In my later teens I would try to overlook things here and there regarding appearance/personality/compatibility because women are largely taught to accommodate for men in dating, and “give him a chance.” I’m more confident now than ever that it is better to be single and at peace/true to myself than to bend my standards again. I work very hard at my appearance, health, education, career, and social skills, consistently.

Do universities feel bad about rejecting students who do not meet their requirements? Do realtors feel bad about not selling homes to people who don’t have the money or proper background? No, because they recognize the value they possess and sympathy is not even an option in their minds to overlook flaws they are not willing to stand.

Now obviously I know no human (and certainly no man) is perfect, but I will never feel guilt or the need to compromise again on the qualities in a partner that I am looking for, and that would make me happy. It’s my life, and I’m not letting people ostracize me or try to convince me into doing otherwise anymore.