We DESPERATELY need to redefine what sex is, and pinpoint what assisted masturbation is.

Geocities_SEO_Expert · 2021-02-01T09:25:54+00:00

"Assisted masturbation" is a good way to call it. With one of my exes, I would spend 2 hours to bathe, shave, do my hair and makeup, and get dressed, my then-boyfriend would pick me up, he would decide not to go on an actual date , take me back to his place, we would have awkward sex for about 5 minutes, then he would roll over and beat off for the next 5. Then he would fall asleep.

I would be covered in his sweat, my hair and makeup ruined, so I couldn't even go anywhere else without doing it all over again. So many nights were completely wasted.

weekend111 · 2021-02-01T10:13:09+00:00

I consider myself sex positive. I love affectionate, consensual sex with a loving and attentive man my age who isn’t set to degrade me.

I’m not assisted masturbation positive.

janeaustenfan99 · 2021-02-01T02:46:14+00:00

I feel like so many women don’t know the difference. If we stopped to actually think about the true difference so many of us would be celibate for many years.

warinmymind94 · 2021-02-01T11:04:09+00:00

Good sex looks like him always asking for consent, throughout the sexy time. Good sex is him caring about your pleasure, he should be aiming to please you. He shouldn't expect a hand/blow job in return either, you only give it if you want to- and he shouldn't be pushing your head either. The thing is he shouldn't be relying in lubricant- he should be able to get you good and turned on so you're wet and turned on. You should be orgasming and enjoying the sex not faking it or dissociating and wanting it just to be over! And he shouldn't be whining about using a condom.

EffectiveHoneydew422 · 2021-02-01T03:37:08+00:00

when you feel your molecules have become one with the bed you are laying on and your soul is hovering over your body

thinktwiceorelse · 2021-02-01T14:18:34+00:00

I've never had sex. Just assisted masturbation.

carlid13 · 2021-02-01T06:31:43+00:00

I’m can say that the majority of the men I’ve been with, I’ve just been a body. They have said the right things for me to expect that “this time will be different”, and then once they get their jollies, I’m used goods and am ghosted. Call me pathetic, I called myself “optimistic” (eye roll).

The last partner, especially, was just there to get his and I would have to finish on my own. We dated for 4 months. I’d chalk it up to “oh he hasn’t been with anyone in 5 years...” but after a few weeks, his “stamina” (lol) came back and I realized that he just wasn’t good and was there for himself.

Thank goodness for BOB (my Battery Operated Boyfriend).

ReignOnYou95 · 2021-02-01T03:42:24+00:00

I never really thought about that and youre absolutely right.

coldfoot23 · 2021-02-01T19:35:14+00:00

The clit is only for female pleasure! Ladies you don’t need penetration at all for a fulfilling sex life and I know that mindset is hard to break considering women are taught that the vagina is just a hole to be “filled” but most women don’t orgasm from it anyways. It’s honestly insane to me how our culture yet and still guarantees a man will come even during our “hook up culture” vs women who even during intimacy still have to perform. Get to know your own body and your own pleasure and know it doesn’t begin and end with a penis.

witchingsauce · 2021-02-03T06:36:11+00:00

Correct. Let’s not confuse sex with being fucked. “Attention to the meaning of the central male slang term for sexual intercourse—"fuck"— is instructive. To fuck a woman is to have sex with her. To fuck someone in another context… means to hurt or cheat a person. And when hurled as a simple insult (“fuck you”) the intent is denigration and the remark is often a prelude to violence or the threat of violence. Sex in patriarchy is fucking. That we live in a world in which people continue to use the same word for sex and violence, and then resist the notion that sex is routinely violent and claim to be outraged when sex becomes overtly violent, is testament to the power of patriarchy.” Bell Hooks

Title	We DESPERATELY need to redefine what sex is, and pinpoint what assisted masturbation is.
Author	ScrotonimoStilton
Upvotes	255
Comments	22
Date	January 31, 2021 4:38 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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