So I'm curious in trying to understand the things Mark is writing in his book. When he's talking about vulnerability he explicitly said its very important to start getting vulnerable. He said its not beta to tell the girl you're dating or about to fuck what you feel, what anxiety you got and all the things to open up to a girl. I get this and it makes sense, but on the other side, how is this not a beta trait when im meeting a girl and start telling her im nervous, i cant get hard because of less sexual experience or whatever?
People in this sub tell you must never open up to a girl, not even in a LTR. You have to always keep your fears, your weekness to yourself. But Mark guides to a different path. So where's the fine line? Should you really skip this advice even though it makes sense and as he said its an important step to become Non-Needy. And if so, maybe I got it wrong. How do I have to internalize this step counseled by Mark? He explained it like, if you try to manipulate a girl or EXPECT to get laid when you open up, then you're doing it wrong. But when you just let your emotions flow, like in his example when he went over to this girl who wanted to fuck and he couldnt get hard, he told her he's nervous, havent had sex for a long time and first wants to "get to know her". At first she looked at him like she lost interest and creeped out, but then they talked and get to know each other and had great sex.
Im trying to understand this, as im trying to swallow the pill. But I just don't get it. People here tell the opposite and also I dont know how to apply vulnerability in my dating life. Whats your thoughts on this?
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