I feel like the issue with modern dating is men are focused on trying to get a girl who doesn't like them to like them. More poetically it's about finding yourself in a girl. This means you need to find someone similar to you, like a girl who has similar interests, personality, goals, and moral values. That doesn't mean they have to be an exact clone of yourself. I used to convince myself to get crushes on girls who I thought we physically beautiful but this didn't work well, they all rejected me. In retrospect I didn't have much things in common with them and our personalities did not mesh well. Now I think I do have a genuine crush on someone who I can see myself in. She does have some traits that differ from me even though I'd say we are similar. So I think the problem isn't that men cannot get a women but rather men have harder time finding someone like them where it counts. But anyway that's just my perspective on dating for hetrosexual men.