Missing her lately

SaltSpecialistSalt · 2024-10-10T18:40:08+00:00

stop being an orbiter bro. she is using you as an emotional crutch and she knows what she is doing. whatever the past was, she choose to not love you anymore. she is choosing to inflict this pain on you. cut contact and move on

HoneydewLeading7337 · 2024-10-10T17:41:54+00:00

Stop talking to her. Go for a walk. Rub one out.

This will solve about 80% of your problems.

unK4G3D · 2024-10-10T16:43:05+00:00

I am there with you, bro. 40 years together and she recently said she wanted a divorce because she didn’t love me anymore and wants to be on her own to find herself….we are freaking 60 years old. I know who I am, but she apparently doesn’t. I see from several other posts by men that this is a common occurrence. What is it with the women on our society today? No loyalty or commitment to the vows they made. Marriage vows are a joke.

Positive_Rub_6696 · 2024-10-10T16:28:15+00:00

It’s funny some of the tricks our brains play on us sometimes. At one point I was having a decent post-divorce relationship with my ex. During a time of loneliness (not solitude) I would wonder if I’d made the right decision, but it would pass.

Then the first time we had dinner together with the kids after my oldest graduated high school… about 20 minutes in, I remember thinking, “and THAT’S why we’re divorced.

My bran had, convenient, forgotten the nagging, nitpicking I hated so much.

Remember the good times. I’m sure they happened. You don’t have to dwell on the negative, but not so bad to not forget that there are reasons you are where you are, and just move on.

Beamformer · 2024-10-10T15:56:22+00:00

This is what my ex wanted (or thought she would get) from me as she went about pursuing her new life plan. When I started dating, those women wanted strong assurances that I was fully over my then stbx. It's normal to go through these stages just don't get stuck such that you delay your future happiness and having a better version of the things you are missing now.

OrcasareDolphins · 2024-10-10T15:43:01+00:00

Stop. Talking. To. Her.

hazalo9 · 2024-10-10T14:49:09+00:00

You gotta quit talking to her man. I had the same problem but knew it wasn't good for me. Do no contact with her, fight that urge to need anyone and move on. Learn to be comfortable being uncomfortable. Stay strong bro!

Title	Missing her lately
Author	davej07
Upvotes	31
Comments	24
Date	October 10, 2024 2:33 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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