Fragile masculinity 101

janetheautomaton · 2020-12-01T10:38:13+00:00

Jesus God. "I am a man, so it's your job to make me feel like one! Treat me like a big, powerful alpha male, but also pursue me, pay for me, feed me, clean after me, clean me, carry my baggage, manage my feelings, and cater to me in every way. I bought you a Starbucks once so why aren't you sucking my dick. Also it's your fault my dick is hard because I am a man and this big dick makes me feel like a big man and if you don't help me feel like a big, big man by getting on it it's your fault I had to go to someone else. I told you I like strong women, why aren't you at home being strong and woman until I get around to texting you. GIVE ME EVERYTHING I WANT BUT NOT LIKE THAT."

I fucking quit. From now on, I'm attracted to crocodile effect ankle boots and MONEY.

amievenreal99 · 2020-12-01T10:03:40+00:00

Btw, they don't want to "feel like a man" by doing traditionally masculine actions such as approaching a woman first, having a decent work and discipline, buying a woman gifts and paying for dates... They want to be cheap, wait for women to approach them, go 50/50 but expect women to praise them. The audacity 🤡🤡🤡

fcebtfs · 2020-12-01T08:13:49+00:00

I love how when a women talks about how they feel they're dismissed "only you can control how you feel" but when a man doesn't feel the way they want its of course the women's fault. Its time we start telling men the same thing, only they can control the way they feel and they should not rely on women to make them feel a certain way.

LeyMio · 2020-12-01T14:30:51+00:00

In order to feel like a man, they need to act like a man. Pursue a successful career, earn decent money, pay for the bills, own more properties, have good discipline, look handsome and athletic, and protect women.

Men completely lose their masculine power when crying like dumb kids and forcing others to give attention to their fragile feelings.

my_curated_life · 2020-12-01T14:35:12+00:00

If he wants to feel like a man, he should go work in a coalmine.

alivebut-justbarely · 2020-12-01T20:59:40+00:00

I think a key part of masculinity is just straight up getting shit done and making things happen.

My boyfriend laughed when I told him he was alpha, but it's true. He makes things happen constantly. If we're hanging out with friends and they want to play a board game, he's the one who sets it all up and reads the rules and moderates the game for everyone.

I told him I wanted to go see wild horses, so he planned out a camping trip and drove his 2005 Toyota Camry through some desolate open desert fields, and made sure I got to see wild horses up close and in person. If I tell him I want to play the PS4 in the bedroom, he gets up to grab it from the living room and set it up in the bedroom.

When I first met him, his friends told me that when they all go on a trip, he creates an itinerary for the group in Google Sheets so that the trip goes smoothly. He does all of this in a nonchalant, nonbossy way. When asked about it, he just shrugs and says he enjoys doing it.

It feels so comforting and safe to be around him, because I know being around him means shit. will. get. done. Big or small. He takes care of himself and those around him. That's hella masculine and hella alpha

midwesternwinds · 2020-12-01T16:18:12+00:00

I thought only fragile snowflakes were hurt by words by a woman's mere personality is enough to bruise these guys?

PasDeTout · 2020-12-01T17:52:57+00:00

Yep. Men say they like clever women until they meet one who’s cleverer than they are then it’s ‘you make me feel stupid’. No, your internal insecurity is making you feel stupid.

amievenreal99 · 2020-12-01T10:45:10+00:00

saved

Surprise-Turbulent · 2020-12-01T20:07:04+00:00

I kinda like it when they say paying on dates and providing and building stuff makes them feel like men

It’s kinda hot imo

But like 99% of the time what makes them feel like men is hurting or putting down women

Which is gross and not hot

2020-12-01T18:08:29+00:00

True!!! I’m not shrinking myself to make someone else feel more powerful. If they aren’t good enough they should step up or bow out.

dzgata · 2020-12-01T22:08:58+00:00

Men complain they feel emasculated whilst expecting women to baby them- make it make sense 💀

2020-12-01T21:01:03+00:00

Too worried about being men, instead of actually doing it.

aliengames666 · 2020-12-01T23:36:35+00:00

This is a really good point that I enjoy. From the time I was a kid it was hammered into my brain that my job as a woman was to never emasculate a man by pursuing him or correcting him or being better than him at anything: to sit and smile and let him talk down to me and be grateful for the chance!

Title	Fragile masculinity 101
Author	Ok_Ad_67
Upvotes	1311
Comments	29
Date	December 1, 2020 7:50 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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