rate is almost zero. I don't think Americans realize how high our divorce rate is & how quickly we throw away relationships.

When someone just personally doesn't believe in them. some people just don't like them.

sublimemongrel · 2016-05-06T14:10:29+00:00

Prenups are never a bad idea. Most people just don't like thinking about the possibility of divorce while they are about to get married. But the fact is they are very practical. Everyone knows the stakes in the event of divorce and there's less surprises.

Although what do I know I'm all practical in giving this advice with my lawyer hat on but I didn't get a prenup.

HigHog · 2016-05-06T06:31:09+00:00

Because neither of you have any assets to protect and prenups aren't legally binding in your country anyway.

lurfly · 2016-05-06T06:21:16+00:00

I personally see absolutely no reason not to get one. I plan on getting one even though neither of us will have anything of significant value.

Don't see any problem with recommending them. But I'm sure people have their reasons and its not something I think should be pushed on people.

Wumpus1 · 2016-05-06T15:37:00+00:00

I don't think there is a reason why you shouldn't sign one if you are asked. You're marrying the person for them...not their money. I've dated a few people that had some serious money in the past, and their life can be apart of my life while we are together. Is it a nice life? Yes of course. I've seen kitchens bigger than the house I grew up in...it's inspiring, admirable. But when it's over, that's theirs and not mine. A rational person that believes in math knows that marriage has a high failure rate and feelings are temporary. Perhaps that's cynical, my ex's would certainly say I am, but it's the truth.

[deleted] · 2016-05-06T16:46:50+00:00

I'm all for pre-nups, both to protect the man's assets and the woman's. I think of it as a good faith gesture and a prudent 'worst case scenario' preparation. People don't plan to get sick or for natural disasters - but buying insurance is still a good idea. Hope for the best, plan for the worst and all that.

downunderit · 2016-05-06T11:21:07+00:00

If I thought my partner was going to screw me over financially I wouldn't marry him. Just stay single.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2016-05-06T08:42:00+00:00

I'd request a fidelity clause, other then that I wouldn't have a problem signing one.

lbspredh · 2016-05-06T06:31:38+00:00

Waste of money when the courts can ignore them

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SmurfESmurferson · 2016-05-06T22:25:25+00:00

There's nothing wrong with recommending them.

Husband and I don't have one, personally, but that was his call (for a number of reasons). I was prepared to sign one, and had a lawyer ready to go.

aylamayla · 2016-05-07T01:22:04+00:00

there are no good LOGICAL reasons. I would recommend it for every marriage, but I don't want one in my own.

no its not because i'm a woman and want all his money, I make more anyway. It's because when i get married my partner and i know that it should be for life. so we need to go into the marriage with the mindset that it will not be undone. Whatever bullshit comes from not getting a prenup, to me, is our karma for not meaning it when we said, under god, "for better or for worse, through sickness and through health".

[deleted] · 2016-05-07T02:24:31+00:00

There are none. I (35/f) would insist on it and even draft parts myself. But I don't really want marriage.

LoreSoong · 2016-05-07T13:58:18+00:00

As a women and a law student I think it's everyone's own fault if they loose money in a marriage because they didn't have a prenup. And if a woman (or a man for that matter, since there are marriages where the woman is the wealthy one) is opposed to it, I would ask why and immediatly get suspecious. This has nothing to do with trust. When I have learned one thing in my life, it's that love ends as soon as (a decent amount of) money is involved.

Princeso_Bubblegum · 2016-05-06T14:36:14+00:00

Its shows that there are inherent trust issues in the relationship.

That said, marriages in the legal sense are purely financial, so I would heavily suggest it myself.

questioningwoman · 2016-05-06T06:10:26+00:00

To have a backup plan for punishment in case he becomes an abuser.

Title	Q4Women What good reasons are there to NOT get prenup?
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Date	May 6, 2016 5:51 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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