Guilty pleasure here: I love 90 Days Fianceé even though is a garbage fire. For those who don't want to watch that garbage fire, here is a small resumé:

No Neck Ed is a man who works as a photographer(1🚩), and has a sexual assault claim (which is not surprising seeing how much of a creep he is in the show) and he got into this show to document his meeting with her online dating fianceé Rosemary(2🚩), a Filipino woman. Btw, He is sooo much older than her (3🚩). Rose is even younger than No Neck Ed Daughter (4🚩).

Rose is a single mother from The Philipines. Her and her family live in a humble home.

No Neck Ed, even though he is all that and a bag of garbage, he can give us some insight how these LVM think and AVOID THEM WITHOUT GUILT!

1. They will use pity so you feel bad when you call them out.

Big Ed used the 'I feel insecure, Rose; that's why I'm asking you to take an STD test' ommiting the fact that he cheated on his ex-wife (perhaps he's afraid of Karma), that's he's the one who lied about his height and about wanting more kids to Rosemary and only told her AFTER THEY HAD SEX even though having more kids was a thing she wanted and she let it be known from the beginning.

She did called him out! 'Why didn't you tell me before you came to The Philipines? I think I want to leave' And no Shit Shreklock! she leaves the hotel and dumps his ass. And then he has the AUDACITY to do a pity party and cry on camera about how surprised* he is that she didn't let him keep humilliating and controlling her on TV! 🙄

These are his actions. But lets see him. He's Ugly, he has no neck, puts mayo on his hair, he is fat and basically disgusting to look at. I have no doubt he has used self deprication to get laid.

DO NOT BE AFRAID TO BE RUDE TO THESE KIND OF MEN, DO NOT FEEL PITY. THESE KIND OF MEN WILL USE PITY TO GET AWAY WITH PUSHING YOUR BOUNDARIES. YOU OWE NO ONE PITY DATES, NOR PITY SMALL TALK. YOU WILL REGRET LOSING YOUR TIME TO THESE MAN.

I (17 at the time) had an ex (24) who was 6 years my senior, he seemed ugly, wasn't my type and he talked sooooooo much, He was a NVM and he wanted to date me but I wasnt atracted to him and dodged all of his shots and I played dumb. He then went very direct with him asking me if he could date me and I said yes for pity. Do you want to know what happened? I was groomed and sexually abused.

Don't even give them the time of your day for pity. For your safety.

2. Playing stupid buys LVM time. You DO NOT have to explain yourself to anyone.

So After Big Ed makes Rose cry in a date after asking her for STD test (that he wasn't gonna take himself) and asking about her bodycount and the father of her child.

She should have dumped him in that moment, but why did she forgive him?

He played stupid.

He said something along the lines of 'I just want to know about the father of Prince (Rose's son)' I think he used that excuse to make up the fact that he humilliated her on TV just because deep down he knew that she was younger, prettier and way out of his league and he felt threatened from her previous lovers and that's why he made her feel embarassed with such private talk to 'humble her down' and he didn't want to take accountability of the big screw up he did right here.

That's why he said what he said.

He deep down knows he was a POS* with Rose because no woman will cry just for asking her about past lovers!

1.It was the way he asked for an STD test
2. It was how he bombarded her with those innapropiate and controlling questions
3.It was the cameras
4.It was her heart being shattered because she realized he didn't trust her.

How many times, have we explained our boundaries and/or our needs to these man because it seems like they don't understand? They do understand sis, they just don't care and playing stupid is a way to buy time to see how long they can get away with it.

You comunicate once, if they don't listen, the writing is on the wall, sis, dump his ass!

*edit: Typos.