"Nothing You Say Has Substance"

Blackhawk2479 · 2018-12-31T11:26:04+00:00

The problem is you caring about an off-hand comment from a woman.

The solution is probably to talk less - open your mouth only when you’ve something worthwhile to say.

iFunnyPrince · 2018-12-31T13:07:28+00:00

Either you're an overly chatty person (casual conversation-wise) and she doesn't like that, or she just doesn't like you. Either way, who the hell cares what some random chick thinks? If you don't care about them, you shouldn't care what they think about you, that's my Golden rule :)

Rkingpin · 2018-12-31T12:54:20+00:00

If one comment like this has shaken your entire frame so deeply you have much work to do.

Start with building a higher self-esteem. Lift, dress well, meditate, achieve your goals.

Command yourself and maintain it in your head that you're the man.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2018-12-31T12:42:51+00:00

Hmm. She was probably referring to herself, unknowingly.

mrpthrowa · 2018-12-31T17:16:49+00:00

Wow what a spineless frameless wuss. One small shit test comment from a woman and you're questioning your entire existence.

DatingTank · 2018-12-31T14:09:38+00:00

Maybe what you're talking about is boring af and completely void of emotion and passion

CaptainBW · 2018-12-31T15:47:41+00:00

Damn. I have literally never been told that by a woman. Here’s what you do: 1) stop caring about what random bitches have to say. 2) Say things with substance...which for a woman means...being in touch wif ur feeeeelingzzz. You know what I mean. Start your sentences off with a lot of “I feel like ___” and you should be good lmao.

CyJackX · 2018-12-31T16:01:46+00:00

What was the context of this?

Was she referring to your work publications or your personal dialogue?

It's possible if everything is merely factual statements, which would be uninteresting.

BlackFire68 · 2018-12-31T16:01:47+00:00

You could spend a huge amount of time trying to understand/interpret her frame (get on the hamster wheel yourself). Perhaps she meant that your statements don't add additional value beyond the data. Perhaps she meant that, psychologically, your statements don't make her feel any better. Perhaps she meant that your statements don't add to a body of existential / philosophical knowledge that promotes/develops critical discourse.

Or you could stay in your frame and do your thing.

IceColdHell · 2018-12-31T16:49:43+00:00

I have to say she’s right.

However, use her words against her.

You shouldn’t care about external noise. Only listen to your instincts.

Stop trying to please and control all external entities. You only have power to control and please your self.

general_landur · 2018-12-31T17:18:48+00:00

Sounds like impostor syndrome. You'll have to actively and constantly think that you're good enough, it's not as bad as it's being made out to be.

Your close friends or family would be able to tell better if you're really what you think.

account_for_rel · 2018-12-31T17:30:22+00:00

Learn storytelling skills.

You can convey substance in most trivial things, if you know how to tell a story.

You seem to have a lot of knowledge. And you expect the girl to digest with her logical brain, where she is digesting it with emotional brain, and not feeling anything. But thats just my guess.

hot_soup19 · 2018-12-31T23:08:10+00:00

I don't understand this.

When you know a something technical, you know it. You may be uncomfortable with areas on the edges, and the massive amount that you know you don't know, but you should still know what you know. Are you talking about things you don't know? If you talk to this woman about technical things that you know about, and she says that there is no substance, then you should know that she just doesn't understand, and it shouldn't bother you. Are talking to this woman in generalities about things that you don't really know about?

I also work in an area where there are people that have their names on publications, but having your name as an author on a publication might mean : I was assigned the actual work by the people/person that knew what they were doing.

I am a well regarded expert on technology

I'm very confused by this statement. No one is a 'well regarded expert on technology'. This sounds like something an HR person would think about an IT person. It sounds like something a 60 year old executive would look for, an 'expert on technology'. It sounds like something basic bitch Tina, who only knows how to use her iPhone apps, believes.

In fact I would argue that this very post is very light on substance. I have no clue what you do or what you know or what level your expertise is. I have no idea what 'generally do decent work' means, or why it would even be included as it can't be substantiated, at least easily.

xgozax · 2018-12-31T23:24:04+00:00

If you’ve heard this before maybe try working on doing more things that will make your stories interesting that you actually enjoy, watch some stand up specials, try something new separate from women, just work on yourself. If you haven’t heard this before then maybe she just didn’t vibe with you and forget about it.

frequentlywrong · 2018-12-31T13:09:26+00:00

Why did you not engage with her to clarify what she said? Anyone who has been arguing online long enough knows that eventually the argument boils down to people defining the meaning of words entirely differently in their heads. So getting all flustered by a comment from a woman is silly. 95% of what women say is stupid anyway and can be ignored.

sehns · 2018-12-31T12:59:07+00:00

Need a bit more context. Was this in a work environment? Is she a colleague? Manager? Random bitch from tinder?

Wolveryn · 2018-12-31T16:08:21+00:00

Fuck. That. Cunt.

No seriously. Fuck that Cunt.

The solution is to not care what she thinks.

Problem solved.

Jsieijejeieokkd · 2018-12-31T17:42:14+00:00

Socrates said, “ The only thing I know for sure is that I know nothing.”

As an Expert myself that often challenged that’s what I say in response. More than that I try to live it. I am always curious and try to learn more. The way she said it it’s like a shit test respond in kind.

TheBunk_TB · 2018-12-31T18:38:09+00:00

Scream "CUNT!!!"

EddTheEdducator · 2018-12-31T19:38:54+00:00

Look at you man, squirming at offhand comments made by women. If your successful in your career, have hit the gym consistently for the past 4 months and lost 45 kg take some damn pride in yourself.

Stop concerning yourself with the opinions of sheep and your words will carry a lot more substance.

buttgoogler · 2018-12-31T20:00:59+00:00

Who gives a fuck about what a woman says?

It's ironic because most trp-aware folks know that you should never listen to what a bitch says, but watch her actions.

mr-satan · 2018-12-31T20:08:15+00:00

What's the problem you think and how can I improve what I say

If you talk anything like you type, I’d want to kill myself just chatting with you too 😂

First, this bitch probably wipes patients asses or makes sandwiches at Subway for a living. Who is she to be talking?

Second, you need to remind this bitch that women are terrible storytellers and that you have to lead the conversation because she can’t.

Man you were in a book. Be proud of that shit and pick your shoulders up. Don’t let some floosie think she’s better than you!

Velebit · 2018-12-31T20:24:30+00:00

You are probably somewhere on autistic spectrum, most of nerdy tech wizzes are. Talking to autistic women is a bore as well. They feel empty, like they are technology as well, not really human, stuff they say is like generic 'talk' code for background characters in a movie where they don't even need to act just say the lines.

The reason why nothing you say has any substance is because due to autism or whatever other thing is going on, your brain does not lead you to connect with people and what people care about, and you also lack passion and existential goals.

RedPillAlphaBigCock · 2018-12-31T21:50:40+00:00

lift heavy weights asap - it will develop idgaf mentality

Title	"Nothing You Say Has Substance"
Author	jagdecat
Upvotes	42
Comments	62
Date	December 31, 2018 11:18 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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