Handling Fast Nut

lietruth · 2019-12-30T18:29:31+00:00

I used to bust in a minute or less.

I found the one thing that helped me, is keeping my excitement at a 7 instead of a 9 or 10. I did that by practicing breathing slowly. I literally counted my inhales and exhales in my head every time I had sex. In for 4, hold for 4, out for 4, hold for 4.

The reason your ejaculating quickly is because you’re too excited. Keep your excitement low by keeping your breathing and heart rate under control.

First time I did this I lasted 15 minutes.

Second time, it was 20.

Google box breathes. It really helped me. I’m surprised this technique isn’t more well known. Very simple but it works.

As far as how you held frame I think you did good. She seemed to be unbothered too, probably because you showed you were unbothered.

Opperkech69 · 2019-12-30T18:23:04+00:00

If you nut fast, it's only a problem if it's for you a problem (and do a round 2 of course.)

fannyfire · 2019-12-30T22:03:40+00:00

It’s totally normal in the beginning. I remember the first time I got a blow job and it literally took less than a minute. Now I need like a fucking dyson vacuum cleaner to get that shit out.

Psychological_Radish · 2019-12-30T19:10:40+00:00

This is a non-issue. Girls will understand. I don't jerk off very often, so after a few days or a week I start getting horny af. One of my old girls thought it was hot when I would fuck her face and nut in her mouth in less than 10 seconds, or just fuck her in the backseat of my car because I couldn't wait until I got home to nail her. She got a thrill out of the urgency.

The way you handle a fast nut is to simply wait and fuck her longer during Round 2, which is always easier.

gmoney-18 · 2019-12-30T19:56:38+00:00

How does one who has this problem solve without a round 2? Idk why but I’m not capable of a round two till at least 2 hours later

VigilantSmartbomb · 2019-12-30T20:14:18+00:00

Welcome friend

Reverse-kegels are the name of this game 👌🏽

Unbiased101 · 2019-12-30T18:31:51+00:00

Happened to me the other night. I sleep with a good amount of women, and it just happens from time to time tbh. I ended up going back to her place again a few hours later and fucked the shit out of her.

She texted me later saying we should be fuck buddies. If you bust too quick just act like you don't care, and sorta gaslight the situation. Although when i left the first time i could tell she was slightly frustrated

Practical-Animal · 2019-12-30T20:28:22+00:00

Give her round 2/3 if you wanna last longer.

Girls feel so validated when you nut, so nutting quickly is just a validation of her beauty, which is a very healthy thing.

BrodinsOats · 2019-12-30T21:29:33+00:00

You handled it perfectly. It’s not a problem at all if you engage in a lot of foreplay and go for another round after. In fact they’ll usually like it and take it as a compliment.

I used to like singing a line from a Kendrick Lamar song to my girl when it happened. ”She make me cum fast but I never get embarrassed”

watergains · 2019-12-30T19:10:35+00:00

There isn’t any shame per say, but obv the girl didn’t get off and where is the fun in a 1 minute nut?

I want to actually enjoy myself and fuck her properly

UrShadowsReflection · 2019-12-31T00:27:42+00:00

You handled that pretty well.

One thing that helps me is to not mentally indulge in how good everything is feeling.

Those "oh FUCK this is amazing..." thoughts that start to run through your head during climax, are usually what brings you down the point of no return. Now you feel as if you HAVE to nut.

Controlling your breathing helps as well.

Just focus on her, and how much you're pleasing her by beating down that pussy.

Again. DONT focus on how good it feels for you, focus on how satisfied you'll be once you've successfully split her in two, and then she limps home to brag to her friends about how much of a sex God you are.

Long-Term Gratification, my friend.

ducaati · 2019-12-31T06:56:15+00:00

I'm 60 and sometimes I can still bust twice within an hour. Don't ask me how.

ThreeEyez · 2019-12-30T20:18:15+00:00

Kegels helped me. So did meditation and breath control. Now I can almost cum whenever I feel like it.

mrpoopistan · 2019-12-31T00:48:00+00:00

A partner nutting fast is one of those things women talk about as humblebrag. It's much more about signaling "I'm so hawt" than anything else.

Speaking from experience as the guy at the opposite end of the spectrum . . . You want to see a woman lose her fucking mind? Take a long time to nut. That shit drives them insane. It gets inside their heads and rots out their souls.

Unless you ejaculated immediately upon insertion, you'll be fine. Even if she shares the story with someone else, it will come off as a dumb insult that no one will listen to.

Remember: women never tell the inverse of this story. You'll never see a woman tell other women about the guy who went 40 minutes until he nutted. She'd sooner cut her wrists than tell that story. This is a clue about what women get from the experience.

FemtoG · 2019-12-31T02:24:22+00:00

i fast nut and go home and post about it on 4chan and laugh

but tbqh fam its just about position no? certain positions im fast other positions im slow its just a position thing for me muscle imbalances and whatnot.

Velebit · 2019-12-31T02:53:26+00:00

Women don't care as long as you keep doing oral, fingering, or foreplay or at least cuddle and keep her going. You haven't failed her you failed your idea of being in control for as long as YOU DECIDE. To her it is irrelevant. If you make her feel good or cum she will be fine with everything.

When I gave girls a quick orgasm none of them felt apologetic or whatever. They were just like 'oh my' and cuddly and after ready for more. And I wasn't like 'she is so without control and weak'. That would be so idiotic. Don't be idiotic.

Fiendorfoes · 2019-12-31T03:39:46+00:00

You handled it great my man! Especially for as inexperienced at new things like that are. Do not even give it a second thought bro, that chick is going to have it in her head that she’s got to make u nut like that again, meaning she is gunna try super hard and also be validated as a women that turns you on. So you killed two birds with one stone in my opinion. Def look into the breathing, and any other stamina training you can think of, but just remember that it happens occasionally and to just laugh it off and keep going

le_king_falcon · 2019-12-31T10:42:13+00:00

You handled it like a boss to be honest.

Not getting angry or apologetic and the little compliment to her is gold.

The key thing is to not be flustered, angry or upset about it.

strainer123 · 2019-12-30T21:07:48+00:00

Jerking off and edging helps with premature ejaculation, there's a technique called start and stop, you jerk off and when you're about to come you stop before getting off, do that about 10 times before actually reaching orgasm and you'll know how to control your orgasms better, oh, and kegels, do kegels, they help a lot too.

Zanford · 2019-12-31T00:35:37+00:00

You handled it amazingly, both in terms of game/frame/mindset and it sounds like you basically had no refractory period (in my experience this is most common with a new girl, nutting and then being ready to go again almost ASAP anyway. Being in shape helps a lot, and there are age and genetic effects no doubt.)

The most important thing is to not get self conscious about it, this will be bad for your game and for your wood. Ignore the extremely played-out TV trope of 'loser who cums too quickly LOL' from American Pie etc

In my experience girls often beg for you to cum (and pretty soon after sex) as it makes them feel desirable. You telling her to take it as a compliment is a great move (as long as you do it in a casual way and not like 'OMG you must be out of my league!'). I've had sessions where I nutted quick and others where I went for over an hour and gave her a bunch of Os first, and I haven't noticed much difference in their attitude after. As long as you have built attraction and comfort, and don't make it awkward that you came first by apologizing etc., she's not going to give you shit for it like the TV trope.

Things that help me prolong before nutting:

Don't look at her, just look at the pillow/wall/whatever, especially don't look at her sexy bouncing boobs/ass as you work or whatever gets you off
Do something in your head like count backwards or with a weird pattern (123234345456...) that isn't sexy but also it's boner killing antisexy. You might also have a certain fantasy in your spank bank that is good for prolonging wood but not making ya nut
Longer, slower tempo of thrusts. Slow-ish spiraling motion can be good too (great sensations for her) where you push against her walls going around in spirals
Deeper, slower breaths. Breathe as slowly as you can while getting the oxygen you need. Bonus, you will seem and sound manlier than if you're panting like an excited puppy.
Position switching can help. Depends.
Relatively, for some guys, switching to BJ for awhile helps them back off from nutting, for other guys, it makes you more likely to nut. (But hey, at least if you nut during the BJ you aren't getting her pregnant unless she is an exceptionally dedicated spermjacker, and her swallowing is more intimate than cumming into a condom.)
If you're adding anything that really gets you off (like having her suck your fingers while you fuck her, or looking in a mirror, or spanking), lay off those spices when you get too close
Not having gone a long time since your last nut.

Meowphie · 2019-12-31T00:09:17+00:00

Sounds to me like you handled it beautifully! Just the way I would want any man to, with honesty and readiness to pleasure me anyway.

kclanton80 · 2019-12-31T00:32:43+00:00

Try jerking off more often. The more load your carrying, the faster you will cum. Also look up kegel exercises

oldslut · 2019-12-31T00:52:59+00:00

don't mention it, don't make a big deal of it and you're fine. i wouldn't have brought it up again, afterwards, but, whatever, not so terrible. it happens. hold frame

EvelynnSpoiler · 2019-12-31T01:57:45+00:00

Shoulda given it the ol', "well, that's me done" as you fasten your belt buckle back up

DiggerClam · 2020-01-01T01:05:11+00:00

DAPOXETINE

generic-affliction · 2019-12-30T18:55:06+00:00

What’s the shame in a fast nut?

PhaedrusHunt · 2019-12-31T03:26:30+00:00

All that matters is that you were able to get/keep it up and go a second round.

The negative stigma with nutting fast is based on the assumption that you are not able to continue after that.

That's not the case so probably didn't even register with her.

Also I got to say I remember when I was about 20 I had a girlfriend that I thought was super hot and there was a period of time for a couple weeks where every time I would fuck her I would come super fast. looking back on what I know now and had more to do with the scarcity mindset because she was actually not a good girlfriend and I should have been fucking other chicks lol

Also the people here saying you shouldn't compliment a woman ever are full of shit. Especially if you're already in a sexual relationship with her. Was that in mind next time something like this happens just tell her damn baby it just feels so good it's hard to hold back something along those lines. I guarantee you she'll like that A lot more and be a lot more happy and willing to fuck you again than if you tell her something along the lines of God damn girl smells like a tuna fish sandwich down there I just had to squeeze one out so I can go home

dadfrombrad · 2019-12-31T01:28:12+00:00

Jerk off before and take an SSRI

-ThePathIsTheGoal- · 2019-12-31T02:58:00+00:00

If it’s not a big deal to you, then it’s not a big deal. Who gives a damn what she thinks. This is proper frame.

Huntbutt · 2019-12-30T19:54:19+00:00

you masturbate once a week, those are rookie numbers bud.

That's prolly why you bust so fast

Title	Handling Fast Nut
Author	watergains
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Date	December 30, 2019 6:13 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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