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[–]Scrubbles9450 points51 points52 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
People in general underestimate the importance of the location in which you meet someone. It holds more weight than what you might expect.
[–]throwawway209111 points12 points13 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
can you elebratore? are you meaning like NY compared to a small town or steak house versus walmart ?
[–]Scrubbles9432 points33 points34 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
More like Steak House vs Walmart. People go places because they are looking for something. The mere place in which you meet someone tells you already a vague idea of what they are looking to find there. Those are little moments in which they go outside their everyday routine, to look for what they don't usually find there.
Some people are just looking for fun but expecting people to notice them, so they go to nightclubs. Others go for talking in a non-formal manner, so they go to bars. There is people that go hiking, looking for peace and quiet. Other go for movies or museums, craving for a creative experience. You get the idea.
The more specific are the things that you can do at a certain place, the more it tells you about the people that gather there. So, if you meet someone at a place you enjoy, it's more likely that you'll be looking for the same things. But when areas are more diverse, you should ask yourself "What kind of expectations does he has about the people at this specific place?". You don't go to a soccer match and think that you'll have sex right after the match. Like you don't go to a club and expect a long lasting emotional connection with someone that is just there to get drunk with friends. I hope this helps c:
[–]numberfourbackinshow11 points12 points13 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I have met better guys online than out in public lol. I dated a guy for 3.5 years that I met online (we are still friends and fuck buddies). My bf I met on a swingers site. I met my other boyfriend on okcupid. The couple we play with we met on okcupid. Plus the load of friends on Fetlife in the area. It's harder to meet people and know their motives when you meet in person. At least online you can give a detailed account of what you are looking for.
[–]s_slayerFDS STRATEGY COACH3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
My friend met her husband online. I just couldn’t hack the online dating thing. I have been going to pub trivia for seven long years and got three boyfriends out of it during that time plus a few one night stands. I met a man years ago doing that and we are still great friends and he still loves me l, but I met another guy here as well and I am so in love with him, he is perfect for me, so I totally agree with the post about doing things you love, but be patient too. I was meeting a guy on average every three years doing this one evening a week. I can never tell from photos if I’m going to have chemistry with someone but holy hell I knew within minutes of meeting these guys that I had crazy chemistry with them. I suppose if you are looking for something more sexual than romantic then these sites could be a good resource.
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add also unemployed men children
[–]TheOGJammiesRuthless Strategist[S] 68 points69 points70 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Ah yes, the stay-at-home sons.
[–]dirtytowelsFDS Disciple9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I hope those aren’t in your pool lol
[–]kaylazomgFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
These are everywhere in Denver
[–]s_slayerFDS STRATEGY COACH17 points18 points19 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
With all due respect, rent in some places is insane. Living at home for me isn’t a dealbreaker as long as the guy is generally working towards things. I’m older now and the guys I’ve been seeing either own their own houses or share a home with other guys. The latter doesn’t bother me because he’s trying to get out of that situation at least.
[–]kaylazomgFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh we have different standards for sure. I’m not strictly looking for man with job lol
[–]thatquietgirl1717 points18 points19 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My last bf was 3 of those thing so jackpot
[–]madandunabashedFDS Disciple63 points64 points65 points 4 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
There should be a great library of men where we index them according to these categories so you can just look a man up and see what type he is.
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[–]bntmFDS Newbie13 points14 points15 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
This is basically my girlfriend group method but obviously on a much larger scale. When any of us start to get interested in a guy, we share his pic to see if anyone has dated, talked, etc. with him and if so, get their take from their interactions with him. There’s positive and negative shared and you have to remember that it’s from their point of view so you may have slightly different interactions with him. Overall, I think has saved me time and would have saved me time the couple of times I didn’t listen to them.
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[–]bntmFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not an official group chat, but more of an informal sharing via text or whatever means.
[–]exh_ust_d1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
omg what was it called??
[–]Jamisbike1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Great idea for both sexes! Men and women rating each other to choose wisely.
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[–]madandunabashedFDS Disciple3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You really have no idea what objectifying means, do you?
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[–]TheOGJammiesRuthless Strategist[S] 47 points48 points49 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I hear you!! How about Porn Sick, Soft Dick?
[–]AdAstra9191FDS Apprentice10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
I hope I soon find a man who isn’t porn sick WHILE I’M STILL YOUNG.
Yes, it is perfectly okay for men to admire women’s bodies. But what is unhealthy is for a man to rape himself by choking his dick to porn.
[–]sewer_mermaidFDS Newbie30 points31 points32 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
So so so much pornsickness, it’s insane
[–]htx_evo8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Can you elaborate on pornsickness? I almost asked for an eli5 but then I realized that would be inappropriate
[–]SpicyRedPhoenix18 points19 points20 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
When I was in my twenties I experienced the worst sex. In my thirties it gets better. They just need more experience and more coaching.
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[–]Drewbixtx7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
I’m a guy and it’s not necessarily ED. I had issues once because I was just nervous. The guy might have just super nervous to be in bed with a hot chick. Even at 25-30, guys still have a tendency to get nervous because they are excited to finally have made it into the bedroom with a female.
[–]modernmedusaaRuthless Strategist4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
do they really?!! at that age still? I've had a couple of guys use the nervous excuse thing...and I'm always thinking is this guy inexperienced. But with those 2 that had that issue, it kept happening and I got fed up. There came more excuses 'i drank too much' etc etc.. It starts to get real awkward when its the 3rd time failing. I am used to having no issues in that dept.. so it makes u feel bit deflated
Like don't get me wrong girls won't hold it against a guy if he goes soft once or can't go again straight away. We're not that evil lol. I was seeing a hot guy not too long ago who had the odd slips (tbf we were at it 12 rounds a time) and I just didn't make a thing of it.
But yeh sometimes guys are overthinking it with the nerves, better to just get caught in the moment and buy yourself some time getting touchy or something. If you have got to the point of getting the girl in bed, and naked I don't think u need to worry so much
[–]Drewbixtx1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Let me start by saying that I’m not downplaying the female experience, I know y’all have many issues you deal with, and I honestly don’t believe the two could compare in any way. That being said, you have to understand a guys perspective. Our minds are almost always on sex, our daily lives are driven by our wiener half the time. We are always looking for a woman, and for the mature, one that we can share our life with.
Additionally, though that search is constant, the main focus is the find someone we can get to bed, keep around, and hopefully marry (depending on the guy, the order of those can change). So anytime we get a woman to bed, she could be the one, and any lacking in the bedroom could cause that to fall through. Couple all this with the fact that it’s very difficult for the average guy to get a woman into the bedroom, and the anxiety can be overwhelming.
It wasn’t until I got older, 26 or so, that I was able to relax a little more. Hormones are the devil. One trick I’ve used in the past is cock rings, or hair ties in a pinch. That helps keep the blood in and maintain.
Look at it this way: it is so difficult for the average guy to understand how to win over a woman that men have made entire successful careers on teaching other guys how to do it.
[–]Drewbixtx0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I think I should add: I think another issue might be the average guy’s lack of knowledge about a woman’s body (outside of porn). I spent a good few months learning things I could use in the bedroom before I ever took a woman into one. There’s was so much talk of “women’s bodies are complicated” that I figured it would be prudent to uncomplicate it. Honestly, the biology of a woman’s body is still a little confusing, but I some things that even women I’ve taken to bed didn’t know and that was enough for me. Learning will always be an ongoing process.
I don’t mind sharing that last bit, but I didn’t want to be crass and thought this might be an inappropriate place for sexual discussion.
[–]modernmedusaaRuthless Strategist2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
yeah I do agree on that, the vagina has far more nerve endings than a guys manhood and IS more complex...I think the issue is with a large amount of guys not even attempting to understanding it like you have...as in they're only focused on them getting off. I have come across a few guys who evidently had done their research...and those are the ones you remember most LOL.. you also are more likely to go wild/put effort in for a guy like that. Sex is really about 2 ppls pleasure not just helping a man ejaculate. I think if more men put more effort into foreplay/stimulation...they'd find it would most definitely work in their favour.
Porn for me puts way tooooo much emphasis on rough penetrative sex, which plays into the male aggression thing so appeals to a lot of men. The trouble is, in most cases a variety of pace/ techniques during foreplay (for a good amount of time) is what gets the woman aroused most (not penetrative sex)....THEN you can attempt the rougher stuff bc she is warmed up enough. But most men don't warm the woman up enough, so its essentially just going to make the woman sore, and possibly swollen, much quicker but the guy won't care cos he's going wild. I'm getting detailed here lmfao but I feel this info needs to be put out there, for me that is the most recurrent eyeroll. Women need more stimulation than men to orgasm. Obv each woman is different but I doubt many would disagree with me here
[–]s_slayerFDS STRATEGY COACH1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I agree with you on this point. The guy I’m seeing hasn’t tried to have sex with me and I suspect it’s that he’s nervous so I’m being real patient with him. He always tells me he was really unattractive most of his life and just recently became better looking (he got eye surgery and cured his acne). I think he’s adorable but I know he doesn’t feel that way inside. He thinks I’m really attractive so I’m worried he’s going to be too nervous. My ex had ED issues and I’m sure they are 100% psychological so I’m scared about going through this with another man. I would have no idea how to put a man at ease with this, if it’s even possible.
[–]ino_y15 points16 points17 points 4 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction
"but according to a number of studies and surveys, between 14% and 35% of young men experience ED. Until 2002, the incidence of men under 40 with ED was around 2-3%. Since 2008, when free-streaming, high-definition porn became so readily available, it has steadily risen."
I'm 40.
Dialup / internet porn came out in the 90's, just as my cohort hit puberty. Anyone without a steady girlfriend (aka anyone with poor social skills and who is likely to be "never married" or single again today) became a porn addict. My last boyfriend was an addict for 25 years.
I gotta hit that sweet spot of "too old to have started porn when it came out, and dick still works because he's not yet a geriatric".
I do not envy young women today at all :(
It takes 90 days without using, (after the year trying to get them to admit it), willingness to stop, and a good support system/professional help to fix a dude with PIED, so.. don't waste time on them.
[–]modernmedusaaRuthless Strategist11 points12 points13 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
They can’t stop tho. It’s so much more appealing for them to watch porn & watch some girl they could never pull get rammed from behind
Then when they pull, even a ‘hot’ woman in real life, it still can’t match up, they struggle. How can she? Porn is a fantasy! And u can access it 24/7- it goes against the rhythm of life. They don’t have to put any work in to get aroused
[–]JuanOnOne1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
There's actually communities of men actively avoiding porn and trying to rehabilitate themselves check out r/nofap!
[–]modernmedusaaRuthless Strategist1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Woooo I applaud them. Their sex life/stamina and even health is clearly going to benefit from not masturbating to a screen 24/7.
[–]TheOGJammiesRuthless Strategist[S] 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Damn, 35%?!
[–]ino_y12 points13 points14 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/mar/11/young-men-porn-induced-erectile-dysfunction
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tech-support/201407/what-porn-can-do-intimacy
It's an epidemic :(
Repeated use gives them dopamine hits the way being with a real human doesn't. It changes their brain, they have less empathy - they don't give a shit about women's pleasure. It's the same kind of passive entertainment as gaming and social media scrolling. If a dude's gaming for 8 hours, he's probably a porn user too.
They learn dick-dentric man-pleasure sex from thousands of hours of headless porn stars moaning and screaming. It's not like they're watching tutorials on finding the clit and reading her facial expressions.
The addiction is half the actual porn (high quality airbrushed bodies), and half "the habit" - so settling into his crusty gamer chair and turning on the laptop, or laying on his back, or sitting on the couch begins the arousal process. A lot of men can only sustain an erection on their backs in "wank position".
Going around to a woman's house, standing in the shower with a real woman who, I dunno, expects him to be present and active.. is none of his triggers, so .. no boner.
If I ever start dating again (lol probably not this year), I'll have 2 immediate deal breakers. Enthusiastically go down on me unprompted, and can gain an erection while standing. One chance.
[–]TheOGJammiesRuthless Strategist[S] 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Enthusiastically go down on me unprompted, and can gain an erection while standing. One chance.
Amen sister!! I’m stealing this idea.
[–]modernmedusaaRuthless Strategist7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
That’s so interesting my mums ex h was a gamer & huge porn addict. He constantly tried to coerce her into weird shit then ran off with another woman
I think this is why the anime/cartoon addict guys don't appeal to me...too much time spent on the internet in fantasy world
[–]s_slayerFDS STRATEGY COACH5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I’ve had some really bad lovers. I mean the last four were just awful. ED issues, coming in 30 seconds, no regard for my pleasure. It’s made me seriously consider going to the other team which I never thought I’d do but it’s just sooo damn disappointing what porn has done to so many men, and most of them seem to think it’s a healthy thing they’re entitled to. I have to wonder how many women become lesbians just out of endless sexual frustration with men. I’m very sensual and not at all interested in the kind of sex my lovers have asked for. I would love just to have regular GD missionary sex with a guy who can maintain an erection for maybe 3 minutes? That is honestly too much to ask these days. So sad!
[–]ino_y1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I'm considering it :P PIV does nothing for me and I don't feel bonded or whatever after sex. especially not bad, pointless, orgasmless sex.
[–]s_slayerFDS STRATEGY COACH0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
PIV is great when you already feel a deep bond with the guy, at least for me. Otherwise it doesn’t do much for me. My mind and emotions control so much of my sexual pleasure but if my partner isn’t feeling the same, I pick up on that and it’s just sex and nothing special. I was spoiled being with a man for many years who genuinely loved to please me. I haven’t really had that since him except for one guy who I taught to give really good oral but he had no investment in me at all other than very random (when HE felt like it) booty calls. When I reciprocated, it was over in 30 seconds which I suppose wasn’t the worst thing but never allowed for any proper physical bonding, but I think that was exactly what he was trying to avoid.
I’m not a big porn person. My ex husband was an addict and it really bothered me for many years but now I’ve gotten over it because I feel like most men watch it and why try to fight it. If I ever watch it (rarely), I just get so grossed out by the thumbnails on the home page. The only thing I can stomach is two women together. I wish men would know how this is affecting us but I don’t even think they care.
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[–]s_slayerFDS STRATEGY COACH5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
My ex had ED and never addressed it. He was 36. I went 3 years without sex, yes I was stupid. Broke up with him because additionally he was a right moody jerk at times. Guess what? A year and a half later he is texting me the most open texts he’s ever written me, declaring his undying love for me. Of course he knows I loved him unconditionally, but seriously fuck him for never doing anything about that issue AND thinking I might be willing to go back to that life? Unreal. Never. I met someone else anyway now that I can confirm can get it up.
yeah he deffo realised hes not much of a catch with his ED problem- trust me they will lovebomb u when they realise- don't buy into it. Says a lot about a man in general if he has an ED issue and does not see it as an urgent health issue to be addressed. What kind of laissez fair attitude. I mean I would assume the guy is lacking some intelligence and thought for u as well.....if it was that serious he should of got it looked at & discussed it with you since it affects your sex life. Pls don't tolerate that again, bc the man made you feel bad, guilty or obligated. This is how men lure women into settling where u don't need to be
[–]modernmedusaaRuthless Strategist6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
They are in denial and feel entitled to a woman’s emotional labour instead of taking direct action /going to the doctors
This is why they don’t pick up a phone & call a therapist for their emotional problems either
Most think women are their replacement mothers- do they fuck their mothers tho??
[–]numberfourbackinshow1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
However we as the 'other half' of the sexual act need to also not add harm to the situation. There are plenty of things they can do instead...I mean we have all had 5 hour sex sessions with no penetration right? There is sooo sooo sooo much more to do than just focus on a hard dick.
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[–]modernmedusaaRuthless Strategist0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
what are you talking about. You don't even know what I look like :\
sorry but athletic men who workout 3-5 x a week are just better in bed....this is hardly a revelation..just like athletic people tend to be better at winning races
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The problem with waiting months to hookup, as I normally do, is that MAJORITY of those men have E.D. or some really bizarre issue. One they've supposedly had forever.
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I feel uncomfortable hooking up right away. I used to and then every man called me an easy wh**e and then committed to someone else. This happens to women who are curvy but thin and have the por*star look. I have big boobs naturally, a doll face naturally, and am slender. I am always told I look like a por*star despite not wearing much makeup or revealing clothing. Because of this, whenever I hookup with a guy too quick, he treats me like a wh**e. Sometimes even calls me one.
So again, I like to get to know a guy for about 3 months before hooking up.
I meet men all the time. Everytime I go out, someone is approaching me. Grocery store, gas station, at events. Everywhere. Even when I try to look frumpy lol, they still do it. The more tshirt and jeans with no makeup situations, the more often I'm approached, and its because its less intimidating. So I have absolutely no issue meeting men I'd date. I meet several a week. I guess that's not uncommon when living in a big city just because there's so many people.
I have had sex with tons of guys, and yes they have all played me. "You're my little por*star!" "You are WILD in bed I'm gonna come over and f*ck!!!!!" All sorts of comments after the first time we hookup, even if I have them wait several months. Then I have to cut them off.
I've had tons of guys lie and say they're in a relationship with me just to hookup. Even ones who I dated for months and I thought we were in one. Nope. They had a girlfriend, they were still secretly seeing other girls, all sorts of situations.
I got a reputation at the last place I lived and had to move away. Everyone gossiped that I was secretly a prost*tute and that's how I was so incredibly wealthy. When in reality I inherited from 3 deceased family members who had no kids, and I make 170k as a physician assistant which is like an advanced practice nurse, working 3 12 hour shifts a week so it looks like I'm never working to people. Everyone seems to think there's either "a nurse or a doctor" and "a nurse" is a dinky doctor assistant that makes minimum wage. Even though salary info is on google.
So yeah, I'm kind of stuck. I get screwed over no matter what I do, and yeah now I'm in my 30s and still never had a boyfriend.
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At 26 I was right where you were. Now in my 30s, I'm still single awaiting my first boyfriend.
I date men 35-45 and am still played. Slept with TONS of men because they all wait 3+ months to hookup and say they want a relationship, often calling me their gf when I'm clearly not (hooking up with other women secretly).
I have dated well over 100 guys in my lifetime and they were all players.
These guys don't talk sexually before a good 3 months when it gets to that point, or they get blocked. They lie. We do get to know each other slowly.
If you want a seriously relationship, I highly urge you not to date below 40 in today's world. Or late 30s at best. Most men don't purposely have kids until 45-50, at least not in LA.
Single balding alcoholics at 40 who are broke still have dozens of women swarming them in LA. Even the 50 year old ones are still being swarmed by hot 32 year old women with good jobs. This is why its such a problem. Men have too many options.
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I've never had a boyfriend, so no Im not really focused on men. I make 170k as a physician assistant (like a physician but the nursing path to that), had a professional modeling career, have traveling the world, working toward doctorate, making art on the side for fun, tons and tons of hobbies I have always had.
Men in LA don't settle down until 40-50, most often around 45. I am in my 30s so I tend to date 35-45 with the goal being somewhere in early 40s (but you don't always know someones age right away). However, I have been played by multiple 47 year olds.
Men in LA, even average looking, don't have to settle down because they can be broke and still hookup with multiple gorgeous wealthy women at once who will stick around forever hoping for a relationship.
There are gorgeous, fit, education, wealthy women everywhere in LA, and California as a whole. Even nurses make 6 figures. Many model/actress types from massively wealthy families or daughters of actors.
The only reason I'm focused on men now is because I have everything I could ever want, inherited from 3 deceased relatives so I could quit my job right now and never have to work again (but I find fulfillment out of my work), and I want to have kids, which I've always wanted. I'm in my 30s. I don't have forever to wait. The next step would be a sperm bank, but I really wanted to experience what its like to have a boyfriend.
[–]s_slayerFDS STRATEGY COACH12 points13 points14 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’m quite a bit older than you ladies and I feel for you! The younger I’ve gone, the worse they’ve been, but it’s been bad enough in my own age group. I was actually with a man who had untreated ED for 3 years. Yes, I went without sex with him that whole time. He was really repressed too but he was super attracted to me, go figure. Drank and would kiss me enthusiastically for hours but that was the extent of it. It was all really weird (and frustrating). I learned to get to know my toys pretty well, sadly. Don’t be afraid to bring them to the party, you’re probably going to need them 😒.
[–]nutshitFDS Disciple13 points14 points15 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
THIS!!!! I was going thru a hoe phase after a break up and it’s mind blowing how many don’t know how to please, ive only encountered 2!!
[–]AdAstra9191FDS Apprentice2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’m scared for the future of all humanity. What the hell is going on on our planet, fuckig hell....
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[–]TheChestHairComeback-3 points-2 points-1 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
There’s your answer
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[–]AdAstra9191FDS Apprentice2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I have never had an uncircumcised boyfriend but I would love to have one. I’ve read a lot of articles online that talk about how men who are uncircumcised feel more bonded to their women compared to men who are circumcised.
[–]AdAstra9191FDS Apprentice2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Here are some links from my bookmarks: https://sciencenordic.com/denmark-gender-hiv/male-circumcision-leads-to-a-bad-sex-life/1371590
www.circumcision.org/harmswomen.htm
I have to go find the rest of my bookmarks on this after I finish running my errands.
Circumcision is child abuse, plain and simple. The people who think it’s okay to chop off foreskin will say, “oh but it’s just a piece of skin”. It’s not “just a piece of skin”. If it’s “just a piece of skin” then so is our fuckin eyelid but we don’t want to go chopping that off too now do we? The foreskin is there for a reason. Nature didn’t make a mistake with the way our bodies were designed to function.
A man can easily pull back his foreskin and clean his dick and it’s no more difficult than brushing his teeth, so folks who say circumcision is for hygienic reasons are delusional.
Nope. Had an uncircumcised lover, maybe it feels better honestly, but after the sex we just knew we were not compatible and went our separate ways.
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[–]sparkledobbins8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
GTFO
[–]miqotesPickmeisha™️19 points20 points21 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
It took 4 years of dating to find an amazing dude with his shit together in the area I moved to and this is an extremely densely populated city.
[–]AdAstra9191FDS Apprentice1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Damn, I am happy for you. I hope to find my beau someday pretty soon!!
[–]ATacoTree0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Maybe the best men aren’t raised in densely populated cities...
[–]bluecat678New11 points12 points13 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I had a dickhead tell me I was too old to be in the dating pool to get a decent man. It fucked my head up.
[–]s_slayerFDS STRATEGY COACH3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Aww! I’m 45 and a 37 yr old guy is head over heels for me. I’ve known many successful relationships where the woman was 10 years older. My ex husband and ex bf who still loves me are both 3 yrs younger than me. Older woman relationships can be incredibly successful and rewarding.
[–]bluecat678New0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That’s awesome
[–]bluecat678New-1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Seems I’ve had a few years of dickheads recently
[–][deleted] 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (16 children) | Copy Link
This is SO TRUE! But even the "sensitive" guys are always sociopaths or use that as a fake hustle to gain your trust to hookup. They ALL LIE and say they want a relationship when they don't.
[–]throwawway20915 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link
exactly they can lie to our face about wanting a relationship then once they fuck us they leave. Important not to put out too soon.
[–]modernmedusaaRuthless Strategist5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
But a man (in todays world) waiting 3months to have sex with you doesn't mean much...he could quite possibly be having discreet sex with other girls on his roster (on apps)...but is enjoying the chase with you
if a guy is immature he is going to keep his best game face on until he gets the sex, pretend he is after more up until he gets the 'prize', its the oldest trick in the book
however I think the context of him waiting REALLY matters imo. For example, if its a guy from a club, him trying it for months.. I would be wary....but if its a guy at your university, or works in close proximity to you (sees you often)...aka he's around you enough for you to find out shit...he is more likely to be waiting cos he wants more.
but you can never be 100% sure of a guys intentions, until you've had sex, and seen him for a while imo. How they act AFTER the sex is to me more important than how they act before they get it
Before, they could be saying anything
After, you will know whether u have sexual chemistry, whether he was just in it for the kill, whether he sees you as longterm material. Few men will make longterm decisions on a woman they haven't slept with
[–]throwawway20910 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
yes very true!
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
I don't hookup before 3 months. They wait that long. Last guy waited 7 months. And these guys never ever ever ever leave. They just don't commit, or they mislead me and try to back pedal after like 8 months.
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[–]throwawway20911 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
are you really trying me right now?
[–]IntoxicatedOrange3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I'm just giving you one perspective
[–]RPWthrowaway72 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hey I’m not a dude but I think I get what he’s saying. Obviously, if a guy is relationship-minded, he will wait to have sex when you’re comfortable with him, but putting an arbitrary number of 3 months on it is pretty much unreasonable to a lot of guys since you might seem like you aren’t attracted to him. Unless you’re a teenager or something and sexually inexperienced, or your dating pool is a bunch of conservative Christians, that won’t fly with a high-value man. Anyway the guy won’t commit unless he both really likes you, and the sex is good. I’m pretty sure a lot of guys will become uninterested in a girl they have sex with just because it wasn’t good at all.
[–][deleted] -4 points-3 points-2 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I used to have sex fast and everyone called me a sl*t and I got a reputation and had to move away. Its why I've been with more than 50 guys. They used me when I was clear I'm looking for a relationship. I'm WILLLLLLD in bed. Whatever he wants, he gets as I believe women are there to serve men.
I look like a pornstar. I'm 110 lbs, huge boobs (natural) and a face like a doll. I didn't choose this. I don't wear a lot of makeup. I don't dress revealing. I have super long hair down to my butt, but I don't personally think I look good with short hair.
[–]s_slayerFDS STRATEGY COACH12 points13 points14 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You sound really insecure. Women are not there to serve men. Given your sex doll description (gag), gonna guess you’re a man posting.
[–][deleted] -3 points-2 points-1 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm extremely secure. I'm gorgeous, talented, and have really high self esteem.
Not a man, nope.
[–]IntoxicatedOrange0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Hmm I don't know then. Since you said that method is not working because they just wait and then still only want to hook up... aside from sex what else do you do when you go on dates with them that puts them off having a relationship with you? Clearly it's not the sex, so there must be something else they see as a deal breaker for a relationship.
A few ideas I have are: 1. Maybe you give guys the impression that you'll be too emotionally needy without being there for them in the same capacity. Could happen if you're asking for their emotional support too soon or too often, or even not asking but just talking about your own stresses/problems without asking how they are a lot or trying to truly listen to them / find out about them enough. 2. They feel like they have to invest more in you than you are in them, For example if they always have to pay for dates, or always have to pick you up and drive you somewhere, or always plan what you do together. Some guys might like this but I think most want it more balanced. 3. Could they feel worried about being able to "keep you" in a relationship? I'm not saying you actually would sleep with with other guys or leave them for another guy if someone better comes, but maybe they're getting that impression somehow.
[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
you sound anything but humble tbh :/
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm listing facts about myself.
[–]chintan224 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You discounted the social retards.
[–]ariesv123FDS Newbie15 points16 points17 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
i’m 17 and the dating pool is already like this :y A lot of the good ones seem to be taken. Either that or fools’ gold shines just as much :/
[–]FadedPariah0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
How’s that working out for you?
[–]modernmedusaaRuthless Strategist0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
how you mean?
[–]miqotesPickmeisha™️4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not everyone is gay, but there is a lot to be said about having a friend who you can be around very often if not everyday and feel happy.
Although I think everyone needs a great friend like that.
[–]daniii__d1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Accurate
[–]RubberyLogwood1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
How do I know where I fall in these options
[–]UltraBunnyBoostST0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Take a good, honest look at yourself. Think of your sexual history. Any of these things punching you in the gut?
[–]AntSharing0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Bolt of you to assume I have a sexual history
[–]bluecat678New1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
OMG have I needed to see this this week.
[–]island_hoppingFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
totally have known or dated 4 of the 5
[–]MuleFool420 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
LOL. So true, I love this. This world is swirling down the toilet.
[–]midiland0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thank you for boosting my confidence as a hard working business/homeowner with financial security and moderate emotional awareness. I am way ahead of the game. This is a very informative subreddit.
[–]FrickMoneyGetBitches0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This says a lot about our society 🧐
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[–]AnniaTFDS Disciple23 points24 points25 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
And you're on FEMALE dating strategy sub why?
[–]TheOGJammiesRuthless Strategist[S,M] 16 points17 points18 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Go cry somewhere else
[–]CosmicSpiral0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
The word is in quotations for a reason. "Sensitive" serves as a placeholder for a set of behavioral traits that are flat-out unattractive for women: indecisive, unambitious, unable to modulate emotions, feeling entitled to affection and comfort without reciprocation, etc.
[–]AverageGenZ0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ohhh, I see
[–]TheOGJammiesRuthless Strategist[S,M] 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
We don’t care
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[–]twoXfeministRuthless Strategist13 points14 points15 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
you guys are so mean here!!!!!!
Triggered man spotted. Another mission accomplished, ladies. ☺️
[–]sparkledobbins8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Moids are so over emotional and easily triggered.
[–]modernmedusaaRuthless Strategist2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lmaoooo there is no bigger pin to a mans ego than women discussing ED!!!
9/10 times they’ve caused it themselves. No sympathy..
Lmfao if this is your 'mission' as a Redditor - which, judging by your comment history, it is - you must lead a saaaaaaaaad, sad, lonely life. just get high
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[–]MachikoKyoFDS Newbie12 points13 points14 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
People treat diseases, don't they? Do you think someone who is an alcoholic should just give up and not even bother to try to stop drinking?
[–]wentzuries-1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
No but that’s what I’m saying you wouldn’t put “alcoholics” on a list like this because that’s a serious issue and not just a version of a douche bag
[–]MachikoKyoFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think it's fine to say that you don't want to date an alcoholic.
It's one thing to tolerate someone as a human being, but people can set whatever standards/boundaries they need for what they're looking for in a significant other.
[–][deleted] 17 points18 points19 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
You can absolutely stop being addicted to porn.
[+]wentzuries-7 points-6 points-5 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
But it’s not easy? I mean you can stop being addicted to anything if you put it that way
[–][deleted] 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Yeah. You can. Plus quitting porn doesn’t cause physical withdrawals, seizures, or death.
[–]wentzuries-5 points-4 points-3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It’s still a psychological addiction? My point anyways was that isn’t a fair thing to label someone as “undateable” like these other people
[–][deleted] 10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Porn addicts are undateable just like I’m not going to date a crack addict. We can refuse to date addicts. Addicts are undateable.
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