Masturbating

RedJourney23 · 2020-05-06T04:52:15+00:00

Masturbate once a week without porn until you can get a girl

WheresDaLeek · 2020-05-06T05:22:13+00:00

You're doing much better than most.

A good chunk of men masturbate every single day sometimes more.

You have to understand that it's EXCESSIVE masturbation that will really destroy you and that semen retention is HARD and requires great discipline. Yeah man, Somewhere about close to a week of no masturbation you gain a massive spike in testosterone that definitely explains the strong urges. You have to challenge yourself to fight that motherfucker . Go for a walk, do some pushups, go look for something you lost, you can even gather trash in the house and take it out. ANYTHING to get your mind off of it.

Keeping adding one extra day after those 5 days. "I already did 5 days, I can definitely do one more" "Damn It's almost been a week, I'm going to go until Monday" You actually have to work with yourself on this. - Set goals - Understand/identify urges - Expend any and all triggers - Find and repeat tasks that take your mind off of it

alphakari · 2020-05-06T09:09:08+00:00

Idle hands.

zeekt12 · 2020-05-06T12:07:49+00:00

Lol people saying no fap is stupid clearly haven’t tried it. If they’ve ever tried semen retention and been on a long streak, i think they’d understand why this is so important.

Ive been struggling with this too. The key is to stay busy, but obviously being stuck inside doesnt help. I can be good all week, but once the weekend comes around the urges hit me like a train.

Just meditate and drill into your head that a short term dopamine fix isn’t worth 3 days of feeling like shit.

when_its_too_late · 2020-05-06T09:27:14+00:00

Just stop giving a shit. This whole don't fap thing just gets you in a depression loop. If you need to blow so steam go ahead, if you don't, you don't. Simple.

AncientDragons · 2020-05-06T13:03:06+00:00

“ What should I do to get out of this loop?”

Stop fucking worrying about it. If you are so insecure as to make masturbation some kind of dirty addiction in your mind like it’s heroin or something, then you have an unhealthy relationship to your own body and your own sexuality.

Work on that. Unless your masturbation is preventing you from going out and living your life or if you’re some kind of porn addict who can’t stop looking at it for hours every day, then you’re just a normal guy who has a wank every day or two. It’s nothing to be depressed about. If your brain is messed up that badly over it then trying to force yourself not to masturbate EVER is just going to make you repressed and sad. Recipe for misery there, mate.

downvotesanimals · 2020-05-06T12:58:02+00:00

Every time a Q about jerking off gets posed we hear from the post fap enlightened dipshit brigade...

Just listen to yourself... you claim to be getting DEPRESSED... for jerking off when you get horny after 5 days. Why? What's to be depressed about?

As long as youre gaming girls, focusing on your health, strength, career and living your best life, the occasional wank will do nothing, nada, zero damage.

NoFap should be for helping people who are chronic porn addicts and masturbators; people who aren't living normal healthy lives due to jerking off have a reason to stop.

Sounds like you've drunk some weird nofap cool aid that's not helping you.

superdrolic · 2020-05-06T04:41:50+00:00

Perhaps once you understand the destruction you’re causing yourself.

Every time you break that promise to yourself, you’re reinforcing in your subconscious mind that you’re a little bitch who doesn’t keep his word.

You can’t run from your own memory bro

rnsbrum · 2020-05-06T14:45:52+00:00

I'M ON NOFAP DAY 20!!!! AND I AM A STEROID USER (CURRENTLY ON 150MG/WEEK TEST-E, THAT MAKES ME 5x AS HORNY AS A NORMAL PERSON)

Sorry I had to brag about it. Heres my tip, there is no easy way around this, being too horny and shit. ITS A FUCKING BATTLE! You have to focus your mind in something else, BY ANY MEANS NECESSARY. Whenever I think of relapsing, I remind myself of how much of a loser I will feel if I do it, and how good I will feel when I wake up the next morning knowing that I WON THE FUCKING BATTLE! This is hell brah, this is what every motivational speaker talks about when they say "the battle", "getting down in the mud" etc... RESIST, FIGHT, ARISE!!!!!!

But here are some practical tips:

- GET PHYSICAL, go out for a walk, run, lift, do some pushups, pull ups whatever you can do at the moment TO GET YOUR MIND OFF THAT SHIT.

-Find a buddie or online friends that you CAN MESSAGE or call for help whenever you think of relapsing, this has helped me a lot. you can look me up on instagram and DM me whenever you think of relapsing (@rvbrum).

-GET EVERYTING THAT MAKES YOU HORNY OUTSIDE OF YOUR VIEW. Do not look at pictures of girls online, do not look at hot women on Instagram, do not look at women on videos, do not look at women on TV. You are like a cocaine addict, if you find a single trigger, you will find a reason to do a line of coke.

-Go after real girls! YES, thats right. Try it, as stupid as your approach may be, it will get some stimulus going, and if you manage to get lucky, guess what, you will be set for another 7 days of pure bliss (You dont feel like masturbating after having real sex).

robot3000_01 · 2020-05-06T22:13:45+00:00

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TRP_Scepter · 2020-05-06T05:35:26+00:00

The first two weeks of nofap are the hardest. Pun not intended.

Once you make it past week two, even without any sex, as long as you stay away from porn you're gonna be fine.

2020-05-06T07:01:26+00:00

I'm like 400 days into NoFap (I have had a girlfriend for over a year and have sex), but I did about 100 days without nutting or porn. The best thing to do is have a reason not to do it. It could be anything, but it has to be something legitimate (not just because you want to). That's what I've found. Keep trying, and every time you quit you get a bit better at it

bethanyisawhore · 2020-05-06T13:21:21+00:00

Nofap is not bullshit for someone like me whose only idea of sex since the age of 11 is to jerk my dick to moving pixels on a screen. I have porn induced erectile dysfunction which means I can only get hard or finish if I'm looking at porn. I've had disastrous real life experiences with girls because of this which led to depression and lots of other lovely things. So whatever you do, don't watch porn, it's fine to jerk off but do it without porn.

DifficultContext · 2020-05-06T14:55:46+00:00

128 days since I last masturbated. Giving up porn made it easy. When you see behind the chick in porn and realize what you are really watching, giving it up is easy. It helps a great deal if you have someone you are banging on the regular. It does make the sex better because you will become much more horny and not suffer from the POD of masturbating.

awihsoj · 2020-05-06T16:51:15+00:00

Meditation. The reason you cant focus and you give in is because you cant divert your attention onto other things when an urge comes. Start off with 10 mins a day and work your way up. As someone who was addicted to porn, it helped alot. When an urge comes, think of it as a way to build will power for the next urge. The more willpower you build, the easier this journey will be.

masterpiece00 · 2020-05-06T07:34:07+00:00

Masturbating is healthy and natural, just don't do it too often. Everything else about nofap is beta psuedo-science.

2shark8 · 2020-05-06T11:55:39+00:00

Ive been on nofap for some years now, so let me break it down to you. The first month is the worst. But if you keep busy with lifting and taking care of your shit, you will soon notice your confidence to rise. Plus this with cold showers and youre set. If your goal is women, they will soon come. For the most part because of the newfound confidence youll get, but there are some other factors that will come into play. Since ive stoped, I can game women effortlessly and get a new plate as soon as I want. If that is your goal. But if you use it on building your kingdom and working on yourself, in a few years you wont have to worry about getting pussy. Trust me.

VisualCandidate · 2020-05-06T17:34:37+00:00

سْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيْم

I am by no means an expert other than having to grow out of this mentality. the surface aka your actions are not based upon whims and feelings (emotions, thoughts, etc) ... like most women. Your actions are deeply rooted in a few psychological factors and conditioning that you must overcome as a transitioning man.

You must realize pornography is the pedestalization of women in the most destructive capacity. And masturbating to "porn" directly conditions your brain, and body to that as "normal". Therefore you actually believe there are women out of your league and men more worthy than you. I like Lion King (animated, not that CGI garbage) as an example. Mufasa, Scar and Simba are all Alphas their paths to leadership were just different. Find your path and walk it even if you have to meet a monkey and become friends with a meerkat.

pay close attention to your triggers, what does being "horny" have to do with ejaculation? I can feel horny and go about my day shopping or playing video games where I may not be completely "horny" while messing with an HB1-5, I can still get a nut tho.

... There is much to say, realize that pornography and masturbation are symptoms of deeper problems one being you don't feel worthy of the women you fantasize about. Because realistically who would watch some dude stretch out the female you want? Don't allow "norms" to lead you into becoming a cuck. Being a cuck is literally a pathway to HELL. physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

rockyp32 · 2020-05-06T10:23:47+00:00

Bust through it. Focus on other stuff if u only focus on not nutting eventually you’ll nut. Focus on whatever u want. Whenever u get that urge remind urself it’s not natural and then do something else like hit the gym or workout

2020-05-06T10:58:48+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CnOg_ZS4eSE

Elfclan30 · 2020-05-06T11:21:28+00:00

transmute

JaevonTheDon · 2020-05-06T14:09:30+00:00

Porn is like a drug bro. The stuff is addictive as drugs and manipulates the brain into thinking your actually having sex. Get out while you can now. And your not horny they're urges. It will subside, and if you can't stop watching it then your addicted.

m0rty1g · 2020-05-06T21:15:09+00:00

I masturbate whenever I feel like it, no problem

LeatherBoundWisdom · 2020-05-07T02:35:11+00:00

Have more willpower. It's hard for everyone.

If you're getting heavy dopamine from other sources (ex, videogames), that could trigger you to want more. It's harder to eat half a meal than starve.

Don_Draper27 · 2020-05-06T12:30:35+00:00

Do you masturbate with porn? Never watch porn ever again and let yourself masturbate every 5-7 days.

jn14j · 2020-05-06T12:28:06+00:00

As someone who has had Nofap just about drive me insane in the past, I understand.

I think in this instance it is great to feel your baseline motivation and mental clarity improve over the 5 days. However, once that testosterone peak hits and you become too horny to think is probably the point you are at. Don't know if you are using porn or not, that can fuck you up. If you are not, the "depression" you feel is likely from going from a hyper-aggressive (horny) state to being relaxed and mellowed out. Whether you actually get depressed or not depends on whether you allow yourself any release at all. Scheduling a once a week wank for example. If in your head you want to go completely fucking celibate, yet you keep breaking a promise you made to yourself there you fucking go. When you break promises to yourself you tend to not feel too great...

GlowInTheDarkDonkey · 2020-05-06T09:37:51+00:00

You could try not being a nofap retard. But that would take a nuanced understanding of how to not suck the dumb end of reddits dick.

Some of you chodes think every guy who gets laid is some nofap disciple, and that's just not so.

If I didn't get laid because I touched my dick I'd be an incel like some of you silly shits.

whereisthescrew · 2020-05-06T09:25:58+00:00

No fap is utter bullshit. not backed by any science. As a matter of fact science says you should jerk off almost daily to maintain your junks, avoid prostate cancer, and level your stress if you dont have a partner

RevolutionaryPea7 · 2020-05-06T13:29:00+00:00

Not masturbating is a great goal. But not cumming for extended periods is an awful idea (unless you've got some severe porn induced erectile dysfunction). You need to clean out the tubes at least once a week. So if you're not fucking women then masturbate without porn.

DeepNutted · 2020-05-06T14:27:11+00:00

What is your reason for quitting masturbation? It seems like it's causing you pain lol. I don't know why you'd do something that makes you unhappy with a low cost to benefit ratio.

fartingaround · 2020-05-06T19:40:54+00:00

U are hyper focused on wacking off. Your not gonna overcome anything if u keep focusing on what NOT to do. Get obsessed with somthing else...if u ask me

JohnnyOmm · 2020-05-06T20:07:53+00:00

Once u go over the hump of withdrawal it's all gucci

Lostfate09 · 2020-05-06T20:23:54+00:00

You have to channel the energy into something else. work out harder start a new program or look into starting a business

2020-05-06T20:57:24+00:00

Similar to what others are saying here, don't worry about it, it's in your head.

Just wack off every couple days, when you want to. Just stay away from porn.

WheresDaLeek · 2020-05-06T23:16:05+00:00

Thank you to all those that know your T spikes at about a week.

Calm_Quarter · 2020-05-07T03:21:25+00:00

Nah, sorry. Y’all are crazy. What type of blissful mindfulness lives do you all live where porn / masturbation isn’t a self enjoyment / stress reliever?

I don’t prioritize plates over myself. Lmao at discipline... no. Direct your efforts elsewhere.

aegeaorgnqergerh · 2020-05-07T04:08:37+00:00

Masturbation is normal. Watching porn is normal.

This whole "nofap" thing is invented by incels as an excuse for their own failings, their usual tactic of passing the blame to something/someone else.

My main question is why you're trying this? What is the issue with masturbating? Unless you're a fucking monk then there's a much bigger issue here you need to be addressing.

Demolitionerx · 2020-05-09T15:16:47+00:00

Game girls? Does this sub exist in a whole other realm where we aren't in the middle of a fucking pandemic!?

Yeah, the whole place is lockdown but me masturbating often is the problem..

IsaacShSe · 2020-05-06T07:51:29+00:00

Don't buy that no fap bullshit. Just minimize the amount of porn you watch and don't watch it unless you are horny. Even better if you dont watch porn at all and get off while sexting.

TheChinkLord · 2020-05-06T08:36:15+00:00

Go lift you fatty

muricanwerewolf1 · 2020-05-06T18:11:08+00:00

Stop feeling shame for something that's perfectly acceptable. Dudes who scream and shout about how you should never ever masturbate and not masturbating has given them 2020 eyesight and cured their cancer are just as fucking nutty as some porn-sick basement-dwelling coomer.

If you're masturbating basically once a week that's not even close to a problem. Your testosterone levels are not effected in any way by masturbating. Your drive to go out and meet women is not effected by masturbation, unless you're using masturbation as an avoidant cope for the fact you can't meet women. If you're doing everything else right, and you occasionally need to knock some poison out, do your thing.

Not that long ago dudes were telling each other to whack off before a date to take the edge off because we were literally too horny to think. Now the narrative is if you've whacked off in the past month you've essentially neutered yourself. For most people, managing this need or habit is not even close to a priority when it comes to the other shit you should be doing to improve yourself.

rockyp32 · 2020-05-06T10:27:24+00:00

Listen man WE CREATE THE SEED FOR HUMAN LIFE. That shits not cheap to make it takes energy and time to make. When your mindlessly throwing that shit away constantly you’ll be on a much lower vibration then you would be retaining.

It’s tough to accept and realize but you gotta cut porn and fapping. You think men were created to fap? It’s pathetic

brngamer · 2020-05-06T06:53:00+00:00

Read WOTSM

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Way of The Superior Man

Title	Masturbating
Author	6paths_luds
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Date	May 6, 2020 4:30 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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