another no girlfriend post

sickbabe · 2023-07-27T00:00:59+00:00

what's keeping you from learning to drive? I think it's really fucked up that we're car dependent in most of this cursed country too, but the truth is that sort of autonomy is necessary for dating.

and stop scrolling through nofap, that shit is bunk and reinforces a lot of the same unhealthy views on sexuality that purity culture does.

B_D_Ryan · 2023-07-27T00:08:40+00:00

Think about why you'd really want a girlfriend, is it mainly because of sex? Or do you mainly want a life partner to share intimate details with about your everyday lives? Having a girlfriend is nice but there are negatives to it. Keep in mind that a relationship is almost like a job and that it requires you to be the best you can be for the other person, I hope that you have a desire to be that.

If you want to increase your chances of meeting someone, do a hobby where people meet to the activity together, do something you enjoy but with others.

buzluu · 2023-07-27T00:00:00+00:00

You have,one ideal life in your mind,and once you cannot reach it,you feel suck.

Seeking porn everday make us wanna fxck all the time.In his book,robert glover suggests us,try to get a distanve with sex for a little bit time.That could break our sex obsession.

And ask yourself,What if the reason you were unhappy wasn't because you couldn't find a girlfriend?Sometimes,we hide our real unhappines with something else.

Find something to make you feel excited to return home,i dont know,create something.Its hard but,it looks like we have to create something even in the darkest eras,cause if we dont do it we could fall in there easily.İ hope you ll be well.

And you asked my coping mechanism,i am journaling,walking around.I know our desires cause unhappines,so i try to embrace little things in my life.Other than that,i feel suck,and watch porn,procrastinate etc.But i understood i have a huge power complex and as jung said "if there is a power love couldnt stand there".So i am trying to understand my ego,why i am created it etc.These are not solutionless problems buddy,i believe this way.

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ResistPrestigious373 · 2023-07-27T08:31:43+00:00

Dude, it's not just guys that need to have a car, it's women too. Even my friends that don't have a car, it gets annoying to interact with them because it's not an even exchange. You need a car because it's a sign of being responsible and allowes you to be self sufficient.

tomowudi · 2023-07-27T17:47:08+00:00

Focus on making friends with a few girls first - literally juts maintaining a platonic friendship. Find women whom you can treat like dudes with long hair and boobs. Commit to being friends with them the same way that you are friends with other guys. Learn from this friendship that girls are pretty much EXACTLY like guys, but with a different perspective since they have a forest of penises to wade through most of the time.

If you can do this, there are a number of side benefits that most guys don't realize.

Girls can make excellent wingmen - they have friends, they will give you feedback on your appearance, and they will tell you if your "icebreaker" is creepy or hilarious
Girls will be more comfortable talking with you about your feelings than most guy friends
Girls will be more comfortable talking with you about THEIR feelings and experiences dating guys - which will help you learn the way that girls experience dating interactions
Getting used to being friends with girls will take a lot of the nervousness out of talking with girls at parties or clubs, because you will have a lot more practice not having to monitor every aspect of your behavior
Being friends with girls will show you what girls can be like when they let their guard down. And it turns out, when they let their guards down, they are just like dudes. Really.
Lastly, being friends with girls will help you anchor that girls can be just as shitty as guys can be. This will help you sort of normalize the rejection you experience, because you will see examples of girls going through similar experiences as you. Everyone gets rejected, it just looks a bit different depending on what you have in your pants and who you are attracted to.

Green-Measurement-53 · 2023-07-26T23:57:45+00:00

I honestly relate to how you’re feeling about this situation. I wish I could offer you some sort of help but I’ve dealt with something similar and I’m not even sure what to say about it. I hope you all the best.

StarTrippinn · 2023-07-27T01:21:57+00:00

-The idea that people can confuse intimacy versus pleasure is very sad but it explains a whole hell of a lot.

-Its easy to tell during sex when a guy masturbates too much and its the worst sex ever.

i cant imagine that you would have much luck getting a female companion if you cant view her has a woman, and only as a vehicle for sex. Im guessing you dont have the charisma or charm to hide that very well. Another reason why you should actually get that under control. 1. To view women as human beings and 2. To be able to have a fun and open connection with another human, not just👌🏾👈🏾

TelevisionGloomy5458 · 2023-07-27T02:50:59+00:00

Do you strike up a conversation with girls ever? Can you go do something like yoga class or cooking class or community college classes where you can meet girls in real life. Eventbrite has in person and online events in your area likely. Can you figure out a bus route to go do these things on your own or bicycle or motorcycle if you can afford one. When’s the last time you struck up a conversation with a girl?

HelenHavok · 2023-07-27T03:18:34+00:00

I’m sorry you’re feeling a bit lost right now.

I understand you don’t have a car, but I’m curious in what other ways you can get around your area. I live in a city, so I know a lot of successful, partnered people without cars, but I also know that’s not the reality for people who live more rurally, because I grew up in a rural place. Are there busses? Do you have a bike? You say you work; are you able to start saving up for a car in the next year or are you not able to drive for some reason?

My observation is that the porn, masturbation obsession, and loneliness are symptoms of an underlying unhappiness with your current life situation. Just going to work and home (to porn) sounds wildly unfulfilling and that doesn’t have anything to do with girls and won’t be fixed by getting a girlfriend.

You need to work on yourself. Not to find a girlfriend or get sex, but to discover things that bring joy and interest back into your life. It’s time to start investigating hobbies that inspire and motivate you instead of mindless media scrolling and porn websites. Even without transportation, you can change your situation. Creating and building things is a great and fulfilling challenge. Could be simple woodworking projects off YouTube. Or drawing/painting (AI is really fun to play with if you don’t have great drawing skills). You could start a garden and grow weird species of tomato or orchids. Get a cook book at a thrift store and try making all the recipes. Join a club that sounds interesting or volunteer once a week somewhere, which can really nourish your soul and make you feel good.

My point is, the world seems a bit dim right now because you’re in a bit of a rut. The great news is that you don’t have to keep doing the things that are leaving you a little empty and sad. Take charge and try new stuff. Try and fail and try some other stuff until you find joy in your life that doesn’t boil down to women, sex, and the internet. Once you find things you’re passionate about, it’s amazing how much that attracts likeminded people to you.

eefr · 2023-07-27T10:22:14+00:00

Now that i’m on no fap seeing triggers everywhere is like a punch in the stomach.

Solution: don't do nofap. It's a dumb cult. Masturbation is normal and healthy. Take the edge off your sexual frustration before you go insane. It will help you relate to women as whole entire people.

RedPillDetox · 2023-07-27T10:57:29+00:00

For me thats the main reason why i would watch it is because i feel i can’t get that experience in real life

Did you ever:

Approach dozens of women in real life (wether it's cold approaching on appropriate venues like nightlife or warm approaches like friends of friends)?
Tried to ask many women out on dates (and i'm not talking about just random strangers online, i'm talking about women that you've actually met or had any long, meaningful interactions)?
Tried to "pull the trigger" with the women you date and made an actual move, like going in for the kiss or tried to make your interest obvious?
Have realistic expectations of what you can genuinely get and don't go after women that are either unavailable or just that much more attractive than you?
Have actually made anything in your capacity to improve your situation in terms being more datable, such as getting the actual logistics to date women like having your own car or a place to bang, improve looks, get an education, etc?
Are in your 30s+ (most people eventually land dates at some point in their lifes)?
Are in the 0,0001% of the population with a disability of sorts that makes you dependent of third parties or otherwise grotesque features that would deem you undattable for the overwhelming majority of people?

If you replied "No" to 2 or more of these questions then simply put you're not "undatable", you're just not trying hard enough, and are a self-condescending dude whose fault was merely reading Incel propaganda on Internet and falling for that shit...

NiceTrybutIdc · 2023-07-31T16:49:25+00:00

Move to the city and no one has cars... Most have a GF though.

Aggravating_Crab3818 · 2023-08-08T04:40:01+00:00

How old are you? Number one is you need to grow up. If you're not able to use some Vulcan Logic understand that there's nothing more pathetic than a man who is feeling sorry for himself over a situation that only exists in your head. If you have been to therapy you will know that there are thoughts that you discuss with your therapist, because once you understand them better you will be able to see how pathetic those "life isn't fair and I'm so hard done by".

What happened to the women that movies and TV shows says that I am owed for being a nice/ competent person.

If you guys actually had any real problems in your life then you would just be focused trying to improve your problems, and help yourself, your family and friends and other people.

That's what people do when they have had problems in their lives - help other people who need it.

I personally find helping others to be really rewarding. I can't even fathom what it would be like to be someone who didn't care about other people. You can care about someone on a surface level because you have good chemistry and you like the way that they look. But once you realise that you were in love with a fantasy of perfection, and people aren't supposed to be perfect - they are supposed to be real.

If you're still finding hurt, I suggest you talk to a therapist to help you work through the unrealistic, entitled expectations you have been having difficulty with. And helping you to move away from beliefs that aren't true, and thinking them is actually creating the very problem that you have been complaining about. 🤔

Of course, people would rather believe someone or something else is to blame for their problems. It takes a person with some maturity to be able to take responsibility for your own own life.

Title	another no girlfriend post
Author	ShiestyTrackhawk
Upvotes	9
Comments	37
Date	July 26, 2023 11:46 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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