Gold-digging/sugar-babying is a waste of your most valuable resource, ladies, which is your time & attention. I admit that I'm coming from a place of privilege and never had debilitating debt or expenses that I felt I needed to grift my way thru or die trying. For the small number of cases where starvation is the alternative, go ahead and waste the money of foolish men if this is truly the best use of your time.

For the vast majority of us, dating or being in a relationship with a man for whom we have so little respect that we would scam him for money: please stop wasting your time. No trips, clothing and trinkets are worth wasting precious time that could be better spent enjoying the worthy company of a friend, family member, pet or HVM, or improving your situation yourself.

They say "if you teach a man to fish, he'll eat for a day, but if you get in his will and poison his fish, you'll be set for a lifetime". HAHAHAHAH, I jest... But in all seriousness, the time you spend to get educational certifications, teach yourself marketable job skills, budgeting and investing will pay off for you every day for the rest of your life. Not just the scant handful of years that Old Man Pennyworth is financing your nails and hair...

And I say hair and nails there deliberately, because the money a sugar daddy spends is intended to enhance HIS experience of YOU, not your own experience. He doesn't GAF if your dream is to go to Paris. That's not why he took you there. It's so he can brag to all his buddies how he fucked you in Paris. Anything he buys for you is so he can fuck you in/on/under/over/around it. Sisters, respect yourselves. These men think that because they pay for you time, they own you. You are worth more than that to us.

ETA: I made a response to a post that has since been deleted, but I wanted to clarify something: I am not, in any way, suggesting that a woman is wrong to date and vet men who are HV to begin with and decide that he needs to also be within a certain income/net worth range. Power to your standards.

I'm talking about a woman who, at the expense of building herself up and personal safety/health, pursues a relationship (or a child) with a wealthy LV man, with the express intention of securing a certain lifestyle for herself/her child, I have to be honest: I do not respect a decision like that. This theoretical woman would have:

- intentionally sacrificed happiness with a HV man because she is now tied to this LV wealthy man;

- intentionally sacrificed an upbringing in a loving, HV household for her child;

- put herself at the financial mercy of an imbalanced power dynamic with a LV man, putting herself and her child at risk of abuse

Many of our mothers and grandmothers have stories about the "deals" they had to make to support themselves and their children. Many of these are horror stories. As I said, if a woman is in dire straits, then sometimes we need to make short-term sacrifices. But to intentionally seek to put yourself in a position of service to a wealthy man, instead building your own wealth, is fools gold.