My wife and I have been married for 9 years and together for 16. We have gotten to a point where she tells me daily that she doesn't love me calls me a fat gross piece of shit and wants me out of her life. The verbal abuse has gotten real and hard. She started a new job and has opened her own bank account for her checks. She was on the phone with her grandmother and I overheard them talking about making sure I have zero access to the money she is making so she can save up to leave me. Her plan is to continue to use the money I make and not spend hers so she can move on with her life and leave me in the past. I told her when I heard this that once she gets her first check I will cancel her access to the bank I have had for myself since a teenager and will still pay all the bills but will not let her just use me to save. Am I in the wrong? What do I do?