Do women experience same struggles as men?

IHateNormis · 2022-09-22T23:25:52+00:00

I am a male and I don’t think females go through those things. This is due to the fact that they have sex and relationships on demand. If I go to a buffet I can have as much food as I want so it wouldn’t make sense for me to be starving

caption291 · 2022-09-22T19:13:06+00:00

The difference between men and women's struggles is similar to the difference between starvation and not knowing what restaurant to pick.

Superficially you could say both people are looking for something to eat but no one intellectually honest would actually think that.

shreyastalpade · 2022-09-22T18:06:35+00:00

Seems like a troll post.

NotARussianBot1984 · 2022-09-23T12:18:45+00:00

>do you girls get rejected a lot, fear rejectiong, fear of never finding romance, been friendzone, f

All solved by not being hypergamous. I've never been asked out by a equally hot girl so no women don't struggle for fear of rejection IF they shoot in their league.

Acrobatic_Dress_3988 · 2022-09-22T18:15:18+00:00

Do women go through similar struggles like men go through, do you girls
get rejected a lot, fear rejectiong, fear of never finding romance, been
friendzone, felt inferior to smarter women and no matter how hard you
worked you don't seem like you are improving, experience jealousy, and
go through deep philosophical rabbit whole relating to existential
crisis and dread.

yes to everything except the friendzone part. For women, it's "hookup"zone. When you are not LTR/giirlfriend/wife material, but you are good enough for a hookup, so you are are strung along and used while hoping to get to relationship, except you never do.

i wouldn't mind being friendzoned at all tho.

mcove97 · 2022-09-22T19:37:20+00:00

I don't think so. At least speaking for myself.

Do women go through similar struggles like men go through, do you girls get rejected a lot, fear rejectiong, fear of never finding romance, been friendzone, felt inferior to smarter women and no matter how hard you worked you don't seem like you are improving, experience jealousy, and go through deep philosophical rabbit whole relating to existential crisis and dread.

I'm sure some women do. How many I don't know. I was afraid no one would ever wanna be with me when I was like 14-17 due to insecurity and never having been kissed, and never had a guy truly be interested in me and never having had sex. Some of the girls in my middle school class had boyfriends and one of the girls, the popular girl in upper middle school (8-10th grade) would talk about her boyfriend and sex and all when we were 15. Meanwhile no guy had ever really taken that much interest in me.. or well, I did flirt with a guy I was into in my class but it didn't turn into anything because he was the cool popular guy and I was more the quiet reserved one. Not one of the "losers" that got bullied by them but just a grey mouse. I struggled with this grey mouse personality until I grew into myself more, figured out what I liked and what I stood for and developed confidence. I started Exploring my sexuality at 16 and at 18, I had developed the confidence to initiate my first sexual experience. After then I've just really continued to explore and challenge myself in new ways and pushing myself to try new things, which has gone badly by getting me into abusive situations but also has gotten me out on the other end where I developed my confidence and firmly knew where to set my boundaries.

As for rejection. I can't say I've ever really been rejected, but I've also never really gone after guys out of my league. I go after the guys I vibe with. I've been doing all the rejecting, mainly because I feel I have way more to offer the guy than the guys has had to offer me. I do worry sometimes that I will never find someone, because I am incredibly picky and have very high standards and expectations. I want to be the best version of myself who puts in a lot of effort on relationships and I expect the person in my life to be the best version of themselves who puts in a lot of effort into the relationship too, because I want the best life, not only for myself but for my partner and for us as a unit. Perhaps that isn't high standards, but it feels like it cause no guy has ever met that standard besides one man (who was incredibly generous and giving) who I ended up breaking up with due to different religious values and not seeing a future with them. I've never been friendzoned. I have however told men pretty bluntly they're in the friendzone if I'm not interested. I haven't really felt inferior to other women because they're smarter because I believe myself to be a very logical, rational and intellectual woman. I have however felt like my looks were inferior, but now I don't really care. I want men to like me and be attracted to me primarily for my brains and not just for my looks. By downplaying my looks, I know I will weed out some of the men who would only go after me for my looks, and yes, in my early 20s I got a lot of men going after me for my looks due to me having long platinum blonde hair and looking too conventionally attractive. As for jealousy, I believe it to be a pretty redundant and useless thing to be. If someone won't give me what I want, they ain't worth my time. If a guy I like rather want to fuck some other gal, good for him, cause then I'd rather wanna fuck someone else too, who is actually into me.

I know my story isn't the most common one. I know lots of women struggle with insecurity. I have too, but not since I was like a teen. I always know I was averagely pretty, I always knew I was smart, but I also thought people couldn't see that, and they didnt really see it either before I got older, became more confident and outspoken and came out of my shell, so to speak. I'm no longer a timid mouse and, frankly, now I kick ass. Teen me wouldn't dare to speak up. Adult me will give it to you straight. Adult me don't wanna be afraid, so adult me chooses not to be.

Some men on here have told me I'm too arrogant, too bold, even narcissistic for speaking positively about myself and my confidence, and I get that's not to everyone liking. Some people don't like loud or big personalities who thinks they're cool people, or hot. I get that, but by believing I am smart, cool, fun and interesting, I project that image to other people through the way I act, and in return they see me that way. In return I attract guys who tell me I'm cool and fun and interesting. It creates a positive feedback loop. I get that it's jarring for more insecure people to see someone with confidence, but that's their own hill to overcome, just like I overcame my own. I do really get it though. I used to be jealous of confident people too. I remember being jealous of the popular girls in school who had a boyfriend. I even thought of their confidence as arrogance. Looking back, yeah perhaps some of them were arrogant, but it was also me projecting my own insecurity and jealousy onto them that I think made me really dislike the popular cool people. For many years I hated this particular girl. She had what I didn't have. Popularity. Her boyfriend I crushed on. Beauty etc. I hated her so so much, and now 10 years later, I dont hold no grudges no more, because I overcame that hill, and I earned that confidence myself.

Now, it's not a matter off if I can get a guy, because I can.. I have hundreds of guys running down my DMs on dating sites and apps trying to chat me up. It's a matter of, not if I can get a guy, but if a guy I think is good enough and compatible enough for me.

Rook_Cross · 2022-09-22T18:34:22+00:00

LOL, yes to all. Just search reddit and you'll find examples of everyone of these, yes, even friendzone.

Peacesquad · 2022-09-22T18:53:45+00:00

Are you trolling?

SwimmingTheme3736 · 2022-09-22T19:02:03+00:00

I can not answer for all women only myself

They are not the struggles I have had

SlapThatSillyWilly · 2022-09-27T02:25:21+00:00

Title	Do women experience same struggles as men?
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Date	September 22, 2022 5:22 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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