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[–]AyemHerselfRuthless Strategist115 points116 points117 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
An ex is an ex for a reason. No excuses.
[–][deleted] 11 points12 points13 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I once heard someone joke that "ex" is Latin for "not my problem anymore." That stuck with me.
[–]224Y0UFDS Newbie75 points76 points77 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I needed to hear this
[–]DinkyDoo531FDS Newbie65 points66 points67 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Same here lol I guess I just wanted to see him fail in a way, for all the shit he put me through. But social media is only gonna show the good times, I'm pretty sure my ex is still the same abusive piece of trash he always was.
[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Abusers never change.
[–]Li1170 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
this ^ social media only shows the good things that's going on never the bad.. know what's meant to be will always be and ur ex probably isn't apart of that equation ☝️
[–]LuckyCharmsLassFDS Newbie69 points70 points71 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
To be perfectly honest, I check to see if the trashtruck has been by to pick it up and carry it off.
[–]happyduck18FDS Newbie68 points69 points70 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I finally deleted an ex on social media today and honestly I’m so proud of myself
[–]cherrybombfieldFDS Newbie41 points42 points43 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's the first thing I do. I delete, block everything even when I am not sure, it is my way of not allowing myself to stay in a bad situation and keep it honest. Once I get that old familiar feeling of betrayal coming on I just act. Little extreme but I have yet to of been wrong. It all comes out in the end.
[–]GoldeneAnanasFDS Newbie12 points13 points14 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And dont forget to block the hell out of him.
[–]persephones_torchFDS Disciple23 points24 points25 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This was a good analogy
[–]behappyaimhighFDS Newbie29 points30 points31 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I love this! I used to think it was healthy to have some sort of relationship with an ex, like a friendship with boundaries but I think this feels much better.
[–]Cobmobster21FDS Newbie19 points20 points21 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I believe in being friendly with an ex if things ended on a good note but not actual friends. I have enough friends already what I wanted was a boyfriend. That’s disrespectful to your current or future partners anyhoo. If you don’t have kids with them or finances to work out, there is no reason to talk to your ex.
[–]Meccha_me_2FDS Newbie3 points4 points5 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah I’m not in contact with any of my exes and I find that’s rare sometimes. I don’t really feel that I have any use for them anymore? What we had was a sexual and romantic connection and now that that’s off the table I don’t feel that I need a casual guy friend hanging around when female friends are always superior.
People who are close with their exes are pretty much always bad news. They’re either keeping them close because they want another chance with them or it’s a manipulation tactic.
[–]FoxAngelLoveThrowaway Account33 points34 points35 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
It is so unhealthy to keep speaking to your ex. This goes for your partner too, I will no longer date anyone who still maintains a friendship with their ex.
[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I feel you, and for the most part I totally agree. However, I am currently friends with my X, but only after 2 years of practically NC, though. (He wasn't a bad guy, we were just not a good match.)
[–]LadyGrimesFDS Disciple16 points17 points18 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Love this!
[–]xxlacey3110xxFDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I know so many women who stalk their ex’s social media platforms. Once I end it with someone, they are dead to me. I do not look back. It’s so much healthier for me to not compare where I’m at to them or remind myself of good/bad times. It’s important to give yourself what you need which is space. Eventually you literally don’t even think about them anymore.
[–]tendervittles903FDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I actually just went out to see if my trash had been picked up yet. 🤦🏻♀️
[–]sophrosyne2189FDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I actually have a contradictory opinion: Look him up and see how he's doing. I think being informed is an alternative strategy if you can take it.
I used to do the same strategy: block and avoid looking him up. However, I just keep wondering how he is, idealizing the past, and making fantasy scenarios in my head about him realizing his mistake and coming back to me.
One day, I got tired of telling myself not to look him up so I just did. And I saw his posts and pictures of himself with his new girl. I got to admit it while it stung a bit, the urge to look him up after vanished and any idealization or fantasy or what-if in my head just went poof! (Well... There's still some left but it's not as hard-core as when I actually didn't know about what was happening to him.)
You don't have to add him on your timeline. Just look him up, maybe 1 month from the break-up and see how his life is going. If he is living well and looks happy in his pictures, that's enough motivation for you to get over your feelings for him.
[–]123psych123FDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is so me. I need the harsh reality that he has moved on in order to let go of any fantasy or torch I am still holding.
[–]staynelaleyFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It can be hard! My ex swiped right on me on a dating app and I go back and forth between matching or not. Half of me is curious and sort of misses him a little. The other half is saying "he dumped you and should stay in the past. if he wanted to reach out, he could do it another way".
[–]Subject_Seaweed0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sometimes an ex is a decent person who you just dont match with as a unit in a relationship.
Its perfectly fine to keep in touch with such people and there is definitely value to be had from knowing them if both sides are enough self aware and mature to know that the romantic/sexual relationship is over.
There are definitely toxic people who contact should be cut off with but its not so cut and dry. I wish you all good and peaceful day.
[–]wish_i_wasntavampireFDS Newbie-1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So... none of you check on your trash? Because I kinda do, I mean not regular food trash but here you can put things next to to the trash for other people to take and I do like to check if someone's taken mine.
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