LTR wants to move a couple of hours away, should I tell her I will break up with her?

Retstortion · 2020-07-25T14:45:23+00:00

Just tell her it won’t work if shes too far,simple

MisterRoid · 2020-07-25T16:01:36+00:00

Tell her a LDR is not going to work out and then end it if she decides to move. Simple.

silvereddi · 2020-07-25T15:19:56+00:00

Never give an ultimatum. Also a LDR is not a LTR. It’s over. Just break up with her. If you can handle your frame and don’t fall into oneitis you can demote her to plate. Tell her it’s over this is not working out and you want to see other people, but you two can still hook up from time to time

Whisper · 2020-07-25T16:33:10+00:00

We moved back to the city because of the pandemic.

Perhaps you are not entirely clear on how this whole "pandemic" thing works.

custoscustodis · 2020-07-25T16:02:39+00:00

She's basically giving you the heads up that she is moving on. Women aren't direct; she isn't going to say, "I want to break up because I'm bored with you."

Like others here are saying, leave the door open, but go about your business and keep your own options going. When she comes back to town, she'll be DTF, of course. (If you even want her by then!)

thestructuralguy · 2020-07-25T14:45:44+00:00

Keep quiet and demote to plate.

TheTrenTrannyTrain · 2020-07-25T15:03:23+00:00

No need to say anything. Watch and observe, obviously she's not feeling any dread from you thus her willingness to move away from you.

Kyomeii · 2020-07-25T16:07:49+00:00

You clearly aren't the number one priority for her, if she even considers moving away. You know what to do.

Rene-Girard · 2020-07-25T22:04:01+00:00

Did she beg you to move there with her?

If not, she has actually dumped you.

beachbbqlover · 2020-07-25T15:10:45+00:00

Shes not your LTR if you've been together for 6 months and she's moving away, shes a girlfriend at most and she's already implicit considering you temporary.

BluzzKill · 2020-07-25T17:22:50+00:00

You dont want to keep her around if she regrets not going. Just tell her to do what she wants. If you arent gonna go with her just say so then dump her when she moves.

Musicgoon · 2020-07-25T19:31:01+00:00

Tell her you don't do LDR's. You won't get a damn thing out of that except frustration and wasted gas.

Dump her when she goes.

facts_not_emotions · 2020-07-25T23:36:01+00:00

Kinda seems like shes breaking up with you bro

alfred311 · 2020-07-26T02:03:37+00:00

Your coming off with the wrong direction here, once the girl told you shes moving away and didnt beg you to come it only means one thing, you're out!

Just let her be, tell her you wish her luck and you will be keeping in touch then ghost her

Ultimatum makes you even look weak, if you have abundace you probably wont care if your girl move to africa coz your still fucking 5 bitches on the side

You should be greatful that your girl is moving away, a man should always aspire freedom, you can game and fuck other women while shes gone, remember shes not yours its just your turn, in 2 weeks she'll be riding different cock faster than her ride to the city

Yalith25 · 2020-07-25T15:10:31+00:00

I would just be honest and tell her that you don’t see a long distance relationship working, as you have no desire to move. That’s a pretty far hike to try and make a relationship work. And since you mentioned that you wouldn’t mind letting her go, I think that’s says EVERYTHING. I would make it clear that you don’t want her to try and stay just because of you, because I could see that happening too.

DeltaDiezel · 2020-07-25T16:44:34+00:00

I already know I will break up with her if she does, I like her but have no issue going back to spinning plates.

Yet here you are asking this question.

My question is, should I tell her I will break up with her if she makes this choice or just keep quiet? Not really sure how I go about it.

If you dont think it'll work for you then break up lol since you're here asking I doubt you will but that's my advice.

Secret_Twitch · 2020-07-25T14:55:10+00:00

Never give them a choice. No matter what choice they make, you lose. If you let her choose then you are handing her your balls and control of the relationship. Break up with her immediately, and don’t even tell her why. Closure is for betas. Let her wonder why you broke up with her forever. Don’t give her the satisfaction of knowing she made the choice. Take control of your life and your relationships.

Johnfeb94 · 2020-07-25T19:09:18+00:00

I'd keep banging until she moves then end it. Don't try to think about any of her ulterior motives or jump to the conclusion that she's leaving because she's done with you, anyone who says that is an old geezer or incel. Many people will make the choice that's best for them regardless of who they're with, and your relationship has only been 7 months which is only borderline long term. If I were her i'd move too if it meant my life would be better regardless of who I was with at a young age.... It's not like you're thinking about getting married at your age... You shouldn't anyway.

Filmguy000 · 2020-07-25T22:17:12+00:00

Sounds like you don't care. Just let her go if she goes.

DrGigaChad · 2020-07-25T23:13:09+00:00

It shouldn’t matter, but what’s wrong with living in the town. Cities just have housing with inflated prices and no jobs. The suburbs are a much better place to start a family.

bogeyd6 · 2020-07-26T00:44:12+00:00

LDR = Imaginary girlfriend

antariusz · 2020-07-26T02:57:24+00:00

just keep quiet

If she moves, you break up. But don't advertise it before hand.

Optionsmfd · 2020-07-26T12:38:44+00:00

turn her into a plate

Snowboard18 · 2020-07-25T15:52:47+00:00

Tell her fwb and nothing more of you want to keep fucking her and you think it won’t become a mental and emotional strain on you.

_-resonance-_ · 2020-07-25T17:32:48+00:00

“Obviously” a LDR won’t work so if she catches vibe you are covertly spinning plates, there is a chance she will still see you as alpha despite your history in an LTR w/her, and she may still rely on you for sex. This only works if you have abundance and aren’t too emotionally attached.

GoFuclcYourself · 2020-07-25T17:59:06+00:00

No wait until shes hours away then no drama 😂

DiskKiller2 · 2020-07-25T18:33:59+00:00

No reason to break up. Demote to plate and continue with your own life. (She might not actually move, anyway.)

Title	LTR wants to move a couple of hours away, should I tell her I will break up with her?
Author	Specialcz3
Upvotes	72
Comments	58
Date	July 25, 2020 2:42 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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