Hi guys

My (41m) divorce went really well and was formalised in June 22. We haven't spoken since Christmas (other than in front of the judge). It didn't get nasty or anything. I just did not want to talk about a foregone conclusion (her decision to abandon the life we had built up) and I definitely didn't want to talk about my feelings. The written exchanges are polite and to the point.

The thing is, I still have daily "internal" discussions and arguments with her. How what she did can't be forgiven. How all our joint friends don't understand her choice (she has not had contact with any of them in ten months). How many bridges she had burnt and how there's nobody to bail her out this time (she had a bit of a spending habit). I understand this is none of my business, probably besides the point and unproductive. It doesn't come from a vindictive place in me. It feels much more like the habit I had of talking her through her issues all these years persists while she is long gone.

How do you guys go about finding closure. Therapy? Dialogue? Alcohol and prostitutes? I tried dating but I definitely don't want a relationship at the moment.