One of the biggest criticisms for this group is that it "generalizes all men and should be banned."
Besides the fact that generalizations aren't illegal or a TOS violation (else the entire manosphere would also be in trouble), it shows a gross misunderstanding of what a generalization is.
Generalizations do NOT mean "every person in this given demographic will behave this way without fail." When FDS users talk about men we know damn well it isn't referring to every man in the universe. If that were so, FDS wouldn't exist because there would be no HVM to pursue.
Generalizations ACTUALLY mean "this is a behavior observed in a large share of the given demographic." Of course there will be exceptions, we're talking about nearly 4 billion people.
Let's use short men as an example. I could say something like, "short men generally act with a chip on their shoulder about their height and it hurts their dating prospects." That would be a generalization. Am I saying every single short man acts this way? Of course not. I happen to be related to a few short men who don't do this, and they have no problems getting dates. But they also aren't blowing up the DMs of random women to insult them.
If you want to see generalizations about women's behavior, feel free to browse any manosphere sub! (Or don't. Or follow it up with some puppy pictures to cheer you up)
Generalizations are a form of pattern recognition. We as humans are really good at recognizing patterns because it's how we've survived for thousands of years. Don't let some Apex Redditor tell you that noticing common male behavior in 2021 is hate speech, especially when it's your safety on the line. They only think we're talking about every man in existence because 1) they are exactly what you've described, and 2) they've convinced themselves that they're normal to avoid any accountability.
If you haven't already, look up Gavin DeBecker's The Book of Fear. It makes a strong case for your intuition and recognizing behavioral patterns.
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Thank you.
I’m tired of reading: I don’t like your take. not all [group] are like this!!
It’s exhausting having to write not all men, not all this and that.
We’re intelligent women, we can share an experience or a negative opinion on this sub without a trigger warning ⚠️ not all short men, not all bald men, not all white men, not all men of colour, yada yada.
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