I hate how common this is on this sub :/ guy thinks two minutes of rubbing is enough to lead to penetrative sex. It sounds like a horror show; she's told him MULTIPLE times to do more and he just "shuts down" on her. So f***ing manipulative 😡

FrequentPoetry · 2020-12-13T00:34:10+00:00

lmao "low libido is a major point of insecurity" dude foreplay has nothing to do with low libido. if he did it once then never again it means he doesnt give a fuck about you enough to please you. he wants to pump&fuck off. JFC girls gotta stop making excuses for their shitty bfs lmaoooo

2020-12-13T00:37:06+00:00

I can't even give my friends advice anymore.

It's so far out of my realm of what I have to deal with.

I cannot relate...

2020-12-13T03:12:37+00:00

2 minutes of foreplay and 4 minutes of penetration!!! 6 minutes!!! Girl, like is this even sex? I don’t think this counts lmao

frogchickenhorse · 2020-12-13T05:44:36+00:00

So if he gets mad and nicks off, she will be missing 18 mins of sex a week. No big loss. Time to invest in a vibrator.

Ancient-Cucumber · 2020-12-13T02:19:21+00:00

Girl, he is just using your p***y to jerk off, this ain't even sex. And yet, you're the one walking on eggshells to not hurt him, when his f**k ain't worth a damn.

BasieSkanks · 2020-12-13T10:48:02+00:00

Someone with a low libido wouldn’t be having sex three times a week. Interesting how his low libido doesn’t stop him from cumming, but it does stop him pleasuring her. She needs to nix this loser. Women can always get better sex elsewhere.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-12-13T00:27:23+00:00

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.

Stop continuing to date men who don't give a fuck about your pleasure!

Also women report that 20 minutes of foreplay is needed for adequate vaginal arousal prior to penetration. That means MINIMUM!

DallasOMalley · 2020-12-13T01:05:58+00:00

This man deserves to have his feelings hurt.

honeybeeroll · 2020-12-13T02:03:12+00:00

Why the fuck are all these women so worried about hurting their dudes feelings in the bedroom?? That's horrible, I've had hook ups pay more attention to my needs that her bf does.

mynameisrominka · 2020-12-13T09:50:04+00:00

... "Without hurting his feelings"... Aren't these boys the most delicate flowers?

purasangria · 2020-12-13T03:29:45+00:00

Dumpity-dump!

Wildestrose1988 · 2020-12-13T09:05:49+00:00

Pathetic excuse for a man

biggestsigh · 2020-12-13T05:24:36+00:00

They have sex 3 times a week and she's letting herself get conned into not asking for a healthy pleasurable sex life.

She's so scared of him "shutting down" and hurting his feelings that she doesn't realise that he doesn't care about hers.

gcthrowaway2019 · 2020-12-13T14:28:07+00:00

Dumping men after the first (maybe second) poor performance is how you avoid this. Or don't even let it get that far the first time. Bad kissers and negligent touchers are horrible lovers.

daisy_0720 · 2020-12-13T18:36:01+00:00

TL;DR my boyfriend gets hurt when I ask him to give a shit about me.

tallwomenneedlovetoo · 2020-12-13T15:07:38+00:00

3x a week but low libido? 🤔🤔🤔

Sounds like an excuse for jackrabbiting and putting in zero effort. I’m guessing the rubbing is also the vigorous kind that guys use to get Cheeto dust off their fingers onto their stiff ass jeans.

dollymyfolly · 2020-12-13T14:19:42+00:00

As an aside: why are men always fucking shutting down if you give them suggestions about what they’re doing wrong?? They can’t just take it on the nose and move forward, they just shut down and refuse to do anything if they’re not seen as the most competent man in the world.

thewetdog_ · 2020-12-13T16:36:59+00:00

I straight up told a guy when he started getting too comfy in the relationship: IM NOT READY. I clearly told him “it sucks for me” when I’m not ready, this is a moodkill and it’s super lame for me and I turned around and went to sleep. The next day at dinner at a fancy place I actually brought it up out of nowhere and said fr it’s the worst sex of my life when the foreplay is lacking, do you want to be the guy i have the worst sex of my life with? But I said it with a charming smile and joked around. Never happened again. Edit: but this was an actual good guy. I think we had just been dating for a while and he stopped pulling out all the stops sexually when it was late at night and bedtime. I guess he was tired? In that conversation at the restaurant I said sweetly baby I don’t know how to say this except that you’re kinda laZy and he laughed and said so was I and I simply said: I’m the woman the man is the one that sets the sexual pace in the relationship and the woman follows his lead, it’s up to him to make the sex great not the woman’s. 🤷🏻‍♀️ no idea why I said that but it was on the spot and he just kind of accepted and corrected course after that.

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