Tall, Dark and Handsome? How about Petite, Blonde and Hot?

deepthrill · 2014-09-18T09:42:51+00:00

If you are confident and calm like a mountain why care about what someone's personal preference ? Every person has different preferences, opinions and needs. If you know yourself and know your value nothing can upset you. If someone critiques you, you either take it as a lesson to improve or as a untruth, depending on the critique. If it's true then you know what to do, if not true then it should not bother you. In both cases you're calm. Be better with yourself and do what has to be done in order to achieve that. So you're almost ginger, so what, thats who you are , these are the cards you play with, learn to play better, learn to bluff, move forward and don't go over internet and hope for somekind of pity or consolation.

ExpendableOne · 2014-09-18T09:57:28+00:00

I've been told that guys prefer big breasted girls.

Such is life.

babyguineapig · 2014-09-18T11:06:32+00:00

Pale guys are ugly? Legolas, anyone?

SirNemesis · 2014-09-18T15:37:21+00:00

Let's all bitch about how shallow the other sex is.

[deleted] · 2014-09-18T17:33:04+00:00

Pale women are also looked at as less attractive by a lot of people, hence tanning beds and bronzers. You just have to work with what you've got and find someone who appreciates it.

babyguineapig · 2014-09-18T11:05:49+00:00

Back when I was "on the market", men weren't into flat chested, low body fat, athletic girls with 6 packs. You can only make the most of what you've got.

nomdplume · 2014-09-18T20:53:51+00:00

That's a stupid conversation to begin with.

Anyone getting outraged over anyone else's stated preference reflects immaturity and a lack of social skills.

Anyone bagging on someone's physical features, calling out other people as ugly, or taking pleasure in highlighting the flaws of others is an horribly insecure asshole.

If anyone, male or female, talked that way in my presence, I would instantly leave that conversation and put as much distance between myself and that person as I could.

Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people. Don't engage in conversations with small minds, FFS.

/rant

[deleted] · 2014-09-18T11:15:56+00:00

What your girlfriend says and shitty portrayals of women in the media say is not reflective of all women, and what you pursue is not reflective of what all men pursue. The "tall, dark, handsome" cliche is just that, a shitty cliche. Personally, I like pale, ginger, and physical fitness isn't my first concern but artistic ability is.

GridReXX · 2014-09-18T11:31:39+00:00

Are we talking about skin tone or hair color? You mention skin tone and then state that you're blonde. I know plenty of olive complexioned blonde guys.

Also is this one of those times where we are assuming everyone on the internet is white (of European descent)?

cxj · 2014-09-18T14:06:24+00:00

"All ginger girls are ugly" is both subjective and rude. "Im not attracted to ginger girls" would likely evoke far less butthurt, and any butthurt that does occur can be easily swiped with "attraction is not a choice." Yes you are right there is somewhat of a double standard regarding social acceptability of stating physical preferences but whatever, its way down the list of things that need to be fixed. Also im not sure what were supposed to be debating here.

[deleted] · 2014-09-18T16:33:12+00:00

Females have a genetic imperative to only be sexually attracted to the men with the top genetics. Males have a genetic imperative to be sexually attracted to all women with acceptable genetics - that is, women with "good enough" genetics that their offspring has a decent chance of survival.

This is the absolute basis of the red pill - that this is not a social invention, that this isn't something we "let women get away with." It's as deeply ingrained in human behavior as anything else.

There's no reason whatsoever to complain about it. This is not something that will ever be changed. We all need to get over it.

goatismycopilot · 2014-09-18T12:10:51+00:00

People state preferences all the time, I don't see how her preference impacts you. She isn't dating, you, she is dating your friend. Many men prefer large breasted women, blonde women, fill in the blank on physical trait, ect ect if I don't fit that preference, I conclude those men don't want to date me.

GridReXX · 2014-09-18T13:48:00+00:00

The "darkness" in tall, dark and handsome is actually a "ruddiness". the contrast between a ruddy man and a fair woman is commonly portrayed in western art. This is a good example

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nicethingyoucanthave · 2014-09-18T15:10:51+00:00

The answer to your question is that male sexuality in the absence of female attraction is seen as threatening. It's always wrong. Men are always bad unless women approve of them. Nearly any expression of male sexuality is frowned upon by the majority of society. It's "problematic" or it's "creepy" or it's "predatory" or whatever. Liking women is prima facie evidence that you hate women (and war is peace, freedom is slavery, etc.)

Meanwhile, it is socially unacceptable to criticize any expression of women's sexuality. Note that I'm not claiming criticism doesn't happen - I'm pointing out that it is not socially acceptable. We have words like, "slut shaming" to deter us from criticizing women, regardless of what they do.

Furthermore, the right of women to openly be sexual beings is not (and of course, shouldn't be) dependent on a male's approval or permission. That little caveat runs only one way.

Politicians are voted out of office, officials lose their jobs, and famous people fall out of favor for the crime of criticizing women as a group. But it's perfectly acceptable to criticize men and male sexuality.

The above are observations, but if you'd like to know the cause, I can explain that too. Male sexuality is expressed through action, so the subconscious fear, whenever a male says what he likes, is that he's going to go do something. It is potentially a threat - so it's kind of understandable the way people react to it. If, instead of action, males just advertised, they wouldn't trip that little cognitive wire. You might advertise by doing nonsexual things that otherwise show your value.

By contrast, women's sexuality is defined by deciding. Females (not just women, but females of all sexual species) are the gatekeepers of sex. That's their job, to evaluate and choose. It may indeed suck to be told by women, "the way is shut to people like you" but surely you can understand that it's different than the implication of the male preference, "I'm coming after people like you."

TRP is about the desire to know the truth, even if it's an uncomfortable truth. So there's the truth.

What TRP is not about is changing the world. So you wont hear me whine that women are the way they are. What I will do instead is alter my behavior so that I achieve success within the culture that I find myself, and as a member of the sexual species I was born to.

Specifically, you're absolutely right that if you start spouting off about how much hotter a petite girl is than a fattie, people are going to hate you. Instead, advertise yourself by being in shape, dressing well, and being assertive within your group of friends. Build attraction in women before you become overtly sexual. It's usually a mistake to open with, "I think you're hot" - but once a girl is attracted to you, it's okay.

You're also absolutely right that women are free to express their sexuality openly. Just deal with it. Instead of being upset that it's unfair, take it as an opportunity to demonstrate how few fucks you give - because that attitude is attractive to them.

jamieoneal82 · 2014-09-18T13:43:24+00:00

Yes, and yes please.

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adrixshadow · 2014-09-20T06:46:28+00:00

The only thing a women has to be is not fat.

It cannot be helped if they have an ugly face, that's just the shitty life lottery.

But even then a women will still have options.

The only thing unnaceptable is fat.

Skin tone, hair, size, bust will have plenty of options, some doors will close,some doors will open.

Do not open the chubby chaser door, ever.

Aerobus · 2014-09-18T21:05:26+00:00

Don't you know that because a woman who wants a tall, dark, handsome man is empowering but a man who wants a petite, blonde, and hot girl is a misogynist /s

THIS IS WHAT FEMINISTS ACTUALLY BELIEVE.

Title	Tall, Dark and Handsome? How about Petite, Blonde and Hot?
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Comments	120
Date	September 18, 2014 9:02 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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