Disappointing Role Models: Athletes, Only Fans, and Toxic boyfriends

luvmyvulvaxoxo · 2021-06-01T02:29:45+00:00

I used to follow lots of women who travel on Instagram.... and then I started to realize how many posted thing swimsuits and photos men would masturbate to.

It’s a shame because there’s not a ton of women who travel alone. I started realizing there was a bf behind the camera for a lot of them.

It’s honestly hard to find accounts by women who aren’t trying to appeal to the male gaze. It’s like we’ve forgotten we can be attractive, look good in a photo, and not pander to men.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-06-01T11:04:22+00:00

I'm so glad you brought the subject of role models.

I think that having role models is important and helps especially for girls and younger women to gain a better perspective of what they wish to become as adults.

Patriarchy is so good at wiping dirt from the males it puts on a pedestal that we believe them to be without flaw. As for women, patriarchy only allows the women that are no threat to its structure. there are male-approved role models for girls and nasty women role models. patriarchy pits on the women that challenged its structure.

-take for example Margaret Tatcher - they called her names, they made her into a baddie, a frigid b*tch, a menopausal b*tch.

notice how many of these slurs are related to her capacity to breed and have sex?

as if that's a women's whole worth. breed and be available and attractive to males for sex and company.

be a hole to f*ck and a pretty face to the party but don't you dare challenge men or have ideas.

-take another woman that didn't bend down to become a male-approved role model" Mutti or Angela Merkel of Germany.

girls are taught that it's better to be like Barbie and have breast enlargement surgery and bleach their assholes rather than go to University and get a degree and then have ideas and ambition.

they are taught that it's bad to have a role model such as Angela Merkel because she's old, practically a crone, fat and menopausal.

they should be like "Barbie", bleach their assholes and get laser hair removal and some fillers and implants and then start an Only Fans but also promise to star in their first anal with a major porn company so the bois know they're serious.

-Also, take Kamala Harris - OMG! now she's worse than Trump! Oh no! She did this and then did that! Oh no! Patriarchy tells little girls it's better to be grabbed by the pussy than to be deemed "difficult", challenging and opinionated.

girls are pretty much socialized (read: forced, coerced) into thinking they need to make their lives all about attracting men and serving men. Lesbian women are always questioned for their orientation and dismissed as being valid - tell me you haven't read how men propose lesbians that their dick will magic away their lesbianism!?

-or take Vigdís Finnbogadóttir - the first woman president of Iceland who was actually a divorced single mother.

Most of these women that challenged men have been vilified by the patriarchy and always questioned and deemed unfit to grasp power and be leaders.

So for role models, we need to dig deep. And we need to be very critical thinkers because we need to weed out what the patriarchy pushes to us as "role models" (palatable congenial male-approved girls) or vilified women (women who upset the bois and threatened their leadership and competed with them).

I mean, what would you choose? a bleached asshole or a degree in pol sci/ law?

AdvantageOdd5449 · 2021-06-01T01:59:51+00:00

Totally agree. I was so disappointed when I saw Naomi Osaka withdrew from the French Open because of social anxiety. I think we all know what that was about 😫

TagTrog · 2021-06-01T04:28:10+00:00

I read this quote on Twitter (Breya M. Johnson) and wanted to share: Naomi Osaka is demonstrating the power of refusal. To refuse work at the expense of our health, wellness, & more. To refuse humiliation under the guise of professionalism. Refusal is beautiful. It’s even better when we do it collectively. Support her and workers who aren’t rich.

dr_mcstuffins · 2021-06-01T23:28:45+00:00

I wouldn’t victim blame her for the swimsuit stuff - it’s considered industry standard, thanks to Sports Illustrated.

I’ve had a final, complete nervous breakdown and had to suddenly completely, 100% leave my professional career behind. It has been over a year and I’m still not working yet. That’s how serious a true breakdown is.

You don’t choose when your ultimate, big breakdown happens. It chooses you, after you ignore your body screaming at you to stop for years on end yet you push on in the name of professionalism and ambition. There’s a whole book on how this leads to chronic illness, cancer, chronic pain syndromes, and autoimmune disease called When the Body Says No by Dr. Gabor Maté. If you are in a challenging career, it is required reading.

Her body has told her no. She doesn’t have a choice - she has to stop. It has nothing to do with the swimsuit thing, though that surely exacerbated her decline and massively sped it up. She knew she was betraying herself.

All high performers need to understand how high the risk of a breakdown is. None of us are invincible. The higher we perform, the shorter the career lifespan likely will be.

betsybasset · 2021-06-01T02:27:38+00:00

probably the closest RM I see is AOC.

Why do I suspect Naomi Osaka is plunging into depression? Her body language seems closed and disengaged.

jupiterstef · 2021-06-01T02:09:10+00:00

could you talk more about naomi’s boyfriend? i haven’t heard anything about him.

christianlady_ · 2021-06-01T07:41:36+00:00

Yanet is on of??? So disappointed

bizzybumblebee · 2021-06-01T15:47:24+00:00

to be fair, naomi osaka is into fashion design. she even had a collab with adeam. i think she contributed to the swimsuit design in the insta post.

azula8 · 2021-06-02T05:46:45+00:00

Im so confused about Yanet. Dont you need a certain professional image to be a broadcast meteorologist? Does she not make enough in her news casting gig? Like wont she be fired for this conduct?

Im not Mexican so maybe someone can explain.

Title	Disappointing Role Models: Athletes, Only Fans, and Toxic boyfriends
Author	CashMoneyCarrots
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Date	May 31, 2021 11:57 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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