Is he a man or a puppy?

xxlacey3110xx · 2020-04-27T13:22:35+00:00

The original post even goes to talk about how he disrespects her boundaries because she’s even verbally told him “no.” LVM feel entitled to our bodies and see us as holes to be in regardless of any other feelings they might have. Disgusting.

butterfree_zhuangzi · 2020-04-27T12:45:04+00:00

Damn it, I’m trying to put a screen shot of my “favorite” advice telling her he will get better, he’s just so excited to have her to play with and she needs to be careful how she rejects him because that pain will affect him!

lillycrack · 2020-04-27T15:43:52+00:00

Men like this are really nauseating. Where do they get the impression that women like this?

A guy I settled hard for in my early 20s really thought he was cute pulling this shit after sex once. After he finally finished (with his hand, since he was deathgripped) I got my unsatisfied ass up to go pee and he thought he was real cute grabbing me by the arm and pulling me back to bed, whining “nooooo” and trying to cuddle me. Dude was too big and I couldn’t fight him off so I put up with it for a few minutes then told him to let go of me. Had to repeat myself 3 fucking times before he did. He’d do this during sex too, like a sudden motionless, crushing hug while I was stuck under him lol. Did nobody socialise you?

Acting like a toddler is not cute. You can hug and hold your girlfriend without being a creepy clingy 250lb baby.

2020-04-27T13:24:08+00:00

I am lame and can’t get more screenshots but wow, some of the advice is so much worse than the standard “cOMuniCate” bs!

circescircus · 2020-04-27T14:57:18+00:00

He knows he's making her uncomfortable, he's just being selfish.

My husband and I are both very touchy feely. We grope and kiss each other a lot, especially during lockdown, but not during times when the other is obviously busy doing something or needs to go somewhere. We've also talked about it and have asked each other if we like it or not. And we both love it, but still, there is an understanding of body language, knowing your partner, understanding their affection style or love language. Some days, we are less touchy feely, because you just know when your partner doesn't feel good, if you both feel wonky, some days/weeks you need more alone time than others.

He's just harassing her and probably also gets off on it annoying her. Also, it sounds like she is not an overly touchy feely type-- he clearly does not give a fuck. He thinks he can do whatever he wants because he gave her a girlfriend title. I'm fucking married and my husband doesn't grope me whenever he feels like it, forcing me to give 100% of my attention to him. Her boundaries are not great and he probably thinks he can do whatever he wants. Wouldn't say he's in evil rapist abuser territory but he sounds like a petulant creep and a piece of shit for sure.

onemoredaydream · 2020-04-27T17:23:22+00:00

Had a boyfriend who was like this once. Not SO overwhelming, but he thought he was being "cute" when really he was being fucking annoying.

Eventually dumped him because he wanted to get serious and maybe get married/have a kid, and I told him a LOT that that wasn't what I wanted. I finally exploded at him when he kept trying to push me into doing more and more stuff (like move in, make breakfast for him every morning, spend our free time cuddling/watching his tv shows while he would grope me, etc). I am so, so thankful that I got out of there after only a few months.

lival42 · 2020-04-27T15:42:36+00:00

How do you keep him from jumping on you? Well, consider the scene from the movie Garden State you can find on YouTube if you search “garden state kick balls”.

Averyhvw · 2020-04-27T16:08:26+00:00

My ex LVM was not exactly like this, but he would approach me from behind every time I was brushing my teeth and grind up against me! I couldn’t even get a brushing rhythm going because he’s pushing into me. I don’t feel sexy while I’m brushing my tongue! Grrr it still makes me mad.

I freaking hate it now when someone interrupts my teeth brushing, I just want to yell, “Shut up and let me do this!”

jeanneeebeanneee · 2020-04-27T18:28:44+00:00

This is straight up negative attention getting. Poopy-pants toddler style tactics, with a side of predatory disregard for consent.

There's no hope for this asshole if he's doing this as an adult. At least a puppy can be trained not to do this shit.

ilike2snap · 2020-04-27T18:39:23+00:00

This hits too close to home. I’ve had to have numerous discussions with him about groping and spying. He’ll be good for a few weeks/months, but then he “forgets” I don’t like it. I feel like a goalie.

rubberboattree · 2020-04-27T18:22:57+00:00

My ex was like this. Yet he didn’t think he was “clingy” okay dude.

AnonPinkLady · 2020-04-27T19:49:25+00:00

Had a guy that thought it was okay to randomly come up from behind and grope me and try to initiate full on sex even though I'd give no consent. Yeah so I was violated against my will a couple times. I didnt really think of it that way but this makes me realize it. And I'd go "what are you doing?" And that wouldnt stop him... like that should be a reason to stop.

I'd just kind of go with it sometimes but not feel right about it....

themissdaydreamer · 2020-04-28T01:29:45+00:00

is she dating my ex? he'd get a hold of me all the time, he's even get mad of me for claiming some personal space and moving to sit on another couch. so yeah it's a puppy man.

MiaNaim · 2020-04-28T00:35:31+00:00

Why do they live together? It's been 7 months

featherflowers · 2020-04-28T00:54:05+00:00

Can someone link? I can't find it.

cirrus_cloud · 2020-04-28T13:47:30+00:00

Oof. First red flag was that they were only together for 5 months before moving in together. Bad choice on her part

Solid-Liquid · 2020-04-28T16:58:37+00:00

My ex used to do that shit all the time. In movie theaters, his car, everything. He’d invite me over his house, insist nothing would happen, and then try to grope me into sex.

He has tried to handle out with me after the break up, and I’m still uncomfortable being around him. If he did this to his ex, no wonder he stayed single for 5 years

Title	Is he a man or a puppy?
Author	NerdySciFiChick
Upvotes	122
Comments	36
Date	April 27, 2020 12:41 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/g8zyen/is_he_a_man_or_a_puppy/
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