Why do girls like guys who treat them like shit so much

SublimePimp · 2021-01-31T07:00:10+00:00

It implies the guy has options and can fuck other girls. Guys who sit around doting on a girl show they have no other options

ColonelGray · 2021-01-31T09:32:20+00:00

"he’s not even alpha he never lifts and is a huge degenerate loser bum"

I'm pretty sure the concept of being 'alpha' runs far deeper than lifting.

It's mainly the mindset, the rest is just icing on the cake.

Noodlesoupe2 · 2021-01-31T07:27:30+00:00

because he is high value enough that she isn't the best he can get

themostgianthorse · 2021-01-31T12:35:07+00:00

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Indumentum97 · 2021-01-31T09:28:49+00:00

It shows Masculinity and Alphaness. In her eyes nice guys are seen as weak and needy. Women don’t want that

roryburlon · 2021-01-31T11:08:49+00:00

Same reason they like watching serial killer documentaries, and soap operas. They like suspense and drama shit

Give_It_To_Gore · 2021-01-31T10:06:50+00:00

Because all bitches are hoes.

Just bang and do you.

actuallythink · 2021-01-31T13:17:01+00:00

Because “guys who treat them like shit” arent treating them like shit, they are treating them like mere people while guys like you are treating them like goddesses.

Have you ever been treated like a diety? It’s a lot of pressure and sometimes it’s fun to get in the dirt with a pig and roll around for a bit.

MarkMy_Word · 2021-01-31T08:07:00+00:00

This is a prime like a nice guy question. Its not so much they treat them like shit but don’t give them attention like simps do. She has many dudes telling her she’s hot and how much they care about her yet its one guy that’s does the opposite of all that. She doesn’t want a dude praising her 24/7. Women like being put in their place & being told no, simps are ugly ass enablers & yes men.

She knows he has options and not worried about her. Plus she’s young, most women that age don’t know how to emotionally move on from one man to the next, if she leaves him, in her mind, she’ll have nothing to branch onto unless a better option presents itself to her. If it doesn’t, she’s going to stay.

dr_warlock · 2021-01-31T14:24:55+00:00

Dont care for a woman more than she cares about herself. If she goes for these guys, it means you should treat her the same. You're wasting your time nice guy. If women blab their mouths about guys they hate around you a lot, it means they think you're not a potential candidate. No pussy for you.

dolmino91 · 2021-01-31T09:57:26+00:00

Simple - they are masculine and other girls also like them, you are not.

2021-01-31T11:06:48+00:00

Cuz we fuck them good.

Resolution437 · 2021-01-31T09:53:11+00:00

Doesnt give a fuck? Check. Is he tall? If yes, then there you go.

RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2021-01-31T07:41:36+00:00

Retarded logic 2.0

Ensifror · 2021-01-31T10:06:52+00:00

Women don't like men who treat them like shit. Women like men who treat themselves with equal/greater respect than they treat her. In cases of abusive relationships its more complicated. Maybe she think she can tame him, maybe it's Stockholm syndrome, or maybe she believes she deserves to be beaten. Maybe her parents are dysfunctional and he matches her model of what a normal relationship looks like. Whatever it is, abusive relationships are not the norm.

Of course if your definition of shit is not acting like she's a goddess and you're her man slave, then yeah, it's shit.

MitchAintNoBitch · 2021-01-31T10:37:39+00:00

Welcome.

There's a literal shit-ton of material for you to peruse that can answer this first question and many more (then it will also answer other questions which you haven't asked yet).

It's the sidebar. No judgement, we all have to go through it.

Feel free to keep asking questions in this subreddit. Understand though, most answers are already in the sidebar.

2021-01-31T12:15:23+00:00

have you not tried to answer you own question?

its not that they like the guy because they treat em like shit. this guy has confidence, he has options, he has value.

before posting again - read 'the rational male'

batfish55 · 2021-01-31T14:27:33+00:00

"Assholes" get it right by accident. Wimmins don't like assholes, per se, they like guys with frame control, who don't take no shit from no woman (or anyone, really). Assholes got that shit in spades.

You don't have to be an asshole to have frame control and not take shit, but that's a hard line to walk if you're short on life experience and self confidence. The most powerful word you can ever tell a female is 'no'.

kippendief · 2021-01-31T10:47:35+00:00

You think being an "alpha" has anything to do with lifting? I know alpha men that dont even weigh 60kg

Schhwing · 2021-01-31T08:58:39+00:00

Girls are attracted to impudence. Which is the lack of respect for others.

Niorba · 2021-01-31T10:50:55+00:00

Both men and women who grow up in neglectful or abusive conditions often do not notice that they seek out individuals who remind them of those earlier familiar conditions. It seems like OP has identified such a person, who responds to unhealthy behaviour as familiar and standard. It is a general rule in psychology that people indirectly reveal their earlier life experiences through their interaction styles and attractions to others.

realdahduli · 2021-01-31T12:48:13+00:00

Obedience is unattractive from a man. A man that spews out thot slut and bitch shows that he's not afraid of losing her because he has plenty of options. THAT is very attractive.

Being nice is such a turn off for most women (yes there are exceptions). Being a yes man shows that you have no options because you're a low quality man and you're looking for anyone (for sex). This is the implied thought of women.

Highly suggest you read The Rational Male if you wanna understand women down to a science. It'll open your eyes and you'll never see the world the same again...

And you'll never ask the question "why do women go for disrespectful guys and leave good guys."

curvedbymykind · 2021-01-31T09:21:59+00:00

Because nobuddy likes it ez

ScopeSided · 2021-01-31T11:40:52+00:00

she is attracted to the way he carries himself around, you describe a guy who doesnt give a fuck about anything, yet she gives a fuck about her in a way she likes

ofc she knows that he might be a shitty bf

meganano · 2021-01-31T16:16:17+00:00

They don’t like guys who treat them like shit. Guys who perceive themselves as having high market value, treat women of lower value like shit. Women are trained to prioritize value over treatment because of social pressure to date ‘up.’ Once women realize how great it is to date somebody who treats them well, they let go of that market value shit, because those dudes are emotionally stunted and don’t last. Also most of the HMV bros are crap in bed because they’re too selfish to care about their partner.

Of course this analysis is drastically oversimplified, but then again so is the question.

ay-fuh-q · 2021-01-31T18:17:02+00:00

Girls like guys with confidence. Assholes (depending on whether they're "playful" assholes) have an overabundance of confidence. He can call her a slut, but if he's cocky, does it with a smirk, and is even remotely good looking, that's a panty wetter/dropper.

Simps are just that... simps. They're pussies who whine about never getting the girl. Girls already have a pussy. They don't want to date one.

The fact that you're whining about this on Reddit suggests you, too, are in the simp category.

ExcitingEnergy3 · 2021-01-31T09:23:50+00:00

Because most women are mentally unstable as well as emotionally. No sensible girl would want to be treated like that. That's it. All this "o but he has options" is almost entirely untrue.

NakedMoleHamster · 2021-01-31T08:41:57+00:00

My theory is so they could complain how assholes guys are.

You shouldn't pay any attention to them. Once a girl was bullying me at school and I called her a whore and we became friends and stayed friends till the end of the school. I don't get it either.

cunningcaring · 2021-01-31T11:07:00+00:00

You think he's not alpha.

vashtibunyan315 · 2021-01-31T14:14:11+00:00

Women hate men who put them on pedestal, who idolize them as if they were some sort of Goddesses. So when a man treat a woman the way she deserves(not necessarily badly but right the way she deserves), she sees this and understands that he doesn't put her in pedestal. Then it's more likely that she'll be attracted to a man who doesn't put her on pedestal rather than one who does, for men who put them on pedestal are used only as beta orbiters.

35T3B4N1990 · 2021-01-31T14:38:21+00:00

Also because she probably has very low self-esteem and when she sees all of these simps doing everything for her, it just doesn't make any sense to her because it does not confirm her own low self-opinion. But with the other guy, it does. Of course logically from a man's perspective, this doesn't make any sense at all but of course, women are illogical and irrational.

kingrob445 · 2021-01-31T17:23:22+00:00

Most guys are boring and “nice”. The jerk is different, and thats what draws a bored woman to them. Its not an effective strategy to get women though. Its much better to be a gentleman with a bit of an edge. You need to give a woman positive and negative emotions.

ReadyBison6336 · 2021-01-31T10:30:02+00:00

This reminds me of that meme where a bunch of birds sat on progressively higher perches and shat. It quoted, 'When you look up you see only assholes, when you look down you see only shit'.

Alternatively, an asshole who shits on her, can be perceived as someone from higher position in the hierarchy aka high value.

Ofcourse, this is a very simplistic view, but it works more for young inexperienced girls, than experienced high value women.

Pink_Hanna · 2021-01-31T12:15:44+00:00

women want what they cannot have

BlondeHornyElf · 2021-01-31T13:02:36+00:00

becuz a guy in a position to not take any one girl too seriously is likely a guy with power

subaruguy14 · 2021-01-31T14:10:11+00:00

Women are creatures who need constant social validation.

Pres-Bill-Clinton · 2021-01-31T14:14:01+00:00

Female 7’s want to mate with 8,9.or 10’s. It is biological. But there is no exact numbering for themselves or a mate. So the female must use social clues.

One social clue is the way the male treats her. If he treats her like a valuable piece of fine china he is signaling she is of high value relative to the other women he has tried to date. She should reject as the other women have rejected him.

But if he treats her as nothing special it signals her value relative to the other women is the same or lower and she should proceed. He is treating her as if there are lots of women just like or better than her. He doesn’t need her. He has options. She better move fast or he will be gone.

skyrunner22 · 2021-01-31T15:38:06+00:00

Maybe this will help you understand

http://archive.is/m2dvv

CharlieKing93 · 2021-01-31T15:57:42+00:00

Sounds like a low quality girl, if she likes someone who doesn't care for her.

Is he popular? You know, everyone has admirable qualities. He probably also. Try to see what it is, not just disregard him as a bum and loser. That's too easy. Learn from your opponent. He doesn't give a shit ---> hey it can be a good thing. Then you don't worry about all this relationship/girlfriend crap.

Gamedragon345 · 2021-01-31T16:44:54+00:00

like what the other guys here are preaching, They don't like it when you put them on a pedestal, because that makes you inferior to them. Women want you to be better than them at everything, and think that you are better than them.

clickherebaby · 2021-01-31T17:18:12+00:00

The people you talk about walk around and get picked by the same energy that spawned beatles mania, same with kpop, same with anyone millions of people idolize at the same time. Most the time, the recipients are aloof and trying to stave off anxiety and insecurities. And then one day, like lightning hitting a specific spot, things heat up for them. Maybe its a social interaction seen by many, or the clothes they decide to wear one day.

Look up the sneaker don. Some fat loser kid who decided to wear sneakers one day at school. Everyone made a big deal out of it and THEN he started to sell sneakers on a large scale. He didn't cultivate his brand meticulously and it popped off. The world chose him to be what he is.

FrenCan16 · 2021-01-31T19:26:22+00:00

Guy doesn't give a fuck because he has options, he knows it, she knows it. Also they like the drama.

OMGnohedidnt · 2021-01-31T19:54:04+00:00

Because girls have guys that like them and it gets incredibly boring, who wants to live a boring life.

anyJose · 2021-01-31T20:12:22+00:00

This probably happens to girls mostly in high school. I can’t imagine a 20 year old girl or older falling for this. However I know a guy who treat women exactly like this but he has a model looking face, that’s it. That’s why women like him.

PreEntertain · 2021-01-31T20:16:32+00:00

Watch & learn.

Pelikahn · 2021-01-31T21:18:27+00:00

Most adults aren’t balanced.

Unbalanced men (remember, teenagers aren’t finished developing yet) are one of two ways; a pushover, or an aggressor. The goal is to land somewhere in the middle, be balanced. Standing your ground is what you should do. You shouldn’t be a pushover, good things require a backbone to achieve. You shouldn’t be attacking everything on sight either. The balance between the two extremes is what people find attractive.

Balance will save your life.

On to your specific situation:

Remind yourself that all of you are flawed people, and that’s normal and ok.

The TL;DR of it:

You are doing to her, what she is doing to him. He is doing to her, what she is doing to you. You want to understand her? Understand yourself.

I can break it down further, but I’m not going to wall of text death anyone any further.

mindbreeder · 2021-01-31T23:48:40+00:00

People say this shit all the time and its not true. "He treats her like shit and for some reason she's so into him!?"

This says more about the culture than it does about the man in question. He's not treating her like shit. He just not bending over backwards for her and society deems that "treating her like shit". Being apathetic is not the same as being an asshole.

StevenConfident · 2021-02-01T00:38:11+00:00

https://bookofpook.neocities.org/#ch-21

Read the Secret of the Jerk part. It answers all.

mrmaskfawkes · 2021-02-01T02:16:25+00:00

Shoot you picked a hot one for this reddit. It's simple assholes do more than simps and are typically way more confident. That dude doesn't care which give him the power in the situation. A simp, pfft, if you act like someone is your only option then they will treat you like they have that power over you.

frictiondick · 2021-02-01T06:59:46+00:00

Women love drama

back_into_the_pile · 2021-02-01T13:29:11+00:00

My dude. The very nature of you varying is a waste of your potential.

LIFT EAT WELL FUCK CRAZY IF you get lost lmk, my wife might put you on the right track

jjj2576 · 2021-02-01T22:59:59+00:00

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Wtfbyamey · 2021-01-31T12:20:06+00:00

Maybe he’s 6’4” Jk

Title	Why do girls like guys who treat them like shit so much
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Date	January 31, 2021 6:54 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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