It’s so crazy that once I’m approaching mid 20s so many people have talked about the biological clock that women have — to explain how they are in a rush to get married and settle down. One NVM even brought up my age when I told him my plans of doing a rigorous post graduate health program WTF

AmazonArtemis · 2020-12-07T18:05:16+00:00

“Oh you’re not feeling the ‘biological pressure’? Let me neg you until you do”

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-12-07T18:12:55+00:00

Jackass. He is trying to make you feel old. Also letting you know he's not interested in anything real.

sstena · 2020-12-07T18:18:59+00:00

"X years should be the best years of your life". Says who? This scrote?

Lmao if life goes downhill after 30 you're doing something wrong buddy.

Apprehensive_Ad_7917 · 2020-12-07T19:19:59+00:00

Men have the same time pressures. Their sperm is no good after like 45.

Edited to add: DNA fragmentation starts around 35 and really bottoms out around 45. We don't currently have great testing for it so I personally would consider 40 the limit but others might decide to trust testing into early 40s.

KittenyCat5 · 2020-12-07T18:27:11+00:00

EDIT: These text messages are with a super negative and pessimistic friend.

Another conversation happened with a guy I was romantically talking to. He was the one that belittled my ambitions because it takes so long — and “how could I possibly go after my passions when I have babies to make?!”

lhatw · 2020-12-07T18:45:52+00:00

I’m around your age and I love how the guys who try to bring that up are also the ones that won’t have kids themselves and are commitment-phobes lmao. 🙄

gigi_chi · 2020-12-07T18:34:23+00:00

Yup he’s attempting to brainwash you into feeling old and pressure you to scramble for a man lol smh. Men have done this to me too to see what I’ll say.

BBQCoolRanchQueen · 2020-12-07T20:37:27+00:00

Oh yeah, the whole "eggs drying up" neg. Maybe some of us are childfree? Maybe the "biological clock" thing is a myth? I know plenty of women over the age of 35 who went on to have healthy children.

Aocwannabe · 2020-12-07T22:37:53+00:00

Men are being miseducated and/ or living in a delusion by thinking that they have all the time in the world. Their sperm quality goes down with time as does their energy level so they need to consider if they want to be able to throw a baseball with their kid. Younger women that consider hooking up with older men have to be with a man with diminishing testosterone and possibly health problems. Women already outlive men to begin with... I went on 2 dates with a 48 year old man (I’m 38). He said that he wanted children. (I discuss this with men before even going on a date.). He pursued me but not that hard. I think he gave up when I kept extending my vacation instead of flying back to the US. 😜 He doesn’t have that much time even if he hooks up with a 25 year old! I wasn’t crazy attracted to him to begin with and I have men younger and my age that are show as much interest. Older men need to develop some awareness that they need to strategize and compete.

Davina33 · 2020-12-07T23:03:16+00:00

This is one of the reasons I'm so glad I never wanted kids. I never felt that rush to settle down and get married. I've just left yet another NVM at the age of 35 and I'm not upset about being unmarried and child free. Other people don't understand me but that's not my problem. My NVM stepfather kept my mother perpetually pregnant and trapped. It was terrible.

Jiou112 · 2020-12-07T21:16:28+00:00

I wish you would have stopped at "wdym?" Just to see what he would have come up with. Because no way he would've said kids, he would've said something way more misogynistic I'm sure. They don't care about your fertility, they care about your beauty and the social standards of settling down.

99power · 2020-12-08T02:40:34+00:00

These people are such idiots. My mother had me at 33 with no health issues. Same day she gave birth to me, a 21yo having her first child was injured because her birth canal was still too narrow. I’m not rushing into doing the same. My twenties are for financial stability only.

HoneyBouquet · 2020-12-07T23:02:38+00:00

Yep my mum had my younger sister at 42 - dont believe the lies ladies.

Novemberinthechair · 2020-12-07T22:02:21+00:00

Christ. That bullshit pisses me off.

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