She can cheat. She might cheat.

I haven't seen many posts here regarding cheating and LTRs so I'd like to make one on how I view and handle cheating. Much of this should be common sense to those who have been red for a long time, but to those still unplugging - it's good to have some concrete information to digest.

My goal is not to argue whether it is "TRP or not" to be in a LTR or to get married. Nor is it to say that you WILL get cheated on. You might, and there is always a chance you will. I simply want to share some insight on dealing with this reality.

 

Every woman is capable of cheating

Unless you're dating a corpse or you lock her in your basement, there are no exceptions. You should never delude yourself into thinking that because you are X and she acts like Y, she won't cheat. There are so many variables in life that can lead to a woman cheating on you that it's impossible to predict and sometimes even to prevent it.

If a woman wants to cheat, she will. Maybe not today, maybe in a year, maybe in 5.

 

There is no golden star when you die

On your deathbed, no one will give you a golden star for never having been cheated on. If you are cheated on, it may hurt, but it won't cast a black shadow over who you are as a man - so long as you do the right thing and leave her immediately.

 

The point is to enjoy the moment, and enjoy today

This is a basic principle of stoicism.

If you like the girl, and you like spending time with her, this is all that matters today. Whether she will cheat on you or not in the future is not something you should think about.

Remember that you only live once, and if you spend your entire time with LTRs wondering if/when they will cheat on you, you will fail to appreciate the good thing you have today.

Even if she does cheat on you next month, you can still enjoy the sex and interactions with her today.

Also remember that she may not cheat on you at all, and if you spent so much time thinking about it - you simply wasted mental energy for nothing.

Enjoy drinking from your beautiful crystal glass today, because tomorrow it may break.

 

How to prevent cheating

There's no surefire way, period. Unless, as I said, you lock her up - or she's dug up from a grave.

But you need to remember that women are hypergamous. You need to continually be the best you can be, and the best she can get. This will drastically lower your chances of being cheated on.

Fuck her well, and know when she needs emotional "care" as well. Proving her this while being a man she looks up to and respects will drastically lower your chances of being cheated on.

 

If it happens, it happens

Always be on the lookout for red flags, inconsistent behaviour, sudden loss of interest, suddenly not wanting to do things for you that she usually does.

If you suspect her cheating, it's best to keep quiet for a while and be patient while seeing if the red flags you see are truly indicative of cheating, or something else (depression, stress, etc).

Always remember to trust your gut, if your gut feeling is telling you that something is wrong, or if you have some undeniable proof that she is cheating, then you should not ignore it. There's no need to become depressed over it, there's no need to feel as if your life is suddenly over because you were cheated on.

It happened, now you need to deal with it.

 

Dealing with it

Break up, cut contact entirely, move on. Meditate or go on a party/sex spree, maybe both.

What else is there to do?

 

Dealing with it if you are married

Note, that I now live in Europe and I follow the marriage laws of Bulgaria. I know that in the US things are much worse for men.

It's somewhat different if like me, you are married. If you have a "open for girls relationship" as I do, you need to have clear evidence that she knew about it and accepted it (which is part of the reason I always keep photos).

This way, she can't use that you were cheating on her.

Secondly, wait longer with confronting her - let her keep cheating while you collect as much evidence as you can.

Always go to a lawyer before confronting her - ALWAYS. He will be far more knowledgeable than you with the laws, and you can present the evidence which you have to know whether it's solid enough or if you must collect more.

I won't give further advice on this as it's the job of a lawyer to protect you and your assets, but remember that if she knows you know - she will start planning on how she can come out of the situation better off than you.

 

There is NO excuse for cheating

She was depressed, you didn't give her attention, she was drunk, the planets aligned and told her to, the world would end if she didn't suck another dick.

If you were to ever forgive cheating, she may not do it again but not only will she respect you less, you may also respect yourself less as well.

You will also never forget it. And it will make you less of a man for forgiving a betrayal such as this.

It's always best to make a clean separation and move on. Don't bother with her excuses or explanations .

 

Moving on

Move on, if you are someone who enjoys LTR then don't let this discourage you from future LTRs. With everything in life, there's always a chance it won't go your way, this doesn't mean you should sit in a corner until you die and avoid risks.

Simply move on, break off contact entirely (or as much as you can, if you have kids), and remember your lessons for your next relationship.

 

Conclusion

I have a business and I am a workaholic. I enjoy LTRs (and now marriage) because finding other women is optional, it's "extra fun". It takes the focus away from constantly needing to "hunt" for girls to fuck, and allows me to focus more on building a profitable business.

I know that you constantly hear here that LTRs and marriages are for "losers", the people who say this are not wrong - but this IS the truth to them. If you are someone who enjoys a LTR then you are right in seeking them. There is no global law stating that you must never commit.

As a man, this is your decision to make.

Just remember that the only person you can 100% trust is yourself. No matter how much of an unicorn she is today, she may not be one tomorrow and that is Ok.

There is always a risk of being cheated on, of a friend backstabbing you, of a business partner fucking you over. This is a part of life.

You can't prevent it, but the best you can do is enjoy what you have today and be prepared so if the worst happens tomorrow, you do what you need to do - as a man - and move on with your life.