TBP/PP women: If you were a man, how would you go about getting laid?

GridReXX · 2014-04-08T14:28:49+00:00

I would emulate my current male friends.

They're all into how they present themselves. They dress well, smell good, are good at banter, and their hair and facial hair are always groomed.

They get laid plenty and presently most of them are in satisfying LTRs.

potopotp · 2014-04-08T05:21:23+00:00

Surf Criagslist personal ads
Meet up with women.
Be confident and funny
Go back to her place.
Continue to be confident and funny.
Get laid.

sad_handjob · 2014-04-08T06:37:41+00:00

Nothing would change. I would just date good friends.

Assume for a moment that you aren't in the gender that gets to select from a pool of suitors. Assume you desire getting laid as much as a man does.

Haha, what? I've never had a suitor in my life. I always have to be the one to approach people, and I've gotten rejected more times that I can count. Newsflash: women also enjoy sex.

eyeliketigers · 2014-04-08T08:22:02+00:00

It depends on how good looking I am. My fiancé has been with 20+ partners. He has told me that he is not usually the one who makes the sexual advances, doesn't treat women like a dickhead, and while he isn't broke, he doesn't make a ton on money either. Despite my encouragement that he go socialize with his friends, he spends 99% of his free time with me. Granted, I was not around while he was fucking random chicks, so he and I could possibly interpret those factors in different ways. I'm sure he has had a few regrettable sexual partners, but I have also seen him turn down an extremely attractive girl (9/10 imo) because she was "too stupid" (I was dating someone else at the time.) She had seen him once or twice and decided that she should pursue him.

His advantages are his sense of humor, being above average intelligence, the way he dresses and his appearance. He does not consider himself attractive.

I bring this up because I also do not consider myself attractive. However, other people tell me I am, and since couples tend to be comprised of people of similar attractiveness, I would have to assume that male me would be about as attractive as my fiancé. That kills a lot of the work in terms of just acquiring sex, male or female. He and I also have similar taste in humor, clothing, etc. My main fault is I'm even less social than he is, but if I was a really sex starved male, I'd probably take more initiative to work on that.

tl;dr- Be attractive. Don't be unattractive. Have a sense of humor. Don't be a gigantic dickhead to people you want to fuck.

[deleted] · 2014-04-08T17:37:40+00:00

I must be missing my woman card. I have no pool of suitors and want sex more than the only man whose sex drive I have knowledge of(or he's missing his man card? or both?). So I'd do what I do now. I put this on another thread that basically asked the same thing:

I'm pretty sure it would be literally the same. I'd awkwardly flirt sometimes in the hopes that maybe they flirt back. Spend most of my life single because I'm an awkward loser. Finally find someone cool and change large parts of my personality in order to suit her. Do lots of things for her, buy her what she wants, take an interest in her hobbies. Ruin everything by being depressed and needy. Rinse and repeat. I don't see why this would be any more or less successful as a man than it is as a woman.

theboiledpeanuts · 2014-04-08T17:48:29+00:00

Women have to work to find dates. Assuming women "get their pick" is stupid. Attractive, rich, or otherwise desirable people get their pick; the rest of us are striving to be decent, engaging, lovely people. But here's what I do (I'm a lesbian, so I get to brag about having one of the smallest dating pools to work with - THIS is an actual struggle). I try to be the type of person I would want to date. No dom/sub bullshit, no shit tests, no negging, no manipulation. I had a crush on this girl last year, and I was getting really depressed when it wasn't working out and I thought I would be alone forever. So I started finding things that I liked about myself and I wanted others to like about me. I'm pretty funny, so I rehearsed some good jokes. I read up on subjects that fascinated me. I wrote poetry. I hit the gym. I hung out with my friends (expanding your social circle is the #1 to meet people - no one's first pick is a stranger they met at a bar unless you're looking for a one night stand. If you want more than that, you're going to have to tread through some friend zones. Do it anyway. If you meet 4 girls and they're all just friends, chances are they have like 5-10 friends apiece who might be single) and I started getting dressed to the nines every day.

Here's the biggest tip I can give you: talk about them. Do not try to impress ladies. You should be impressive without ever talking about what you do. Be who you are, and make sure that person is a quality human being. Then you ask them. Get interested in them. Nothing is more intriguing than someone being interested in you. It's a fine line between flirty and creepy, but you have to learn to walk it. And here's the cincher: if you're faking interest, don't bother. Girls will see through a guy who is faking niceties to get in their pants.

I really hesitate to say these things because "getting laid", albeit desirable, is a dangerous objective. If you want to get laid consistently, get a girlfriend. That's a whole nother ballgame. If you're looking for lots of partners and a wide variety, you'll either have to lower your standards or find a very sexually liberated community. Either way best of luck and whatever you do, don't objectify women!

lewormhole · 2014-04-08T12:15:06+00:00

There's an awful lot of bitterness in your OP, just goin to pint out that that doesn't encourage good answers.

Assuming I have the same mental faculties and am in the same position of life I am now? I'd probably do nearly the same thing I do now as a woman, and the same as what the men I date/sleep with do. Travel a lot, read constantly, be able to engage in difficult debate, have a good pop culture knowledge, have a good sense of humour, be sexually open-minded, be honest and frank all the time, join OKC, socialize as much as possible, talk to everyone, respect everyone, have a good and specific idea of what you want, hone in on people who fit your criteria and bother to get To know them, not think that my having spent time on them entitles me to anything, not think that time spent on someone is wasted if I don't sleep with them, be bold, ask someone to come home with you if you want to sleep with them.

MissPearl · 2014-04-08T12:01:42+00:00

Like I do now, and my brother does, which is to ask politely and not take it personally if I get a no. I assume I am not just a dude now, but a straight dude?

Alternatively if I suddenly "poof!" woke up as a dude, the fact that I'm already awash in pleasurable female company already by dint of my life choices (lots of libertine hedonist friends) is probably transferable.

nicethingyoucanthave · 2014-04-08T14:42:03+00:00

This question is like asking a group of rich, sheltered teenagers how they would solve world hunger. They're going to tell you that people should plant crops and grow food, or just go to a restaurant and buy some food.

http://www.collegehumor.com/video:1917596

newguyacct · 2014-04-08T08:04:18+00:00

I would try to meet people through groups who have similar interests, be open to entering a relationship, and make romance and trust a priority in that relationship. Sex, if/when it happened would be a bonus, but treating my partner like a person with rights comes first, not my horniness.

wuboo · 2014-04-08T03:42:42+00:00

Already date women so I don't think I'd have to be any different than I am now.

rulenumber303 · 2014-04-08T04:58:36+00:00

I'll have to assume I'm 20 years younger too, otherwise it is no challenge, there's maybe half a dozen of my current friends who I could get into bed before the night is out.

I'd go for girls who are naturally pretty but don't know/care how to present themselves well. They are way underpriced in the sexual market place, all those mascara wearing byatches slap on a markup like you wouldn't believe. So if a girl doesn't look "polished" but there's nothing wrong with her, talk to her.

[deleted] · 2014-04-08T03:51:33+00:00

assuming that resources are scarce (women don't approach you in a sexual way)

Implying that a resource is scarce because you have to put some sort of effort in to obtaining it is a real sad way to look at things.

BabeOfBlasphemy · 2014-04-08T06:03:09+00:00

I am a woman with a high libido. I have one partner in a monogamous relationship and I masturbate. Self control is NOT that fucking difficult....

roe_ · 2014-04-08T19:13:58+00:00

I'm just going to leave this here

AdmiralVonJackass · 2014-04-08T15:47:42+00:00

There will be no sympathy for men from women, nor should you need it. A strong man stands alone against the hatred of others. His beliefs are unchanged by the venom they spew, it is a source of amusement for him. The only thing that matters are improvments to his power strategies. Everything else is just noise.

If you want empathy, then give it to yourself. We no longer need each other. Most roles, besides sex, have been filled by governments and corporate services, and our society has responded by dismissing one another.

Love is the obsession with something that you feel cannot be replaced. The average citizen is so self absorbed and filled with antipathy that an empty chair is an orgasmic alternative to their presence. When you are replaceable by empty space, do not expect anyone to exert the slightest effort into understanding your plight.

[deleted] · 2014-04-08T19:34:17+00:00

As expected, typical bullshit answers from TPP.

theboiledpeanuts · 2014-04-08T17:59:53+00:00

I forgot one other thing and this is in the cases that you do get laid - do not be bad at sex. You have to be pretty bad at sex to actually make it unenjoyable for a guy (speaking only for heterosexual relationships which I admit, I have limited knowledge of) but only slightly bad to ruin it for a girl. Communicate. Use foreplay. Hold her, brush her hair out of her face, anything to make it unique and not another sweaty guy humping her like a dog. Ask her what she wants and make sure she cums. The average amount of stimulation needed for men and women to orgasm is 3-4 minutes but only about 30% of women will orgasm from penetration alone. If you figure out how to make sex enjoyable for her she will want to do it again and if you don't she won't. Too many guys think of getting laid as the end goal and forget that if they do it well they can get laid over and over again.

3g0syst3m · 2014-04-09T08:02:07+00:00

I don't even understand why women want sex let alone men, I would never even bother entering this kind of argument.

I see these type exercises as pointless as people saying imagine if you were an Ethiopian starving child, now finish your vegetables! Men won't ever have the same experiences as each other let alone women and vice-versa. There are people who think similar in a lot of ways but they will always have their own point of view and it will always differ. Plus anything that they could say can quite easily be refuted by, well I tried that and it didn't work so you cannot possibly understand.

In the end the most that can be done is to empathise with other peoples plights which is different from understanding, there will never be true understanding of individuals.

Title	TBP/PP women: If you were a man, how would you go about getting laid?
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Date	April 8, 2014 2:56 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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