So I’ve been separated from my (soon to be) ex husband for just about a year. He left me when I started demanding him step up to the plate and be a man. He was a disappointment to every degree. He left me with all the bills and the apartment I couldn’t afford on my own so I had to sell my wedding rings to afford food.

I had been living in the suburbs for him for years and was just done with living out there, I’m a city person always have been. He promised me we would always move there and when I told him to now honor that promise after 6 months of marriage he bowed out. He told me he couldn’t leave his friends (he would have been an extra 30mins away from them) and (janitor) job.A few weeks after he left he started calling me demanding our bed and his engagement ring back. When I told him I had to sell it he hung up and called me back a few minutes later. Except this time it was a female voice. She told me that I was “fucked up” and that “they” were getting a lawyer. I just hung up and then had a panic attack in my car. I had a mutual friend confirm for me a few days later that he was dating this girl. Him leaving made a whole of a lot more sense.

That hurt. But he did a few others things that really felt like lemon juice in the cut. He walked out on me right as the pandemic hit, when toilet paper and food were flying off the shelves. That same month he was about to get some pretty good health insurance he knew I had been excited to be apart of since I couldn’t afford my own plan and my job didn’t offer any. He told his job not to put me on the plan.

It’s been a year now and you would think this LVM who left me for what seems like another woman and made a point not to have me on his insurance would have divorced me. Nope. He hasn’t even lifted a finger to do it. I’ve been spiteful for this last year in not doing it because I I everything (cooked/cleaned/planned the wedding) everything for this guy. I figured the least he could do was spend the $300 for an uncontested divorce and deal with the legal paperwork. He left me and I still have to do the work for him.

Today after finding out insurance for my job is $300 I called a decent insurance company for a quote. They gave me one for $100, not bad. Until they asked if I was married I said legally and they said because we filed taxes separately I don’t qualify for the tax break and would have to pay upwards of +$400. I cried.

I’m filing the paperwork tonight. I’m just so aggravated I have to do this. That I know he just spends all his free time drinking and playing video games (this was confirmed by a mutual friend) and can’t be bothered. Just sitting around on his cheap ass waiting for me to do it.

On the bright side I won’t be married to him anymore but of course I’m still doing work/using my own money on this dick.