Can we talk about boring?

Rudd504 · 2022-05-01T17:09:32+00:00

No matter what anyone says to you on here, you won’t believe it. These people are grounded in reality and you are not. You need professional help. Seek therapy immediately.

JAM3SBND · 2022-05-01T15:56:09+00:00

Confidence and hobbies, get them.

Jesus buddy from having taken a quick scroll of your profile it looks like all you do is wallow in a hole of self pity. Who's gonna want to be with a guy like that? From the picture you posted of yourself, you're not even bad looking, a beard trimmer and some pomade would make you look like a perfectly average, if not good looking guy. But all you do is wallow in self hatred, can you blame chicks for not being attracted to that?

JMacPhoneTime · 2022-05-01T16:54:55+00:00

I understand that I'm boring, instead of changing myself to attract women lol. Wish I could move somewhere different, a place where women aren't attracted to music stars and having to be "Funny", or "Interesting".

Where do people not what their partners to be "interesting"? I cant imagine being with someone who I dont find personally interesting and/or doesnt find me interesting.

What would you even do? Talk about things that bore each other and somehow have that improve your life?

MelodiousTones · 2022-05-01T16:12:34+00:00

Yeah no it’s all woman’s fault. Are you attracted to ugly boring women?

-Faoladh- · 2022-05-01T19:30:44+00:00

That’s in your head. My ex was just like you. Quiet, boring, 24 year old virgin. I thought he was just misunderstood, no turns out he was actually a massive asshole and fake nice guy and even though I offered to do anything under the sun for him sexually and am attractive (Kim K proportions, all natural) after all that complaining to me about how he never ‘got anything’ from women before me, he got bored of sex and went back to watching porn. You throw yourself at the quiet nerd guys who tell you stories about how other girls rejected them and they usually respond by acting totally disinterested after you give them what they want. My boyfriend after that also just stayed indoors and played video games every day. No job, no place of his own, no car, no nice clothes. I didn’t care but what I did care about was the fact I lived next door but always expect me to come to him, would blow me off repeatedly for a whole month etc. Made me feel like a fool for making the first move then next thing I know I’m being told to get out on Valentine’s Day because he wants to play Destiny. Believe me there are attractive women who do all the emotional labour, all the work, all the compromise, all the travel, pay their way and put themselves on a silver platter for the most plain guys who don’t ever try and I bet once you have a woman you’ll say 2D pussy is better or something.

Mari_Mari_Mariana · 2022-05-01T17:12:28+00:00

From your post history, it looks like professional help would make a bigger difference than a relationship right now.

vcreativ · 2022-05-01T17:01:27+00:00

I realise it's difficult to see, especially from your perspective, but a douche attracts a douche. So any woman, no matter how attractive she seems is out once she goes out with someone you know as a fact is a douche.

Re attractiveness: take care of what you have, be athletic if possible, aim at peace with yourself, eat well, and it'll show on your face. One of the most attractive ways to look at other people is if you neither expect nor need anything from them, because you're enough for yourself.

Boring will be super relative, find something you're into, then find some people that are into it to. Ideally that includes some overlap with some women. It shouldn't be the sole reason you're doing it, but it's allowed to play a role.

Doesn't help I was the ugliest guy in our grade, was rated as such.

Where on earth did you go to school? That's extremely hurtful.

xvszero · 2022-05-01T18:29:17+00:00

Boring is boring. Few people are attracted to boring.

That doesn't mean you have to become a rock star. Everyone is into different stuff. My wife likes the little sprite art I make.

Inareskai · 2022-05-01T19:36:55+00:00

Genuine questions:

What do you find interesting (in general, not in people)
What do you think makes another person 'funny' or 'interesting'?

SSaturnis · 2022-05-02T01:29:09+00:00

Be more critical and skeptical of how internalizing culture and society can affect and control your mind. Culture and idealogy can manufacture and artificially create desperation within ourselves.

Is it that you need a relationship to properly be an adult? Or is it that your attachments and desires, identification with your wishful thinking, is creating conflict within yourself?

Yes, society can be quite lookist, but you can find people that aren't if you hold lookism critically, instead of submitting to any judgement.

WillSmithTriste · 2022-05-02T01:29:09+00:00

There's no place in the world where people don't want interesting partners

Yesm3can · 2022-05-01T21:03:30+00:00

Pom, isn't time to put the blame on your parents already?

Your genetic were given by them, your inability to be social and cope with life and loneliness? Well, that came from them too no? Parents have one job. Preparing their offsprings for their adult life.

You and your situation are an anomaly. Depressed, little money, living with parents, finding no healthy copium for insecurities, etc. You know that most men your age are not in your position right? Mostly because their parents raised them right.

Have this conversation with your parents if you want to start to heal. Ask them why they dropped the ball so hard.

Tostitos153 · 2022-05-01T23:15:49+00:00

What do you do for work? And why don’t you go out and try different activities that you’ve never done before?

Red_Trapezoid · 2022-05-01T17:43:30+00:00

I'm going to be straight with you. When you tell me that guys in highschool with girlfriends were douchebags, I'm willing to believe that you are probably right about most of them. Here's the catch though, odds are you were way worse than you remember and probably not nearly as kind as you thought you were.

Those douchebags(assuming they actually were) had something to offer, whatever it was, it was at the very least enough to get a temporary girlfriend. Probably not enough for a long term relationship because almost nobody finds their life partner in highschool.

You are not going to find a woman on the planet who desires a "nice guy" filled with self-pity that has absolutely no interest in personal development. You will have to bring something to the table. Ideally a collection of different positive attributes. And this is something that will NEVER end. There will be no "I finished working on myself". You don't have to do this for women. I personally have completely given up on women and self-improve solely and exclusively for myself. It's not the future I planned but it's better than what you are doing now.

Hygiene, mindfulness, attentiveness, fitness, finance, hobbies, worldliness, class, style, articulation, various other skills. Get into something. I recently got back into Magic: the Gathering of all things. It's fun. As you can imagine I'm not playing that to attract women. I'm playing because it's fun and a chance to socialize. Before that I would just take city walks because it's a cheap, healthy hobby. A Spotify account made it a lot more fun.

Title	Can we talk about boring?
Author	Pomeranian111
Upvotes	0
Comments	133
Date	May 1, 2022 3:16 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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