Summary: One thing that a lot of guys complain about is that they feel intimidated by learning how to flirt with women in public places. It's certainly understandable, since we feel in the spotlight when you're out during the day and you just want to meet women that catch your eye.
So I'm going to share 3 secrets of how to flirt with women. These are dating tips you can use to make it much easier to flirt with women that you meet anywhere you go.
Tip 1: They want you to win.
A lot of guys don't approach women during the day because they're afraid of what other people would think about what they're doing. It's easy to be embarrassed in advance of actually flirting with women, but you can't let that stop you from doing what you need to - even if you think that everyone is watching you.
Let me tell you this: Almost every single person who sees a guy approaching or about to flirt with a woman is secretly rooting for you to pull it off and succeed.
The simple fact is that most people are so absorbed in their own life, they don't even notice when you're practicing how to flirt with women. And the ones that do notice don't care at all.
The only people who exist are you and whoever you're approaching.
This will be hard to internalize at first, but practice makes perfect.
Tip 2: Start with nothing.
If you're wondering about what to say when you're trying to figure out how to flirt with women, here's a rule that works in 99% of the situations you will find yourself in: If you just make a comment about the situation you're in - whether that's a coffee shop, or a grocery store freezer section, or whatever - if you just make a comment about what you're doing as a way to open the conversation, that's all you need.
For example, let's say you're getting your morning Starbucks, and you're in line next to a tall Swedish girl with legs all the way to her neck. The easiest way for how to flirt with women in this way would be to just ask her what her favorite roast or variety is.
And if she doesn't respond immediately, you have to understand that it has nothing to do with you. Women walk around all day up in their heads, so you may have to persist to break her out of her shell.
Another easy way to open is to simply say something like "Hey I saw you back there and I noticed you have an interesting style, I had to come over and say hi."
With this one, shes going to stop for a couple seconds like "Oh wow, ok :-)"...she's gonna stop, she's not gonna start talking to you instantly...she's gonna give you like 10 seconds that you can use to follow up with something to carry the conversation forward.
For example, your followup might be "You've got this Spanish thing going on, whats your background?" if she's wearing something Spanish themed.
Now, after that "line", you can quickly follow up with it to peek more interest from her and a response. More than often, what you say the first time matters less than the next thing.
Another simple one is "Whats your name, I haven't met you yet?".
Easy peazy.
Tip 3: To the victor goes the spoils.
The ultimate determinant of whether you'll be successful in learning how to flirt with women is very simple. It's the ability to feel the fear and do it anyways! The simple truth is that most guys will never motivate themselves to approach and talk to a woman under any situation. They're just too chicken to do it. They let their emotions get in the way of the results.
It's the same thing for any field, really. In weight training, the guy that gets results is the one that goes to the gym, pays his dues with a little sweat, and doesn't let his laziness or his negative emotions stop him from doing what he must to succeed.
The same is true of learning how to flirt with women. The easiest way to get results is to just DO SOMETHING, but most men will simply talk themselves out of it.
This should be a relief to you. After all, that means that the playing field is much smaller than you might have thought. Less than 1 in 10 guys will ever act on their desire and discover how to flirt with women. That means that if you just DO IT, you'll already beat 90% of all the guys out there.
The Lesson: Think less, act more. Flirting isn't complicated.
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