Should I cut off the boys or am I being dramatic

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July 20, 2020
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Couple of my close “boys” decided it would be funny to send a girl I’m trying to get into my rotation some embarrassing pictures of me.

It didn’t really affects anything with the girl as I held frame when she told me she has the pictures.

The problem is should I cut off these guys that I’ve known for quite a bit? Because I honestly feel like real friends wouldn’t do such shit and feel disrespected.

I also feel it’s because they’re jealous because I’m the only guy in the friendgroup that gets girls.

What would y’all do id like to hear thanks


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Title Should I cut off the boys or am I being dramatic
Author fullsendham
Upvotes 158
Comments 120
Date 20 July 2020 11:25 AM UTC (9 months ago)
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[–]Nighthawk_Black_168 points169 points  (9 children) | Copy

Your friends sound like their jealous. I don't think I would let them know it bothered you but at the same time I think I wouldn't be trusting them to much.

[–]fullsendham[S] 57 points58 points  (8 children) | Copy

I’m going to push my self away slowly

[–]deeznutsbeswingin87 points88 points  (5 children) | Copy

Unfortunately, this is the move. As you continue to better yourself, your friends get more and more butthurt and eventually will start sabotaging you. I’ve run into this before as well.. it’s sad but we’re really all still chimpanzees.

In a chimp tribe the dominant male would beat the fuck out of the omega for messing with him, but that’s frowned upon with humans so best move is to just move on. Just make sure you continue to make new friends so you never get stuck alone... I’ve done that to myself a few times and it sucks. Currently looking for a new crew

[–]NikolaFingarov17 points18 points  (1 child) | Copy

"Crabs in a bucket". I've experienced it and am experiencing it right now. Nothing you can do except ditching the crabs, which are trying to pull you down, because they are jealous of your achievements, accomplishments and most importantly - your progress.

What sucks the most is that even your childhood friends will be jealous and try to undermine you or pull you down.

[–]BlondeHornyElf8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

It happened to me recently where I was blatantly disrespected by a childhood friend - a friend I genuinely loved and trusted. He went behind my back and humiliated me when he 100% knew that I wouldn't want to be put in a bad situation without knowing what's going on. And when I called him out on it he acted like it was nothing. He pretended like he was totally innocent, despite it being obvious that he was withholding information from me.

As pathetic as it sounds, "one-upping" and disrespecting a trusted friend might be the only power available to some beta cucks out there.

[–]rockyp324 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sad thing is most of the time it’s not even intentional. I hate bullies but thinking back I treated kids that were “lower” than me just like how the bullies treated me but i wasn’t even aware of it

But realizing that I think the idea to bully really just stems from looking at someone and knowing they can and should be better. So it’s almost like a shame to get people to improve but most don’t take it as such

[–]babybopp11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeap exit.

[–]DerpJungler9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't show them that their action got to your head though. It's normal that it did, but remain stoic about it. That will actually teach them to not fuck w you.

Expand your circle and find some new mates slowly before cutting ties with them. Spontaneous isolation is dangerous even for strong people.

[–]misfithustle290 points291 points  (3 children) | Copy

Definitely. They basically tried to cock block and sound like fuckin losers no offense.

[–]fullsendham[S] 48 points49 points  (2 children) | Copy

I agree with you

[–]Joe_Doblow5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

And it’s not that your boys are beta either, I know alpha types who do this type of stuff. They’ll tell the girl you’re both after, “oh yea joe he’d fuck anything” to make you look like a scrub. I know friends who send embarrassing pics and use it to each other’s advantage, it all depends on dynamics. Some teams use drama or hijinks to get closer to the girls because there is so much competition that it brings the attention on you. But this sounds like hate what happened to you

[–]misfithustle7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

That isn't alpha

[–]skorpion777792 points93 points  (10 children) | Copy

Sound like some horsing around due to your young age. Teenagers sometimes do things without thinking them through. You did well. Just hold frame. No need to break contact. You'll look butthurt. Keep it in mind for the next time and if you worry about such things look that such photos are only locally stored on your own device!

[–]fullsendham[S] 29 points30 points  (5 children) | Copy

Yeah I know we’re 16 and I’d say I’m more mature than them forsure.

Thanks though gonna probably just not be as close as we used to be

[–]Flesh_Pillow514 points15 points  (3 children) | Copy

Leave them man. You do indeed sound more mature.

[–]fullsendham[S] 15 points16 points  (2 children) | Copy

Going through a lot at a young age makes you more mature on it’s own and finding trp on top of that was helpful.

Thanks man

[–]Flesh_Pillow54 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Glad you found it. You have a lot of potential to unlock. Don't forget to stay on your purpose in life and to save money. Look into precious metals as a store of value too.

[–]fullsendham[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks man means a lot. forsure will look into it

[–]TheGoblinTurkey1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah just gonna happen at that age, best thing is to act like you don't give a fuck. Never ever look like you care. Even if you cut them off, don't make a thing of it.

[–]11-Eleven-115 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

Who the fuck cares if he looks butthurt or not? Like honestly, who cares if he looks butthurt in front of the friends he's dumping? Are you saying he should keep trying to impress the people that went behind his back and embarassed him? Op if I were you I would at the very least tell them what they did was not ok in the slightest and if it happens again you'll rethink your friendship. If they can't respect that then they aren't your friends.

[–]fullsendham[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Exactly what I did but was a bit more aggresive (told him if he wants to risk it he should try that again) got an apology out of him

[–]Seddit bloop dispenserWjourney1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

So its over then

[–]HellSpeed9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

No. That was toxic behaviour. The friends tried to sabotage him. Period. They probably still see him as in the middle or bottom of the group. I bet their is a ring leader who instigated it. I would call them out face to face on their shitty behaviour. The ring leader will probably speak up and tell him to 'relax, it was just a joke bro'. This is the time when you can challenge him, put him down, and snatch leadership of the group. Alpha style. It's a forgivable offense, if op wants, but you need to call them out and make sure they know it was a shitty thing to do and that if they fuck with you there will be consequences. This is an opportunity.

Too many people say things like 'you'll look butthurt'. But that's because they don't know how to display dominance. You're only 'butthurt' if you whine and complain. If you set boundaries and remain stoic, you look like a leader/alpha.

[–]TRP VanguardWhisper18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't hang out with bucket crabs.

[–]Nero921412 points13 points  (2 children) | Copy

I wouldn't do anything deliberately, as in going out your way to make an effort to cut ties. Friends come and go naturally, the true ones will be around forever with no effort needed to keep them.

HOWEVER...if these pics were proper bad, as in you naked or doing something weird and it wasn't sent to her as a 'joke' (you'll know if it's their humour or not) then fuck them. Traitors.

[–]fullsendham[S] 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Nah they just dumb pictures of me as a kid and such.

Yet now my other friend is asking if I’m mad at them n shit I told him I’m not mad they’re just childish

[–]Nero921410 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

In that case, who cares. You're 16, all of you are immature in terms of who you are going to be in the future. You'll be ahead of them in that regard, but if it's just pics of you as a kid just tease them for being jealous.

[–]Killljoys139 points10 points  (4 children) | Copy

How old are your 'boys'? Sounds like something that me and my friends used to do when we were 14 or 16 out of jealousy in the name of prank.

[–]fullsendham[S] 11 points12 points  (3 children) | Copy

Yup 16 my other friend told me the guy that sent the pictures was jealous cuz he tried getting the girl before and she didn’t give him the time of day.

[–]MrSelfDestructXX14 points15 points  (1 child) | Copy

Fuck that jealous guy. He’s not your friend.

[–]l1ght-6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah man that one guy is an issue, the rest I think cannot hold too much blame. He will attempt to prevent every available opportunity for you to excel, whatever the field.

[–]Taipoe1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yea that jealous guy seems to be the only problem, I wouldn’t drop the whole group but dont try to associate yourself with that one guy

[–]glowing_dolphins45 points46 points  (5 children) | Copy

At 16, I’d keep the friends. Play your cards close with women though. They don’t need to know who you’re into. It only generates problems.

[–]fullsendham[S] 16 points17 points  (4 children) | Copy

I agree I’m going to keep quiet about my plans and what I’m going through in the future

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

My initial thought was cut them off but reading your age makes me think otherwise. My boys have done worse to me and I've done worse to them at that age, if anything it's what you'll laugh about in 5-10 years time if you're still tight - you won't even remember the girl's name.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

Law #14: Pose as a friend, work as a spy.

[–]Seddit bloop dispenserWjourney6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Snake

[–]fullsendham[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I fw that

[–]cglehosit25 points26 points  (0 children) | Copy

You’re 16, learn this now: shut the fuck up about your women and you won’t have to worry about your bros trying to fuck around with you, and more importantly you won’t have to worry about other women trying to mess with shit.

You also give her plausible deniability. Now quite whining, lift some weights, and read the sidebar.

[–]idevastate6 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy

What "boys" would do that? Your boys should be there to have your back. I mean purposefully screwing with my intimate life? That's real fucking out of place. I'd start looking for new high value pals as you phase out of this group of betas.

[–]Seddit bloop dispenserWjourney1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Not that serious dude boys will be boys

[–]idevastate2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

For now it's that because they're young, but that's the same type of friend that later in life will try to hook up with your girl.

[–]fullsendham[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Will forsure do that

[–]rn78895 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Never. Ever ever ever ever ever let your boys know when basic horsing around makes you feel butthurt. Setting boundaries and being butthurt are two different things. You take it in stride. Otherwise it’ll be picked on for the entirety of your relationship.

[–]Seddit bloop dispenserWjourney1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Seriously they will keep doing it if they get a reaction

[–]TheLawsOfPower4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

It didn’t really affects anything with the girl as I held frame when she told me she has the pictures.

I'm new to TRP, can I ask how did you hold your frame? maybe something like that will happen to me, I did some stupid dance and my friends recorded it. My friends are really jealous, if they send to a girl I like or to some girls, What should I do?

The dance is really not appropriate with my ideology and my personality, it makes me look like stupid, I'm confused, don't know what to do!!

[–]fullsendham[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Laugh it off like for example when she sent me what he sent her I responded with “haha that’s funny” and switched the conversation

Just shrug it off like it doesn’t bother you because they’re trying to test if it bothers you or not

[–]Taipoe1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You play it off as if it doesn’t phase you or affect you at all

[–]pebblefromwell2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

As the old saying goes "trust yet verify". As you will find moving through life only a very few people will be worthy your trust. I will also say none of the good friends I have now 20 years out of high school are any if the good friends I had in high school

[–]Wants permission to daternsbrum2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Punish them and set your boundaries. Make sure to let them know what your limits are.

[–]fullsendham[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Told the kid I don’t care but I told him to try it again if he thinks he’s being funny and he apologized

[–]Aspanu242 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

To me, if people can’t be trusted they’re not your friends. Just remember that for next time, and possibly return the favor should the opportunity arise.

[–]fullsendham[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I talked to the guy that sent the pictures and put him in his place he apologized I’m just not going to be as close

[–]zephenrage2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

This is how it starts. Jealousy provoked sabotage. If they’re getting jealous enough to sabotage you things are going to get uglier. Remember, you are a combination of the 5 people you hang out with the most. If these losers are resorting to sabotage then its time to leave them in the dust as you continue on your mission.

[–]fullsendham[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I’m moving schools so I’m sure I’m going to end up leaving these guys and finding people that are higher value

[–]MagnumBurrito2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Soft next them lol

[–]Thoth_X2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

They arent your friends. Friends may shit talk to your face in private but they always prop you up around others even when you are not around. Those guys are snakes. They damn sure dont respect you. Think of someone you look up to. Would their friends pull that mess?

[–]Don_Draper271 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You should be hanging out with other high value men. If your social circle doesn’t boost your MV then you’re hurting yourself.

[–]gijoemaximus1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

This sub is really getting young judged by the questions that are asked here. Very lucky to have found TRP at such a young age

[–]fullsendham[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks man, yeah it is very helpful, everything just almost clicks, and it’s amazing watching people at school wandering around lost without a purpose

[–]Krebota1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Ironically, this happened with the guy that introduced me to TRP. He went even further to thrashtalk me for his own benefit and get an LTR with the girl I was dating (my earlier TRP days so I made a lot of mistakes too). I pushed myself away from him since I was going to a different city anyway, and my friends hung out with him a bit more but don't really care about him now either. He's now addicted to weed (literally can't function without it) and went from being able to fuck anyone to a fat girlfriend that's also addicted to weed and from what I've seen he's basically the bitch in the LTR. It's almost satisfying.

What I'm trying to say is just revert your focus. I'm guessing those boys are part of a friend group and you can simply try to stick more with others... or you find new friends. Just ignore it but know that you should pick any other friend over them when required, and they'll slowly disappear from your life. And if they're as bad as my guy, they'll mess up their own life just fine.

[–]fullsendham[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It won’t be the end of the world for me if I slowly move away from these betas i know a lot of people around my district of schools. These guys need me more than I need them

[–]FuzzCod1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

You handled it well, you might even stand out for her now since you didn't give a fuck. Also, I just saw that you're 16 and your mate apologized afterwards.

Also finding TRP at such young age, you're halfway there mate.

[–]fullsendham[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Wdym by halfway there? What’s the next step of you don’t mind explaining.

I currently lift and I play rugby and do kick boxing, I’m interested in business too but everyone is telling me it’s too early to start making money even though I think it’s not. I’d just like to find a way to and somewhere to learn it I just don’t feel like waiting till university

[–]FuzzCod1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

The first step to unplugging from the matrix is being aware that we are living in a feminized matrix. Just knowing how the world works, you still got so much time to learn and when you're 20 you'll be smashing life.

And yeah man, read books I think. And just start, people will judge in the beginning. But just wait until you get that fuck you money.

That shit will raise your SMV like crazy. I also do kickbox, really great sport. If I ever have a kid (a boy) I'll try and push him towards kickboxing at a young age.

[–]fullsendham[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Definitely going to start reading more I think it’s worth it to grind now so I can have a good time later on.

Any books you would suggest?

[–]FuzzCod1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I've read

Rational male (start here) - Rollo Tomassi

The subtle art of not giving a f*** - Mark manson

Modals - Mark manson

Currently reading the little book of stoicism. And recently purchased No Mr. Nice Guy.

All great books so far, really depends what you want to read more about. I wanted to learn a bit more about game so I read modals, and now little book of stoicism because it's really summarised and it are stoic principles applied on modern life which is what I want, not the old history.

[–]fullsendham[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks a lot man I’ll forsure look into all of these I think my dad has the subtle art in his home library I’ll probably start with it

[–]recursoinominado1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I would soft next them.

In my own teenage years, I put up with so much bullshit from my friends because was lonely and didn't had any abundance mentality. Not needed to say that i had low self-esteem and consistently hanging out with people that disrespected me just perpetuated the issue.

It is better to be alone than with bad company.

[–]NiceSetupYeahNice1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If she is into you shouldn't be a problem, if they knew your plan and tried to sabotage however fuck them. What type of picture where they

[–]nemakrstabeztriprsta1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

bruh keep them u have more benefits with than without them...

[–]MR37901 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Bros taking down bros are not bros. Real friends try and lift you up and want to see you succeed.

[–]RedDeAngelo1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hilariously, I had the opposite happen, where one of my friends sent an embarrassing photo of me to a girl he was dating, shortly after, they werent seeing each other anymore. I couldnt care less, cos she was just a stranger to me anyways.

[–]PattyFlash4MePls1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I hate that shit ay, my friends have done it before.

Tell them that shits not cool and it feels like they are trying to cock block you.

If they double down or keep doing it, just distance yourself from them as friends but know that some friends just immature at that age and that’s their way of joking around.

Also try not to involve girls with your boys unless they’re cool / you can actually trust them.

[–]jh18711 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don’t talk much about girls to them. They have to know about this girl from you in order to prank you with her. Just don’t talk to them about girls anymore, but keep your social circle strong. definitely don’t trust everyone with knowledge of your female efforts.

[–]ColdBeing1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes, friends know to stay out of your business

[–]Burton9696961 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Honestly bro’s fuck with each other, but there’s a difference between a prank and trying to sabotage what you have going on. If they do too much of this shit regularly you may wanna re think the friends you keep

[–]BigDog669771 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

What fucking losers.

[–]Taipoe1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

At 16 friends will do some dumb shit without thinking so it’s your choice on what to do but definitely don’t tell them the girls you are talking to in the future

[–]mrrooftops1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

They're either trying to move you or reaffirming your real position in your friend group hierarchy. I'd say the latter and I'm sure it's not the first time they thought they could get away with this type of low-status positioning behaviour

[–]BlondeHornyElf1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'd probably call them out on it and judge how they react. If they acknowledge that it was a shitty thing to do I'd let go of it but still be mindful that they carry resentments underneath. If they don't own up to it, I'd phase them out as friends ya.

I've had a lot of beta-male friends sell me out over the years for stupid shit. You have to be careful with people like that. It's easy to imagine that you're so alpha that nothing could ever hurt you, but if people betray you at the wrong time it can cause a lot of damage to your life (e.g., career, relationships, investments, reputation, etc). You can work to build something for years and it all goes down the drain in an instant because one of the people you're trusting detonates the situation for some petty short-sighted reason. Some people are just born to fail.

So be mindful of people when you sense a hint of jealousy or dishonesty, or even just weakness.

Your enemies can attack you, but your friends can betray you.

[–]BarbellsAndBicarb1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lmao what a bunch of fucking clowns

[–]Brushyourteethm81 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Gut instinct: was it in good humour and they'd wingman you or was it a passive cock block attempt?

Sounds like crabs in a bucket response to me.

I've dropped several guys over the last 2 years and it can be lonely as you then don't have a crowd.

I've kept busy though lifting, reading, cycling etc and have tried out new guy mates - I now have a few quality friends who I have much more in common with and we have each other's backs.

Trust your gut - you know what you have to do.

Edit: Just seen that you're 16 - mate, I wish I knew what I do now when I were 16. Join a boxing gym and maybe a coding club etc and just become too busy for them.

[–]fullsendham[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks a lot, I play rugby, kick boxing, and lift. I’m also slowly reading about business.

[–]Per_Horses61 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Cut em off. Jealous guys make it easy tbh. They’ll be so salty you left and would blow you for you to come back. Know your worth brother

[–]GoldAlfalfa1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

They sound like little bitches. Remember, you can’t make anyone swallow the red pill, you can only try to show them the light. They have to experience it themselves.

[–]WhatRemainsAfter1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

What's friendship where they can't tease you and run some pranks?!

If that girl is not your LTR, why bother and make this an issue? If she is a plate, then more so why are you so bothered for a fuckin' pussy?

If it is any issue with boys, Punish them but don't break things off. That's immature and high on emotions shit.

I would run a bigger prank and let them know, I am the dawg.

Be wise. You got it. Cheers!

[–]fullsendham[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah it is abt the boys not the girl I set boundaries with them and it’s good now

[–]warthundersfw1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fucke her in the ass

[–]Number1sun1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nah dude these fuckers here a cold, use your words like a man and bring up the issue and discuss it in a chill setting and make honesty the theme, discussions with the boys are far different than with chicks, dudes are loyal

[–]WyldeCutter1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

They are dogging you and you're taking it way too seriously. This is the worst part of red-pill shit is it turns young men into rocks who take every joke or tease as "disrespect". Who gives a fuck, own that shit and fuck.

[–]FlumpyLol1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Bro one thing I learned if you hang around dudes with no game they will also try to cock block you get some new buddies

[–]saladpurple1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't take it seriously, have some fun. But its good you're perceiving things at such a young age. Keep it up! Just don't forget to have some fun!

[–]rockyp321 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Depends but if there close friends I would talk to them about it. A lot of the time I. Those situations we act subconsciously. We’re telling ourselves oh it’s just a funny prank but deep down it’s driven by jealously. Sometimes people need a remind.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

They sound like fuckin losers to be honest. That’s cringe, kick em out

[–]strongsovereign1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Evidently, if they’re behaving like this, you’re the man in the group. You should part ways with them, not because you took the situation personally, but because their behaviour signifies envy and immaturity.

Your very act of dropping them will make them respect you. A real alpha does not identify with the pack, for he stands above and beyond it.

[–]DasWolffy1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I've had similar happen. There's a co-worker that talks shit and puts me down when there are single women around. The more women, the harder her goes. I pretend he isn't there when he runs his mouth and talk over him. I'd just drop your "friends". Friends don't sabotage friends.

[–]Snowboard181 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It’s either

  1. They are some jealous losers who purposely cockblocked you. Which in that case find friends that are higher value and not jealous pricks.

  2. They are on your value level and you guys have that type of friendship were you fuck with each other and often play pranks on each other. Which in that case I’d just hold frame and not cut them off.

Only you know them so only you can tell which it is

[–]Jaganshi931 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Try to keep them for logistic but don't trust too much . Know that you are above them

[–]chantfire1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your friends are a part of you to some extent, so if you hadn't learnt this lesson you would have dove them same thing. If you thinking about it too much you'll lose focus! Not everyone gets TRP but you'll need wingmen and a musculine group.

[–]kennycrab120 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I wouldn’t cut my friends off because they sent embarrassing pics to a bitch, that’s retarded. It sucks getting cock blocked but it’s Bros before Hoes

[–]420BJsGamble0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Get new friends literally shedding some myself rn

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I expect such behavior from my friends. Nothing really bad happened. Just return the favor some way or another.

[–]Shitcuckedredditsays0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Sounds like they were busting your balls and you're the one being weird about it.

[–]fullsendham[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I just don’t fw being disrespected I put the kid in his place and everything chill now

[–]Thoth_X1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

look at his screen name.

[–]itsArtie0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I would say yes but I read that you are 16 so in that case - no. Guys in high school will always do dumb shit to each other to get some laugh.

[–]fullsendham[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah I understand it does happen I just wanted to set boundaries

[–]PuppersGoneWild0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

You can have a conversation with them like an adult/leader. You don’t have to cut your fiends off, that’s such a butthurt bitch move. You can do it in a way that gets your point across but is still respectful, you won’t lose your friends. Just state the facts of what they did (sent pictures) and state a tenuous story (like you’re not entirely sure but you feel like they are acting disrespectful and jealous) then ask them why they did it and they will give an excuse. Then say ok I understand where your coming from (even if you don’t) and say I don’t want you embarrassing me or doing anything like that again and ask them “can you not do that again?” And get them to say yes to that question. That should help, it has helped me. Then if they violate your boundaries again just refer to this pervious conversation and say you’re not being a good friend and have not followed through on the promise you made to me earlier, and then you can cut them off if they don’t take that seriously.

If this is a big deal to you though and a continuous pattern I would raise your standards and get better friends. You become like the friends you keep so don’t hang with a bunch of losers that don’t get it and can’t get laid etc.

[–]fullsendham[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Kind of exactly what I did I told the guy it’s not that big of a deal but I don’t fuck with what he did and if he did it again we’re going to have a problem, he apologized and said he won’t do anything like that again. If he does I’ll easily cut him off he needs me more than I need him

[–]PuppersGoneWild1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Solid, sounds like you made the right move

[–]3dasak0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Tell them theyre dickheads for that but dont cut them off. You guys are still young

[–]kriskros18-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Bros before hos.

So depends how close you guys are.

[–]fullsendham[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I agree with that but it’s not about the girl it’s about them respecting me in general

[–]Ekhochambeer-2 points-1 points  (5 children) | Copy

Nah that sounds pretty funny actually, your just being a pussy.

Met my best friends new chick today and we spent 10 minutes showing each other the worst photos we had taken of him.

[–]fullsendham[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Not about the photos I don’t really care, it’s about respect cuz I wouldn’t do that to him if he was talking to a girl

[–]Ekhochambeer-1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy

If my friends didnt do shit like this I probably wouldnt consider them friends. That is ehat mates do, they take the piss out of each other. My comment still stands, you are being a pussy.

[–]HellSpeed0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Typical British bullshit. 'just taking the piss mate' is the British version of 'it was just a joke bro'. You're all just so repressed and conflict adverse that you play passive aggressive games.

[–]Ekhochambeer0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Im an aussie lol

[–]HellSpeed0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Regardless, the point still stands.



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