Women, do you really like romantic, sensitive, Non-"Red Pill" (Masculine) Men?

madscientistlove · 2015-07-30T15:09:40+00:00

But attracted sexually, as in you'd rip my clothes off if I showed up at your doorstep with Two Dozen Roses and poetry?

I could do without the roses: seems too expensive, and I'd feel bad that you spent so much money on me. Call it a potted succulent and a handwritten letter, and we're good.

Yes, I really like romantic, sensitive non-RP men. I love my partner to bits, and I find him plenty attractive (3 years in, still digging him).

Edit: Here's the thing. Big romantic gestures aren't what would make me attracted to you. Roses and gifts are nice but unnecessary. I'm interested in a person whose personality meshes with mine. Someone I can stay up all night talking to > Someone who buys me flowers.

And before the red pillers get all, "Women say that but they really want Brad Pitt/Chad Thundercock/Whoever the name is this week": YES, I also want someone who I find physically attractive.

You don't have to be a Calvin Klein model, though. I like skinny boys with pretty eyes. You don't have to be RP, but you should still take care of yourself. Also, Wit/intelligence/charm trump looks any day. Some of the best sexual partners I've had were the folks I wouldn't have looked at twice before getting to know them.

TheChemist158 · 2015-07-29T22:26:21+00:00

There's a lot of in between, and a lot of red pill behavior you're didn't cover. But yes, I'm sexually attracted to less masculine men. It's important to feel close to you too feel sexually attracted to you. I feel close to you if you are emotionally open and there is a bond between us.

cats_or_get_out · 2015-07-29T22:31:41+00:00

NO POETRY! Hahahaha (I know you must be joking, but I must clarify for all involved--poetry is a no go!)

Seriously, stop it! It's so embarrassing for all involved. When I was 15 or so, I went on a date, and the guy pulled out his notebook. I had to sit there, pained face (thinking "Am I making the right face?!") while he read his poems to me.

No poems! Stop it! Also, no guitar playing and singing on a date. You're not a fucking troubadour. So cringy.

modulok · 2015-07-29T21:39:31+00:00

By Red Pill Types, I mean confident, masculine, in shape, self sufficient, kind, assertive but not an asshole, empathetic to what it's like to be a woman.

Haha what? You don't get dibs on all those things. And I have no idea how anyone could consider TRP to be "empathetic to what it's like to be a woman".

Pro-tip: when a woman says she's not into TRP-types she's not saying "I hate confident men who are in shape!"

exit_sandman · 2015-07-30T12:37:01+00:00

Gosh AHAFBB, stop trying to convince these women that deep down they're attracted to redpill types and just don't want to admit it.

Even if that was the case, they probably don't even know it yet (bonus points for them having a severely twisted idea of how RP guys have to be in real life) since they probably never had an opportunity that was to their liking.

The only one who would be dumb enough to fall for this is strongalfafa, and (s)he's a pretty transparent troll.

Katniss_Granger · 2015-07-30T23:22:17+00:00

It's a horribly frustrating balancing act for me, someone who is incredibly eager makes me feel like maybe he'd go for anyone and is just trying his luck with me, someone who is superior, over confident, dread gaming etc and isn't interested well...why would I bother? I want someone who wants me.

There needs to be a nice in between, I think I need to feel like I'm with someone who has other options but wants to be with me, I don't mean using dread here - if you're desireable to other women then I'll see it, if you flaunt it or try to make me jealous I'll just think you're an asshole.

I think romance and sensitivity work when the couple is well matched otherwise it's just a little sad and offputting, which sounds awful. Romance towards one specific girl that you share a mutual attraction with is good, coming across romantic and sensitive to every girl you hit on is smarmy and false.

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shogunofsarcasm · 2015-07-30T09:13:23+00:00

I do like romance as long as it doesn't overwhelm or "pedestalize" me

SteelChicken · 2015-07-30T13:20:40+00:00

People seem to have this problem with all or nothing mentalities. Men should be able to be what the situation requires. A man can be strong, confident and tolerate not bullshit, but still buy flowers once in a while and be sensitive when the situation warrants it.

They key word there "situation." Sensitive is not listening to his lady talk about the office hooker drama bullshit. That's what her girlfriends are for.

A quote:

A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects.

-Robert A. Heinlein

Have red pill qualities when needed, have blue pill qualities when needed, have mgtow qualities when needed.

DO WHAT WORKS. Don't pigeon hole yourself.

thereddespair · 2015-07-29T21:46:53+00:00

i might. but im already taken. where to find people like me who are single, i have no idea sadly. on another note, poetry can be delivered in another way that is not so medieval times like... rap it maybe?

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GridReXX · 2015-07-29T23:17:07+00:00

Your definition of Red Pill type is not Reddit's definition.

AmericanHistoryAFBB · 2015-07-29T23:31:44+00:00

I mean confident, masculine, in shape, self sufficient, kind, assertive but not an asshole, empathetic to what it's like to be a woman.

This is not a red pill man.

Are you really attracted to the romantic, sensitive, Non-"Red Pill" (Masculine) Men? Like, SEXUALLY attracted? Not attracted for the sake of it. But attracted sexually, as in you'd rip my clothes off if I showed up at your door step with Two Dozen Roses and poetry?

Am not into flowers. I don't get flowers. If he's sexy and creative and sensitive, his poetry is all good. The things my present-day partner wrote me when we were first romantically involved, I'll treasure forever.

It's weird, you've all congregated on here but we've yet to see you in the wild.

A guy like that is hard to get. Those are the gems. If they knew how enticing they were, they'd be dangerous.

wombatinaburrow · 2015-07-30T03:21:36+00:00

I'm not really romantic. The fact that Mr Wombat is was a big shock when we first got together. Before him, every man I had come across was a "lift, neg, have a soft harum, treat her mean to keen her keen" type of unreconstructed Ocker.

belletaco · 2015-07-29T23:18:38+00:00

Romance is so important to me and so fucking sexy. yeah sure, confidence, assertiveness and being fit are great things, my SO is a little insecure and Im probably a tad more assertive but he does it for me and man does his sweet english accent make me melt <3

Title	Women, do you really like romantic, sensitive, Non-"Red Pill" (Masculine) Men?
Author	AmericanHistoryAFBB
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Date	July 29, 2015 9:30 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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