Adding on to the funny post earlier about hobosexuals. Men using women to have a roof over their head is common this time of year. Here is a very helpful video I watch every now and then that I believe will be helpful to you ladies in weeding out men who just want to use you to have a place to stay

DiosaCordilia · 2021-12-06T00:03:17+00:00

Spot on. Reminded me of a situation I was in when I was a young pickme.

NEVER move in yourself too. I did it out of desperation one time myself within 3 months, because of my situation in that time (unstable) plus I didn't trust him and I wanted to prove my intuition wrong (well I didn't, found out he was still addicted to cocaine and alcohol, plus cheated on me 🤡) Became his full household bangmaid, became so depressed and nearly psychotic because of the way he gaslit me and emotional abused me, went to actually see a doctor because I thought I was going crazy, got anti-psychotics (fucking absurd but that's another story), eventually found out about everything within 6 months together. Moved out and my "mental illness" disappeared 🙃 NEVER. EVER. AGAIN.

Be financially stable YOURSELF. 2. Live ON YOUR OWN. 3. AGAIN; Never MOVE IN. 4. NEVER let a man live in your house if he can not provide.

DuchessDurag · 2021-12-05T22:42:59+00:00

Some guys have no shame. Some will ask “Who do you live with”?

Maleficent_Tune98 · 2021-12-06T02:06:41+00:00

This woman said that so perfectly! Also, her eyes are gorgeous.

I walked off of a second date 4 years ago because I found myself a wild hobosexual pretending to be a functional adult. He told me he "felt great about our relationship," believed he was "falling for me" and guess what he asked? You guessed it: If I had a spare key now that we were "in a relationship." On a second date.

I ran faster than the Roadrunner out of that restaurant. This hobo thought spending $50 on dinner would gain him access to a free place to stay. Wouldn't surprise me in the least if he is still out scamming vulnerable women.

I have encountered so many of these men in the wild, it's actually gross. It is especially more pronounced during "cuffing season" aka Fall/Winter in places where it gets cold/snows or so they won't be alone for the Holidays and might get a free meal from their new girlfriends unsuspecting family.

Sage_Planter · 2021-12-05T16:56:58+00:00

While this advice is spot on, I also want to add that you need to be very clear about the division of labor in the home before moving in with someone. This video focuses entirely on finances, which are extremely important, but don't forget to vet for household management, too.

It can be easy to be tricked into thinking "oh, he's got his finances together," and then be stuck doing all the scrubbing, washing, and folding once you move in together.

Jaszuna · 2021-12-05T18:12:31+00:00

My brother is a hobosexual.

extraodi · 2021-12-05T19:30:55+00:00

Solid.

Vee0506 · 2021-12-06T01:49:06+00:00

I have had this happen and it was traumatizing. He said he had his own place yet was always at mine, he tried to get me to get rid of my cat because he was allergic, he would be on my couch when I got home from work, he would sleep in my bed when all I wanted was to be left alone for the night because I work... A lot. He bought groceries ONCE and then complained when I was too exhausted from work to cook and tried to make me feel bad about it.

This was before my FDS days and even before Reddit. I've come a long way.

The final straw was when he tampered with my birth control. Yes, I got pregnant. I dealt with that on my own, kicked his ass to the curb and swore I would never allow myself to be put in that situation ever again. He fought and kicked and cried that I can't do this to him. It was February and cold. He had nowhere to go and that I was the bad person. Ugh. I feel sick that I allowed such behaviours

MyBeautifulSweetsong · 2021-12-06T05:22:01+00:00

If the relationship progresses to moving in I'd rather move in with him because I want to be able to pack up and leave and not worry about having the police get him out.👮‍♂️

I also have a rule I think every woman thinking about living with a man should have.

IF YOU DON'T HAVE ENOUGH MONEY TO MOVE OUT IF HE STARTS TRIPPING YOU DON'T HAVE ENOUGH MONEY TO MOVE IN WITH HIM

my supervisor told me a story of how her marriage fell apart and he tried to get salty with her in the morning and she called up storage got a truck loaded her shit and was gone by the afternoon. Rented just a room for a few months and found an apartment later.

lakat17 · 2021-12-05T19:35:50+00:00

Queen energy mother!! Kick🦵 these broke as man outta here! Why should we subsidize a man living arrangement!??

crapeescape · 2021-12-05T17:59:41+00:00

Couple years ago in Los Angeles I dated a very cute immigrant guy who had no visa, no money and no job. Within 1 week he was coming over to my house at least 5 days a week for free food, sex and a place to sleep. He was fun to be around so I tolerated it, but I would never agree to do that again. Dude would literally ask me when breakfast was ready 😵‍💫

herbivorouscarnivore · 2021-12-05T18:27:31+00:00

I’m running on two hours of sleep, but is she talking about a man asking to move in together, or him asking to crash at her place because he needs somewhere to go?

GimmeThemBabies · 2021-12-06T01:49:32+00:00

why is this my best friend to a t? except shes about to have a baby with him and his two daughters live with her too now.

all_or_nothing_bet · 2021-12-05T18:38:46+00:00

Smart woman!

CoconutJasmineBombe · 2021-12-05T21:58:51+00:00

Wise words! Also her eyes are so 🔥

ItsFreezen · 2021-12-06T13:48:15+00:00

Good Advice.

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