Even during lonely times.

AyemHerself · 2020-04-20T01:47:05+00:00

An ex is an ex for a reason. No excuses.

224Y0U · 2020-04-20T03:28:23+00:00

I needed to hear this

LuckyCharmsLass · 2020-04-20T03:41:42+00:00

To be perfectly honest, I check to see if the trashtruck has been by to pick it up and carry it off.

happyduck18 · 2020-04-20T03:52:40+00:00

I finally deleted an ex on social media today and honestly I’m so proud of myself

persephones_torch · 2020-04-20T02:48:29+00:00

This was a good analogy

behappyaimhigh · 2020-04-20T05:09:22+00:00

I love this! I used to think it was healthy to have some sort of relationship with an ex, like a friendship with boundaries but I think this feels much better.

Cobmobster21 · 2020-04-20T12:02:10+00:00

I believe in being friendly with an ex if things ended on a good note but not actual friends. I have enough friends already what I wanted was a boyfriend. That’s disrespectful to your current or future partners anyhoo. If you don’t have kids with them or finances to work out, there is no reason to talk to your ex.

FoxAngelLove · 2020-04-20T07:33:18+00:00

It is so unhealthy to keep speaking to your ex. This goes for your partner too, I will no longer date anyone who still maintains a friendship with their ex.

LadyGrimes · 2020-04-20T02:41:46+00:00

Love this!

xxlacey3110xx · 2020-04-20T15:05:25+00:00

I know so many women who stalk their ex’s social media platforms. Once I end it with someone, they are dead to me. I do not look back. It’s so much healthier for me to not compare where I’m at to them or remind myself of good/bad times. It’s important to give yourself what you need which is space. Eventually you literally don’t even think about them anymore.

tendervittles903 · 2020-04-20T12:49:07+00:00

I actually just went out to see if my trash had been picked up yet. 🤦🏻‍♀️

sophrosyne2189 · 2020-04-20T16:01:00+00:00

I actually have a contradictory opinion: Look him up and see how he's doing. I think being informed is an alternative strategy if you can take it.

I used to do the same strategy: block and avoid looking him up. However, I just keep wondering how he is, idealizing the past, and making fantasy scenarios in my head about him realizing his mistake and coming back to me.

One day, I got tired of telling myself not to look him up so I just did. And I saw his posts and pictures of himself with his new girl. I got to admit it while it stung a bit, the urge to look him up after vanished and any idealization or fantasy or what-if in my head just went poof! (Well... There's still some left but it's not as hard-core as when I actually didn't know about what was happening to him.)

You don't have to add him on your timeline. Just look him up, maybe 1 month from the break-up and see how his life is going. If he is living well and looks happy in his pictures, that's enough motivation for you to get over your feelings for him.

staynelaley · 2020-04-21T04:56:53+00:00

It can be hard! My ex swiped right on me on a dating app and I go back and forth between matching or not. Half of me is curious and sort of misses him a little. The other half is saying "he dumped you and should stay in the past. if he wanted to reach out, he could do it another way".

Subject_Seaweed · 2020-04-20T15:35:57+00:00

Sometimes an ex is a decent person who you just dont match with as a unit in a relationship.

Its perfectly fine to keep in touch with such people and there is definitely value to be had from knowing them if both sides are enough self aware and mature to know that the romantic/sexual relationship is over.

There are definitely toxic people who contact should be cut off with but its not so cut and dry. I wish you all good and peaceful day.

wish_i_wasntavampire · 2020-04-20T18:45:09+00:00

So... none of you check on your trash? Because I kinda do, I mean not regular food trash but here you can put things next to to the trash for other people to take and I do like to check if someone's taken mine.

Title	Even during lonely times.
Author	trula26
Upvotes	1927
Comments	25
Date	April 20, 2020 1:39 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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