Can someone explain to me the difference between exclusive and girlfriend? Why wouldn’t a guy just make you his girlfriend? What’s this middle “label?”

TheOGJammies · 2020-07-23T03:56:11+00:00

Sexual strategy of all men is to mate guard you while keeping his options open

ilikeoreosandpussy12 · 2020-07-23T03:45:47+00:00

To my understanding I always thought being exclusive and calling someone your boyfriend/girlfriend were interchangeable. I think you should talk to him about what his idea of being exclusive is.

EclecticBarbarella · 2020-07-23T03:49:20+00:00

I’ve seen on other dating subs that some people think there’s “levels”. It seems like it’s mostly guys who want exclusive to mean “having sex monogamously” (or at least the woman’s not talking or sleeping with anyone else but most scrotes expect sex by the third date nowadays so it usually involves sex) without the actual “girlfriend” title because it’s less commitment/expectations on the man. I don’t see a difference either. He sounds wishy-washy.

dntbfllikeidid · 2020-07-23T04:45:17+00:00

He wants to make sure only he has access to your body (preferably raw sex, of course 🤢), while he fucks around with other women on the side, cause little boys don’t like to share.

jayda92 · 2020-07-23T07:36:05+00:00

Fellow European here. I know how confusing it is. If you're exclusive, you're his gf and he's your bf.

BEWARE. You're not married. You're legally single and still perceived as 'alone'. Guys have an agenda by 'being exclusive'; that's called mate guarding.

If you WANT the be exclusive, by all means, do that but don't get your hopes up for a future together unless he specifically asks you to marry him or talks about that with you ♥️ (unless you don't want a future with him or don't want to get married, then he's passing time with you; which can also feel good on your terms).

Europeans need to vet even harder since the entitlement of our men is even worse (!) than the guys over in the states/Asian countries. Good luck!

strainedcrow · 2020-07-23T03:53:04+00:00

I thought they were the same. If a guy wants to be exclusive, only seeing each other, without dating other people yet can't refer to me as his gf that's a hard no from me!! No middle ground there

goatismycopilot · 2020-07-23T12:51:40+00:00

If he will not call you a GF it means you can date other men. Honestly you can do it anyway. 8f something is so complicated for somebody that they have to come up with 100 levels of nuance to keep you around while offering nothing then they are wasting your time.

2020-07-23T07:23:27+00:00

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galian84 · 2020-07-23T13:50:55+00:00

They don't want you seeing (or sleeping with) anyone else, but they want to keep their options open. If you complain, they just say "well, we're not boyfriend and girlfriend!"

My last ex did that and stupidly, pre-FDS, I fell for it. It was his way of keeping me sexually exclusive with him, but he didn't want the responsibilities of being my boyfriend, and later on, I found out he was talking to other women.

_Atalanta_ · 2020-07-23T19:52:53+00:00

For a pickmeisha or a fool, this question could be a PHD. For a HV FDS woman, not even worth brain power. Either you are engaged/married, or single!

un_dau · 2020-07-23T16:23:25+00:00

It means one thing to him and another to you. And usually only benefits them too.

Exhibit A: my recent ex. "Exclusive" to me meant emotional commitment, planning for a future together, a relationship. "Exclusive" to him meant I couldn't fuck anyone else.

Title	Can someone explain to me the difference between exclusive and girlfriend? Why wouldn’t a guy just make you his girlfriend? What’s this middle “label?”
Author	Quizillla
Upvotes	40
Comments	41
Date	July 23, 2020 3:01 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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