1. Dating isn't fair. Women expect you to have your shit together and know what to say. You aren't allowed to make mistakes since you are easily replaceable. You need to learn from experienced men or learn on your own (the hard way) by putting yourself and your ego on the line.

  2. Majority of women will never court men. Don't take advise about dating women from straight women. They have no idea what it's like to court women, they have a harder time processing regection, and are allowed to be emotional and physical when they don't get their own way. You aren't and the same rules don't apply to you. You need to understand double standards and use them to benefit yourself.

  3. You need to have a stable life and realistic expectations about yourself and the women you want to date. You need to lower your expectations and get your head out of the bubble, this isn't Hollywood. Women don't have to court so they will live their lives believing prince charming will fall on their lap, because they can. You can't afford to do the same thing, the perfect girl won't come to you-you have to find her. The average women will have multiple men in her DM's trying to get her attention the average men doesn't. you need to seek what you want and if what you want isn't attanaible to for you current status you will have to change to get what you want.

  4. Looks matter. Personality matters. Wealth matters. Fame/status matters. If you have none of the above you will not matter.

  5. You need to be assertive, Most women expect you to take the lead. That means you make the first move, you make most of the effort when building a relationship, you need to be the one to ask her out on a date and you have to be the one to take the lead. Most Western women talk about independence and equal treatment but not when it comes to dating. If you are an average guy women will not court you, will not chase you, and they will not make an effort to get to know you without you making the first move. They don't want to lose the advantage they have in dating and they won't so don't expect them to take the lead/in dating no matter.

  6. Don't assume all women are good or believe them when they say they want a stable relationship. Some people want to have a toxic chaotic relationship they don't want stability because that is boring to them and they want to be treated like shit (both men and women) because they enjoy getting steeped on and used. Learn to identify people like this and avoid them at all cost.

  7. Dating is a game, a one sided game where women decide who wins. It's a game that is rigged to favor women on the surface. Since you get to chose what women to go after you have more freedom of choosing your partner, since most women don't go after men they are stuck with whoever decides they are attractive enough to approch them. Use this advantage to better yourself and accept the reality that Dating isn't fair or equal and that you have to look out for yourself and be selfish to get what you want.

Good Luck.