Ex cheated

regertsrus · 2025-01-28T23:58:37+00:00

Hey Sometimes you have to get away and come back stronger. A 7m old is going to be mostly with her mom. She wont form memories for a long time. Long enough for you to right your ship and come back potentially. My wife over a decade and best friend for more than 2 decades turned out to be a pathological liar and cheat. My youngest of 3 kids was 6yo when i left 3 years ago into the depths of hell. First year was rough and i limited my exposure from my kids as i did not want them to see me like this. Today they are with me 50%. I moved back within a mile. Now the X is at risk of losing custody as the judge is aware of her detestable proclivity to lie with impunity.
My advice for you is to plot your return if you leave. That is really easy to accomplish. Your child is going to become self aware at around age 7. You have alot of time to move to a bigger opportunity, elevate your skillset and potentially move back to your small town. That is kind of how i did it over the past 3 years. Granted i am lucky my kids are too old for some child lawyer to decide where and how often they stay. But youre young bro. Go get your degree and another. Go get the job of your dreams. Find another woman to love and trust. Prepare for your return into your daughters life over the next few years. Or stay and see what happens

trannymcbride · 2025-01-26T20:04:11+00:00

Same boat here. Moved to a small town away from friends and fam to run ex’s family’s business…she cheated and got pregnant. I battle this daily not wanting to be here anymore and start over, but I have 3 kids and don’t think I could ever do it even though I know we’d all make it work as best we can. I guess that’s just our sacrifice we make. I know this doesn’t help, but letting you know you’re not alone. What state btw?

rsmiley77 · 2025-01-26T19:56:26+00:00

This is a tough one and many go through it.

I feel like I’d fight like hell to be a part of any child of mine’s world. Thankfully when I divorced I was in the place I could call home for years. You have to decide what’s most important to you. Good luck.

Any-Dare-7261 · 2025-01-26T11:52:19+00:00

I have a daughter. She was 2 when her mother decided to get into a brawl with me while holding her to bounce me out of the house, and move her AP in the house. She dislocated my daughter’s arm.

My little girl aches to see me. She fights with her brother for my attention and its hard on him because he gets less than nothing from his mother and I have to share. I guess my point is this, you will have a little girl that loves you more than a wife ever could. I cant leave mine. I have work opportunities and a lot of risk staying where I’m at but I really am the only parent worth a damn my kids have.

probebeta · 2025-01-26T06:29:01+00:00

Is your stbx someone you can reason with? You want to try and not lose custody. It's hard to have a 2 year old, live in a small town and be 26 years old single dad. You have so much runway, it'd be wasteful if you stick around. You'll probably just have to commute a lot, but if you create some kind of system maybe it's possible. Can you read, work, be productive while you're travelling? I'd look into that. It will be good for you and eventually your daughter too.

Massive_Context_9812 · 2025-01-26T05:57:18+00:00

Yeah I read the whole thing, I always do. I'd move personally. How far is the nearest big city

Expert-Raccoon6097 · 2025-01-26T01:58:09+00:00

You gave up the right to put yourself first when you became a father. Stay with your daughter. When she is grown and off to college then it is you time again.

dnbndnb · 2025-01-25T23:26:11+00:00

Let’s get you a better, more realistic answer. If you can, arrange custody such that she has it, and you have visitation rights. At that point, you can “leave” for greener pastures in the nearest urban area, and try to see your kid on the weekends. Chances are she’ll want those weekends free anyway. Do not tell her you plan to move. Get this thru the court as concerns the child, get it all on paper, and then do your thing.

It’s impossible to know if she will engage in parental alienation and turn your kid against you as she grows older, or if she finds a new guy and settles down with him and no longer cares about weekends free etc. The future is really out of your control. All you can do is what’s best for you while still keeping your child a high priority.

AffectionateAd6060 · 2025-01-25T18:37:25+00:00

You have oneitus and need options --- you're 26 --- the only way to maintain an ounce of dignity and respect and high value is to say fuck off b**** and download Hinge and get some options lined up.

Connect-Offer9090 · 2025-01-25T17:52:54+00:00

Why care? I’ve been cheated on before also and have seen them out and about. I just smile and know deep down that she will eventually cheat on him also.

Never let someone live rent free in your head.

stopher01 · 2025-01-25T17:03:15+00:00

I’ll never understand these scum bag men that willingly walk away with a married woman especially one that just gave birth 7 months ago.

huggsnkisses · 2025-01-25T16:53:30+00:00

If I were single with no kids and could go back in time I would get a job that paid for my boarding like a fisherman military working on the pipeline that's just me though

Title	Ex cheated
Author	New-Explorer3490
Upvotes	16
Comments	34
Date	January 25, 2025 5:06 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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