With a kick up the ass, do these men change? With a very real threat of me leaving, will he change? I've realised in 4 years my boyfriend has only planned one date. I've planned all of our anniversary celebrations. I've told him my heart isn't in the relationship anymore and he's so depressed because of it. He's lost a lot of weight and is grooming himself because he saw a post on here where I questioned if I fancy him 😬

He's a great, feminist, anti-porn, kind and sensitive guy. He truly loves and cares about me. He's been crying every day when he thinks about how much he neglected me. He said he can't believe what he's done and he hasn't been living, he's wasted time playing too much WoW and not planning a life with me. He wants to change but I keep looking back and thinking how stupid I was to plan our anniversaries and weekends away. It was all me. In 4 years he didn't plan a date (apart from this Valentine's) an anniversary celebration or a weekend away. It was all me.

He's absolutely gutted and is levelling up. But I'm fed up. I'm fed up of lockdown, I've not seen him for 3 months. We play Animal Crossing together and watch Netflix but I'm so bored of it all. Yet he is such a great guy, he is my rock. He is making me my favourite Pokémon out of plastic. He painted my webcam for me. He built and customised my gaming PC. He drives 1.5 hours to see me every weekend. He cooks for me. He's hygienic which is more than most men can say. I do love him but this is just so frustrating.