Anyone else get told they’re too picky by family/friends?

staywiththecrown · 2020-08-09T05:01:28+00:00

Your post was so funny!! "Deep sea trawling" and "First mate on a pedo's boat"?!! 😂

marsupialface · 2020-08-09T04:05:11+00:00

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StrainingMyNeurons · 2020-08-09T12:00:38+00:00

I keep getting told by friends that my standards are unrealistic, because I want a guy who’s achieved at least as much as me in the main areas of life. How is that unrealistic, if I did it, all by myself, not helped by anyone? I’d rather stay single rather than mother some trash again.

rosa_sally · 2020-08-09T07:56:32+00:00

Plus the fact that there must be something wrong with me as I can’t find a boyfriend. I could have a boyfriend if I wanted to, I’d just rather not waste my time with a LVM. I’d rather be single forever than do that again.

four_q · 2020-08-09T10:18:42+00:00

Yeah. My mom says I’m a player. Can’t help that they are all worthless and I had to go thru them like panties

ChocoBananza · 2020-08-09T07:45:35+00:00

Yes, I’ve heard that before. I take it as a compliment.

MissKinkykittykat · 2020-08-09T13:56:13+00:00

It is the absolute bain of my existence.

'Come on! Give him a chance. Don't be shallow.'

Conveniently forgetting these creatures are expressing interest because they find me physically attractive. Let's ignore that, shall we?

My colleagues insist I'm picky with unrealistic standards because I refuse to date men without their own mode of transport. I live in an area with no public transport. Not wanting to pick them up in my car as though they're my child makes me a gold digger.

Wanting anything beyond a basement dwelling unwashed NEET kid is met with harsh judgement and insults. I dated one for 6 years. Rather be single.

I've managed to purchase two cars, work two jobs simultaneously, earn a BSc degree, move out and take incredible care of my physique. Why is it so wrong and unacceptable for me to seek an equal?

theninjalibrarian · 2020-08-09T15:24:50+00:00

All the time. But I’ve noticed that it usually comes from people who are in unstable, unhealthy marriages so I try not to listen to what they have to say. I feel like some, not all, married couples really try to put on a front that they have it all together and are living their ‘happily ever after’ when they know they made a mistake and are actually miserable. And it’s usually those people, in my experience, who will tell you to hurry up and find a man and get married. There is a lot of pressure on me to get married. I haven’t been in a relationship in 2 years and I’m ok with that. That last one was a real wake up call for me. I would rather be single the rest of my life than end up wasting away my life being miserable having to mother a man child.

bey124 · 2020-08-09T07:37:58+00:00

Lol. Yes, I’ve been told I’m too picky numerous times. It’s fine by me. If preferring to spend my time with someone worthy of it makes me picky, then heck yeah, I’m picky!

shortywannarock · 2020-08-09T12:59:14+00:00

I’ve heard it so many many times— usually from men who I wouldn’t look twice at. My response is always the same; just because I’m hungry doesn’t mean I’ll eat shit.

waddamelone · 2020-08-09T17:13:24+00:00

They’ve told me I’m picky but still manage to pick the wrong one lmao. Made that mistake twice and never again. Fortunately those mistakes taught me what I really do and don’t want. And I never did anything with those people so it’s whatevaaa.

EclecticBarbarella · 2020-08-09T16:59:03+00:00

I get told the same thing and I just smile and agree with them. In today’s world, that’s a compliment. I tried dating losers to not be single when I was younger and I literally don’t have the patience for it so 🤷🏼‍♀️

_Atalanta_ · 2020-08-09T19:08:37+00:00

An older co worker once told me that my standards were too high. 🤔 She was single, aged 40, really wanted to meet someone. I decided that she was not a great person to take advice from on this issue! She was a lovely person, but clearly her own advice was not even helping her!

marsupialface · 2020-08-15T08:48:01+00:00

I think there is a huge difference between being picky about physical traits / very high income and being picky about a man’s character

Title	Anyone else get told they’re too picky by family/friends?
Author	marsupialface
Upvotes	104
Comments	33
Date	August 8, 2020 11:47 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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