Stay away from alcohol

OPs_Mom_and_Dad · 2026-03-09T03:59:08+00:00

Good rule of thumb for life: never drink to make things better, only drink to make things even better.

dpatron · 2026-03-09T01:21:54+00:00

Very good advice. Impairment of judgment/attitude/impulses when you are buzzed. Then the after effects, bloodsugar, latic acid, testosterone killer, estrogen promoter, depletion of vitamins and minerals, etc.. Stay sharp during wartime.

No-Seaworthiness969 · 2026-03-08T13:41:30+00:00

I drink because I like it. I don’t think I ever drank because I was stressed, upset or anything negative

troutbumtom · 2026-03-08T05:57:19+00:00

Not my experience but you do you.

TylerDenniston · 2026-03-08T04:12:28+00:00

I made a rule. I never drink alone. I’ll have some out with friends.

I am super worried about sliding down a slope if we’re to start cracking a bottle when I get home to an empty house.

Ok-Anything-3605 · 2026-03-08T03:47:51+00:00

Congrats to the men staying away from it. I asked my stbxw in marriage therapy if she wanted to quit drinking. The answer? ‘I don’t know’. what a sucker I was. I lost to a disease, I lost to her childhood trauma, I lost to her depression, I lost 50% of my kids. And my goal is to be the 100% best dad I can be because I know she can’t pull her own weight.

Divorced-Daddy69 · 2026-03-08T03:30:36+00:00

Stay away from gambling as well was my main reason for my divorce.

Now I have nothing I been clean for alcohol for 3 months and I feel great once in a while I want to have a drink but i remember all the stupid shit I done and all the memories I have lost so I think to myself is it worth going back the answer is hell no I want to be a better man a better father and I better person so I’m choosing to stay sober and ride this life raw.

Still working on my gambling problem though I still haven’t figure it out yet so stay away from that addiction is dump ass fuck and makes you broke as hell.

jakerr17 · 2026-03-08T02:49:18+00:00

High quality advice. IWNDWYT

KingJon85 · 2026-03-08T02:37:44+00:00

I've been sober from drugs and alcohol for a long time. I do occasionally have a beer - like maybe one or two on the holidays.

I got really lonely about 2 months into separation and decided to go to the bar. Made my brother take me. I probably had 3-4 drinks and 4 beers. I got MESSED UP.

I got a bartenders number but she didn't return my message, probably because I got too wasted and started stumbling around and shit. Embarrassing but a learning moment. On top of that i had a headache for 2 days afterwards and just felt like shit in general for awhile after.

My body doesn't process alcohol well in my 40s and I shouldn't press my luck because I was a bit of an alcoholic all throughout my 20's.

Kind of wish I could go out and casually have a drink because I used to pick up women from the bar occasionally. But I no longer enjoy drinking

TeddyPSmith · 2026-03-08T02:34:25+00:00

High quality post right here

sam_lathrop · 2026-03-08T02:28:37+00:00

💯

Sea-Signature109 · 2026-03-08T02:19:58+00:00

Not trying to hijack, just sharing.

506 days without alcohol. And it’s been absolutely astonishing how much my life in general has improved.

I spent years depressed and self medicating with the bottle. changing psych meds at least once a year, constant mental breakdowns, unmanageable emotions.
All shit I just accepted as “my normal” Quit drinking, started counseling, and intentionally focused on nurturing relationships I had neglected for a decade or more.
From 14-28 years old I had no aspirations to live beyond the next day. Every single day I was hoping I wouldn’t wake back up.

Things get better if you make them better.

a_day_at_a_timee · 2026-03-08T02:17:30+00:00

word.

divorce is one of the hardest things you will ever go through in your life. you will need all your wits about you if you want to survive it.

also i lost 25 lbs basically overnight and my blood pressure dropped from high 160 to 115 with coffee.

one more thing is that i found most high quality women find it very attractive.

i quit in the first few months of my divorce when my ex was trying to get full custody. seven years later and i still don’t drink.

Title	Stay away from alcohol
Author	smoked_beef25
Upvotes	79
Comments	27
Date	March 8, 2026 2:03 AM UTC (5 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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