Religious Preferences

fffrdcrrf · 2024-04-18T11:12:16+00:00

I mean your days are your days, if she’s serious about her religion and having your kids raised within faith maybe there’s a compromise like take the kids to a Easter sermon or do something that teaches the true meaning behind Christian holidays like easter or Christmas. You don’t have to necessarily be a believer to understand the meaning and history behind the culture and its practices. That is if you guys are committed to raising the kids that way. Might be difficult or confusing if you guys aren’t on the same page in that respect. If you’re willing to help raise your kids in faith like she is and she’s still making demands id say at that point she’s just controlling and just wants the kids, maybe having her kids being raised Christian is not whats important to her and she’s just using that as an argument which if true is sorta sad.

dday_throwaway3 · 2024-04-13T14:47:44+00:00

You have no backbone. You're still allowing the mother to be a gatekeeper to your children. That's a *choice*. If you want to change that, then there are two books you need to read and internalize:

No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover. It will address your validation seeking behavior and covert contracts.
When I Say No I Feel Guilty by Manuel J Smith. The Assertive Bill of Rights is written with you in mind.

After you read each chapter, I recommend you watch the corresponding chapter video on Rian Stone's YouTube channel. It will help you absorb and internalize the information faster. Don't skip ahead to the video - you need to read the book part first.

DivorceRecoveryMen · 2024-04-13T13:18:26+00:00

I agree with gnackered.... trade some days but exercise boundaries. I wouldn't even entertain her question about Easter. My standard replay was, 'thanks for asking' with no explaination. Keep it simple.

gnackered · 2024-04-13T12:22:39+00:00

I don't see a big deal if she offered to trade days. If she expects you to give up the days I do.

Flashy_Yam967 · 2024-04-13T10:29:10+00:00

It is your weekend, full stop.

Easter is the most important Christian holiday. Do you want your kids raised Christian, atheist, agnostic? If the answer is Christian, how do you celebrate Easter with your kid if you don't believe. Do you tell your child that Jesus was not real?

My ex always has Thursdays with our kids, meaning she has them in Thanksgiving. I haven't asked for every other Thanksgiving but I could. Tday just isn't important to me.

My ex is a wishy washy Christian, doesn't go to church, doesn't talk about God. Last two easters were her weekend. I asked, didn't demand, if I could take the kids to church on Easter morning and she allowed me to. My kids do a once a week youth Christian group, they do a week long overnight Bible camp. My ex could stop that if she wanted to but she want our kids in that environment, even if it is me putting the kids in that environment rather than her.

If you're okay with your kids being Christian, letting your kids be in a Christian environment on the most important Christian holiday is not a bad thing.

WartimeDad · 2024-04-13T05:50:47+00:00

No hate like Christian love. You’re dealing with a spiteful and ignorant person. Most religious people are fucking broken in the logic department, she gave up thinking years ago. Youre 100% right in this and she can eat cicadas.

DysfunctionalPeasant · 2024-04-13T00:22:25+00:00

Like for mine it states I get them every other weekend. If it falls on your weekend then she can F off

DysfunctionalPeasant · 2024-04-12T23:04:16+00:00

She can't tell you how to parent when you have the kids and vice versa. What does the court ppw say about visitation not including that holiday... like wasn't your scheduled visitation with kids if so then she has no right to keed kids regardless of her beliefs on religion.

RevolutionaryLaw8854 · 2024-04-12T22:42:44+00:00

Holidays should be spelled out in the parenting plan.

Lumptbuttcat · 2024-04-12T21:47:07+00:00

Simple. All about values.

I believe in God. You don’t. Our beliefs differ. So what. Not a point worth arguing.

At the same time, we both value honesty. Isn’t that more important?

Emotional_Lettuce251 · 2024-04-12T21:37:47+00:00

I know this isn't the point you're making, but Jesus is referenced by historians from that time, not just in the Bible.

Whether or not Jesus is the son of God is a different conversation.

Regardless, if it's your weekend, it's your weekend. Thus far, my stbxw and I have at least been able to amicably accommodate changes to our parenting time schedule on the few occasions a request has been made.

Old-Macaroon8148 · 2024-04-12T21:25:40+00:00

The Bible also says no premarital sex, which she doesn’t seem to have a problem doing with her boyfriend.

This is very simple. If it’s your time with your kids and there isn’t a good reason to change dates tell her to fuck off.

Title	Religious Preferences
Author	jrr087
Upvotes	6
Comments	39
Date	April 12, 2024 9:17 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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