Never Ask a Woman “Why”

Battle-Scars · 2016-02-08T05:52:15+00:00

I think the reason we ask why is because Men are hard wired to analyze and understand cause and effect of situations so we can improve and not make the same mistake. The problem is there is never a why as men understand it in the actions of a woman.

StraightGlueWater · 2016-02-08T09:01:49+00:00

IF you're red pill, you don't need to ask why.

You understand them now.

It's like you're Neo and now you see the code. These bitches are Agent Smith; once untouchable but now you see the ASCII art they're running on and it's laughable.

You don't ask why. You tell THEM why. And when they deny it, you tell them they're wrong.

Recent interaction I had with an old plate who came over to hangout under the guise of catching up. We had a couple beers and carried on conversation, until she brought up how she's thinking of getting back together with her massively beta ex boyfriend.

I laughed and said "You'll be miserable and you know it."

She denied it, said she was over bad boys like me and thought her chemistry with her ex was worth exploring, and that he made her feel respected and valued.

"Nah, you're lying to yourself. You know the reason you broke up is cause he wasn't masculine. You told me that yourself."

This is the same girl who, the first time we fucked, couldn't contain her giddyness at how I was manhandling her, at one point exclaiming: "I love how you just throw me around.. my ex could never do that."

I sent her on her way a little sore and a little red around the neck where she had been choked by her own hair.

You'll never guess who texted me a couple days later saying "Ughh... you were right.. I need to see you again."

NeoreactionSafe · 2016-02-08T13:37:40+00:00

Men strive to be objectively rational.

Women are subjective by nature and use rationalizations to span the gap between the subjective and the objective.

So men and women use the concept of "rational thought" in different ways.

A woman doesn't have any intention of representing reality in the objective sense in her rationalizations. The rationalization is simply there to provide a cover story for her emotional decisions.

Women actually laugh at men for being rational and truth seeking.

Their thinking is:

"Why would you tell the truth? The whole point of rationalization is to bend reality to fit your own emotional ambitions."

...and did you notice something?

The woman just described Game.

Women are born into a life of perpetual Game.

"Reason is the slave of the passions." - David Hume (old philosopher guy)

boundlessmind8 · 2016-02-08T07:01:55+00:00

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What is this?

nyrp · 2016-02-08T06:22:10+00:00

I asked my ex why she bothered me with showing me pics of her ex fuck buddy out of the blue after dating about 2 months.

She said it was because of me not telling her enough about myself and she had to show pics of her DJ fuck buddy to provoke me into talking more.

I said that doesn't make any sense.

She said, oh! Everything is my fault! You think all the bad things in the world are always my fault. No. You can't take any responsibility. The fault is always me me me.

Lesson learned. No point in asking why.

I should have just said that I never want to see pics like that again. And the second time she showed them, I should have walked out and never acknowledged her again.

BlackJ1 · 2016-02-08T05:45:02+00:00

Asking “Why” Places You in the Woman’s Frame

I think that is the core reason as to why you shouldn't ask women "why". You don't need to know why. What good what it do you?

mygodimpathetic · 2016-02-08T09:16:08+00:00

Great post. Good lesson to be learned as rational men always wanna learn fromtheir mistakes and thus often keep asking to themselves why this, why did it go like that... etc

I found this one out the hard way, like most of the guys here. In high school, I started dating this super cute blonde. It was great. Things were moving fast and it was too good to be true... in retrospect. One weekend when we were supposed to meet up, she simply disappeared, almost didn't wanna pick up the phone and talk to me. She just kept making excuses to blow off our date and not meet. I pressed her for an answer.

Finally, the trickle of truth started coming out. She was cheating on me (or even with me) with her "alleged" ex (not even sure they were actually exes).

My young high school-self could not understand why this girl would do this. I spent days pointlessly racking my brain trying to figure where I had gone wrong.

Now I know, that girl, probably to this day, doesn't even know why herself.

UrsusG · 2016-02-08T11:18:35+00:00

Good post, covers almost every outcome of asking them 'why'.

And in an LTR, asking 'why' when she does something wrong is almost guaranteed to somehow shift at least part of the blame onto you.

FourNominalCents · 2016-02-08T15:14:13+00:00

"Why" is the Socratic request for "because." Learn to lead the witness a bit, and you might start getting actual answers. There's a reason cold reading techniques are what they are. People respond to them.

BoochBrewer · 2016-02-08T10:56:42+00:00

I believe it is useful based on context. In this situation asking why displays bitchassness.

As the late Patrice O'Neal would say, if you find yourself with a bitch that is trying to argue her point or think her feelings are righteous, you always just ask why.

Then when they babble and stutter because they never actually rationalized their actions themselves, it gives you a good example to show them that their stance is horseshit.

TheRedChemist · 2016-02-08T12:58:23+00:00

When I realised this it was one of the major lightbulb moments that brought me into RP.

They don't know why. Even if they did they probably don't want to tell you. Even if they did want to tell you, they probably can't even express it logically in the way you want them to. They're wired different on a fundamental level and that's actually fine.

We're playing two entirely different games. They're both called "football", and involve getting a ball from one end of a field to another, but the rules of play and the skills required are entirely different. American football vs European football (soccer).

ironblacksmith · 2016-02-08T18:46:33+00:00

Also:

You Already Know "Why"

She felt like it in that moment.

max_peenor · 2016-02-08T19:10:55+00:00

You may as well ask the magic eight ball. I honestly believe women don't remember what they say. Oh, sure, they will remember what you say, but their own words are lost to the winds. Instead, they remember the emotional context. Keep shaking the ball and you'll get a dozen different answers, but it will all feel the same to them.

AOF_Semiramis · 2016-02-08T08:59:07+00:00

A nice reply would be "k".

She cheated on you and fucked the football team? Don't say "why?!?! T___T,tell me where i screwed up D: insert more beta WK bs here".Say k. Then next her.

Same deal to a restaurant.Did the food they serve taste like shit? You can ask them "why?" but it would end badly for you.Just say k. then never go back there again.

Its really simple,women just want it complicated since it would enter her frame & territory,allowing her a chance to weasel out of the situation. Walking out and saying "k" shows you give more of a fuck on accidentally spilling your drink(at least it would make you go"FUCK!/ah fuck..") instead of her shit,hence her having no power to damage control & salvage the situation,instantly next she goes~

Doing this would probably turn a 1+ year headache into a slight annoyance that lasts maybe 10-20 minutes tops.

edit: Variations could be k bye,k whatever,uh...ok?,sure lel,i'm supposed to care about what again?,etc

(As funny as it could be pointing to an empty jar and asking her to take 1 fuck of yours there then leave..it still requires some effort so no need to bother since you actually need to prepare an empty jar in the first place...Would be still funny though & worth the lulz if someone videos it+uploads to youtube LOL)

Of course k is the best response,has the least amount of effort required.Even then,that effort is more than what the whore deserves though...

MasterUm · 2016-02-08T06:24:14+00:00

Nicely worded, matches my experience.

Let me add a positive aspect: if you do need to ask, ask does it make her feel. That's when the gates might burst open. That's when she is capable of some degree of introspection.

FakeGuru · 2016-02-08T12:03:26+00:00

The problem with asking why is that it often elicits rationalizations and justifications.

sqerl · 2016-02-08T14:21:49+00:00

There was a highly up voted post recently titled "The 3 Most Powerful Words" tl;dr Yes, No, Why.

It seems we get these occasional contradictions. Would be good to see a compare/contrast between the two posts to bring them back to a contextual singularity. I'll see what I can do when I'm behind a PC.

xArcheo · 2016-02-08T15:03:31+00:00

There's never a reason to know why. If you're redpilled you already know the why answer anyway. You go out of your frame and into a woman's frame as soon as you pose any question as to why. The why answer won't make you feel any better about what happened or help you in any way.

Never ask why. What has happened has happened. Focus on your next move.

SmilingWatermelon · 2016-02-08T16:07:31+00:00

There is nothing to talk about. You cannot negotiate desire.

My last girlfriend..I knew I had messed up with. I showed her too many beta tendencies while high off green one night. That was all it took.

When I knew it was coming (the break up) I didn't even talk about it. When she ended it all I said was "okay". She can't explain it herself and thanks to trp, I already know why and that I couldn't converse to remedy the problem.

I can only look forward and learn from my mistakes.

Don't ever waste time trying to talk to a woman.

bittr_n_swt · 2016-02-08T16:41:56+00:00

good post.

Literally seconds before i saw this post, my female housemate told me guys should pay on valentine's day. I asked her why and of course.....she couldn't give me an answer. She just said "coz.."

i know women are going to be women but sometimes i wish i had them on mute. They chat so much shit

juliman17 · 2016-02-08T19:15:12+00:00

hits close to home. found out about(recent) dirty texts between my gf and her ex of course my first instict was to tell her to gtfo of my house but then the next day i started to wonder what did i do wrong? why did she feel the need to find another cock when she was happy with these one, etc. ofc i texted her that night and when i saw her the following days and i saw those decieving beutiful eyes i just wasn´t mad anymore, she gave me some bs explanation which i bought like a dumbass and i stayed with her 1 more week until she ofc cheated

spacecase89 · 2016-02-08T20:09:15+00:00

Ive noticed even in benign conversation, asking why a woman likes something they like will usually be a conversation ender and a new topic will be needed.

uxeazy · 2016-02-08T20:56:30+00:00

Then what do we do instead of asking "why"? Does this only imply in arguments, cheating, and stupid actions we don't ask why they did it?

TRPhd · 2016-02-08T21:00:34+00:00

If you don't ask, but if she tries to explain herself, it says very little about her motivations but it says everything about what she thinks about you. If she says you're not tender enough, she thinks that you're too macho; if you're frugal (cheap) she'll say he made her feel special by taking her out, yada-yada-yada. Her explanation 'why' always has more to do with you (or her perception at least) than it does with any root cause of her behavior.

PantsonFire1234 · 2016-02-08T21:46:38+00:00

Never forget that the game is skewed fellas. Women hold all the good cards and they will continue to hold them. Every single engagement with a women will be in her favor. You're only trump card is your power to walk away and her fragile hamster.

libertypole · 2016-02-08T22:16:21+00:00

this post sucks. of course there's no point asking someone why they're disrespecting you. you just look like a chump.

if a woman tells me something dumb, i'll ask endless questions including why. you're not entering their frame looking for answers - you're subtly digging them into a hole. eventually they realize you're not going to be ear raped by bullshit without serving her up a humble pie dessert.

CornyHoosier · 2016-02-09T00:21:13+00:00

admitting and taking responsibility for a painful truth

A pivotal moment in my growth of confidence was when I admitted a hard truth to myself ... that how I was living my life wasn't working and that I was failing. No one wants to think they've worked hard for nothing or that their life thus far has been a one folly after another. It was very distressing to acknowledge to myself that I was the problem in my life and not others/women.

After a lot of self-reflection and working to improve myself mentally and physically, I became very good at seeing my own weaknesses and those very same weaknesses in others. I've learned that there are simply times where I need to exert my dominance because it's what is best for me and my livelihood. That said, I do think there is a line between being a domineering asshole and being confident in your assertiveness.

I will regularly admit that certain things I say and do can be viewed poorly from others. Basically, I have no qualms with being an asshole when I feel there is a need to be one. However, I'll be the first to admit that I was acting like one.

HangisLife · 2016-02-09T00:25:28+00:00

The only distinction I would make is that it's a good thing to ask "why" when a woman-particularly a plate- asks for some sort of favor.

red-triad · 2016-02-09T06:45:11+00:00

I stopped asking people (men and women) why when I made the conscious decision to judge people on their actions, and the result of their actions.

LavenderBuds · 2016-02-08T13:40:14+00:00

A huge part in assisting to maintain frame, appreciate it. Great post.

Fuck_shadow_bans · 2016-02-08T12:53:11+00:00

This sounds shockingly like the best advice to deal with a racist.

If you bring up internal intrinsic motivations (aka ask why they did something) it's way too easy to say "I'm not a racist". Which may or may not be true; there's no way to know.

But if you focus on the racist thing that person just said and stick to only that instead of trying to project that external fact back onto an internal motivation, then it's quite easy to shut a racist down and maybe even teach them something (but that's doubtful, haters gon hate and women gon women).

Title	Never Ask a Woman “Why”
Author	RickJamesBeyach
Upvotes	193
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Date	February 8, 2016 5:19 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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