Crosspost "How do you deal with #killallmen people?" from /r/AskFeminists:

My friends and I were talking about Marilyn Manson's abuse and one of them said that this is why they were pro killallmen.

I said that that phrase was not productive in the fight for equality. My friend said i shouldn't get offended because it didn't literally mean to kill all men, but when I asked her what it actually meant, she just went "oh whatever, I don't even care about this any more." I said that you can't solve sexism with sexism, and saying you want to kill 50% of the population for their gender is still sexist.

My friends told me that you can't be sexist or racist against the group with more power, and that men have raped us for centuries it's now our turn for revenge, and 1 in 5 women have been sexually assaulted. Then they said what would we do instead?

I said instead of saying killallmen, tell people statistics like that 1 in 5 women have been assaulted. They said that we have tried that and that hasn't solved sexism, but the killallmen movement has worked in the past. I asked her to send me a source on that but for whatever reason she couldn't.

I asked her how they would feel about #killallwhitepeople. She said that that's different and that #blacklivesmatter is the equivalent to #killallmen, but they don't use the same words because they don't want to copy each other. I said, "that is so stupid, they literally mean different things."

We dropped the topic, but later I was reading out my diary from when I was 10 and there was a part where I went "I told Jack that the colour of his loom bands were too girly for him." My friend went, "lol that's so sexist." I said, "I know right, at least I'm not still sexist." She then said she wasn't sexist because she was a feminist. I said she wasn't an actual feminist, and that people like her harm the movement.

I've blocked them on everything since. I just find it so ironic that she used the 1 in 5 women get sexually assaulted statistic when previously she said if I told her I got sexually assaulted she wouldn't believe me unless I had evidence, based on the principle of innocent until proven guilty.


Posted by Silent_Extent_6487 | 15 February 2021 | Link