Digital boundaries are just as important as ones IRL!!

Pasdepromesses · 2020-07-20T18:33:16+00:00

That's not even mean. For men, that's the polite version of disagreeing with someone.

naamshiko · 2020-07-20T19:38:43+00:00

From my experience that actually makes them crazy (if they’re not complete LVM entitled jerks but I do not entertain those to begin with). I enforced boundaries super coldly with men in the past months and not only did they give me immediate, REAL apologies but they also admitted they respected even more me after that and chased even harder although they are the kind of men that have no problem finding women.

In conclusion PROTECT YOUR BOUNDARIES it’ll make the trash take itself out and the actual men will be impressed.

TrueExtent · 2020-07-20T20:27:35+00:00

Yes. And have you ever noticed that the people who would consider this mean (it's not) are completely fine with hurting you, gaslighting you and treating you badly? Not protecting your boundaries only worsens that imbalance.

manisfestationqueen · 2020-07-20T21:27:53+00:00

When they realize you are no longer of use to them, they will walk away. Works for fake friends too!

cmore_money · 2020-07-20T18:12:05+00:00

They love this

Newwavesupport3657 · 2020-07-20T21:45:05+00:00

I have a hard time when I set boundaries and someone asks me if I’m Ok in response to me being online less. I feel like I have to assure them and respond like a compulsion. Because it makes me feel guilty. Working on it but struggling .

SpentHis_MilfMoney · 2020-07-20T22:18:14+00:00

As for men (if that applies to you) who want to suck up time digitally--stop them. Not worth it. You can get a number of things done in the amount of time spent texting/chatting for hours on end.

They will keep you tied up throughout an entire day.

xNayxNayx · 2020-07-21T01:20:58+00:00

I do this like it’s no tomorrow! I don’t have time for that bullshit. Come correct or don’t come at fucking all. I look at it this way: if my boundaries around safety, for example, hurt your feelings then you NEVER respected me or even had the capacity to respect me. One guy got all in his feelings when I wouldn’t give him my number on Tinder. I told him it goes like this: we talk on the app and if there is chemistry, we video chat. If there is chemistry there too, we can meet up for a socially distanced date at the place of my choosing. THEN you get the phone number or Instagram. That’s the game and I don’t bend. I keep in mind that a HVM will take me at my pace.

But you better believe Nay Nay is NOT:

who you chat up when work is slow but disappear after
your late night boredom cure
the girl you “good morning beautiful!” or “wyd” to death

I tell them: get a hobby besides playing in my face bruh. And they better hope I’m having a good day the moment I get the sense that they’re attempting to play games and waste my time because I’m petty and I will not lose lol.

2020-07-20T20:02:47+00:00

This is my first line of defense against fuckboys tbh. If it’s mean to respect yourself then I’m 100% evil.

bbch2019 · 2020-07-21T00:16:02+00:00

I love blocking people that have done me dirty, no hesitation whatsoever.

sunstar176 · 2020-07-21T01:00:31+00:00

The more I've started doing this in all aspects of my life, the better I feel. It's a powerful thing to respect your own boundaries, but it's a muscle some of us need practice flexing.

2020-07-20T20:33:44+00:00

Yup, always

sunshades91 · 2020-07-21T01:53:31+00:00

Ok then, that was always an option.

Infinite_Syllabuss · 2020-07-21T06:09:16+00:00

I really needed to see this today. Thanks ❤

ipulloffblack2 · 2020-07-21T07:34:38+00:00

Did this recently. Can confirm, it feels great. I’ve never been more relieved.

OhBoyMomx2 · 2020-07-21T14:38:16+00:00

You have to keep your boundaries and make them loud and clear from the beginning. Men try to see how much they can get away with from the start. I had one guy I met on OLD ask me out to eat his cultural cuisine. As the day got closer, he wanted to change it to going running with him at the park....(???) I told him why would I want to go running when I just met him. He tried to make it sound like I was high maintenance and that he just wanted to spend quality time with me....I cancelled that date immediately and moved on to someone who would value me.

Title	Digital boundaries are just as important as ones IRL!!
Author	stillcantsee
Upvotes	1505
Comments	26
Date	July 20, 2020 6:00 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/huq4zr/digital_boundaries_are_just_as_important_as_ones/
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