Red pill: Do you consider your spouse "family" to the degree you consider your parents, siblings, and kids family?

ProtoPill · 2016-01-16T15:01:07+00:00

Yes, my wife is my family.

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. -Genesis 2:24.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2016-01-16T15:44:22+00:00

Yes my husband is my family and no one gets out of this marriage alive

Archwinger · 2016-01-16T16:09:51+00:00

My wife is more my family than my blood relatives.

[deleted] · 2016-01-16T15:19:20+00:00

I consider him family more than most of my biological family.

FleetingWish · 2016-01-16T17:15:31+00:00

No. I value my SO much more. He chose to be with me, he certainly doesn't have to be with me, and I chose him, he wasn't forced upon me by genetics.

I don't get a long with a large portion of my family. They haven't earned my loyalty and trust the way he has.

[deleted] · 2016-01-16T15:46:44+00:00

Absolutely. In fact, I was taught growing up that once I married my allegiance to my birth family was expected to take the back seat to my wife and kids. She is without a doubt my family. She even has the family name. ;-)

StingrayVC · 2016-01-17T01:28:53+00:00

Yes. More so than my parents and siblings. They are extended family. My family comes first.

LifterofThings · 2016-01-17T18:02:07+00:00

Yes, moreso than my parents and sibling. My partner and any kids we have are my "primary" family.

Iwanttoliveinspace · 2016-01-16T11:26:33+00:00

Well, I stopped contact with my family about 14 years ago.

I think family is who you want it to be.

I have very close male friends that I consider like brothers (even though they are from different countries to me).

I don't have a sexual partner, but I'd imagine some could see them as family, but it depends on your context of family

appencapn · 2016-01-16T20:16:47+00:00

I don't value my family or the notion of family. Bonds have to be earned.

nomdplume · 2016-01-16T15:58:12+00:00

Yes. For good and for potentially unfortunate.

heavenorhell2 · 2016-01-16T17:49:50+00:00

Yes of course. You will likely spend more years with your wife than any other person. She is certainly family.

SmurfESmurferson · 2016-01-16T22:19:04+00:00

No. Family and romantic partners are separate in my mind.

Also, if I consider my gf family, wouldn't fucking her be incest?

winndixie · 2016-01-17T05:27:35+00:00

If she behaves like it yes I'll grant her that. If she plays her role and reinforces the cohesion of the family and family members including me and gets along, then yes. If she likes to tread the thin line of how much she can not give a fuck, be unpleasant while seeing how far she can go and still stay in the marriage, then no she should be divorced and not family.

Also she is not treated like how I would treat my parents, siblings or kids. Because a wife is not a parent sibling or kid.

MorpheusGodOfDreams · 2016-01-17T05:07:12+00:00

not the same. This is a major problem in many marriages that over time the romantic relationship is replaced with a familial one. To maintain a strong family structure the distinction between blood family and a spouse must remain strong as well.

/u/ProtoPill brought up the bible, but translated it wrong. it does not say "hold fast," but "cleave," which could mean cling onto or the exact opposite meaning, to divide (through sex).

so I will go a step further to bring up the hebrew language. Man and woman is Ish and Ishah, both with the root word Esh, which means FIRE. There must be a romantic fire that is part of the relationship, or it will die.

we can go even further into the magical and wise hebrew language to examine the very ancient letters themselves in the words for father and mother. the original language, not the aramaic script, used pictographic signs much like Egyptian hieroglyphs.

Father is Ab or Aba, A + B. The A is drawn as the head of an ox, representing strength, while the B is drawn as the floor plan for a tent. Father means strength of the house.

Mother is Ema or Em, with the E written as an A. So in A + M, A is strength, while the M means water. Mother is the strong water, or the glue of the family.

stats135 · 2016-01-16T09:45:10+00:00

There are two key things about family. One, you can't choose who your family members are. If I could choose Id have Bill Gates as my father. Two, you can't change who is in your family no matter what. What I do might make my family love me or hate me, but they will always be my family. Your mother is your mother forever. A spouse satisfies neither of those unique qualities.

Title	Red pill: Do you consider your spouse "family" to the degree you consider your parents, siblings, and kids family?
Author	littleprivateplaces
Upvotes	9
Comments	77
Date	January 16, 2016 7:25 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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