Keep your friends safe! 🌸

MachineryofTorture · 2021-03-07T12:46:51+00:00

In Ireland we have a system called "Ask for Angela" where you ask a staff member if Angela is around and they will help you get away. It's posted in bathrooms and staff have procedures for different situations, like getting you out into a taxi, calling the Gardaí, making sure the guy doesn't see you walk out alone etc. I hate that we need it, but it's something.

souredskittles · 2021-03-07T06:01:10+00:00

I imagine clubbing is like tinder irl. Pushy af

2021-03-07T10:55:41+00:00

The fact women have to resort to such tactics is madness. LVM are truly abhorrent.

LadyKaitlyn · 2021-03-07T06:25:42+00:00

Anyone have some good examples of subtle ways to get a woman out of that situation?

Edit: Thanks everyone for the tips!! There should be a handbook or wiki post or something full of these- just an idea.

XimsRocks · 2021-03-07T15:47:06+00:00

One time I was in a club, (luckily I was not drunk) it was maybe the third time I went as I have just turned 18, so this guy comes to the table my friends and me are at, and we started chatting I kinda liked him but he looks older maybe 28 I was okey here are my friends it doesn’t matter at one point he has being really insisting that I go to his table and I was like not, then he physically lifts me even when I was saying please let me down really scared, and my friends were not paying attention so I had to grab my friends hair desperately and she turns around and helps me, after that he didn’t return to the table, you can imagine how scary that was and more because I live in South America and stories of girls getting kidnapped happen everyday :(

ironglaciers · 2021-03-07T07:01:34+00:00

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Revolutionary-Day938 · 2021-03-07T13:39:27+00:00

Much needed. I remember in my younger days in Spain.. there was always that one twat, at the club, who believed not giving up and relentlessly sticking to you like stinky glue ,would work. We were super lucky and had an allocated “ pretend bf” who would approach when needed , claim us as his , scare the asshole away . He wasn’t always there .. but he was a prince 👑

Magistraliter · 2021-03-07T12:41:35+00:00

In the clubs in my city, there's a poster in the bathrooms giving advice what to do in such cases (and the staff is trained to help).

In the ladies' bathrooms, of course. I asked my male friends if there's a poster in the gents and surprise surprise, it isn't...

dancedance_83 · 2021-03-07T09:45:20+00:00

I wish I had this during my clubbing days, though I know my girl would help me out if I ever needed it

2021-03-07T20:11:26+00:00

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Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-03-07T14:37:25+00:00

friends have each others' backs. drop the "friends" that are never there for you. it will save you a ton of pain. you can't waste precious years sifting through your friend's internalized misogyny and expect them to have mutual respect.

sometimes those friends take themselves out with the trash when a man comes into their lives. all of a sudden, they disappear off the face of the earth and pretend you do not exist only to come back when they've been dumped or cheated on or worse. they think that the only way to be respected by men is to go off against other women, to put them down, criticize them, isolate themselves from their influence and start doing "only wifey shit".

recognize the symptoms early and make a choice.

kittycakes22 · 2021-03-08T02:00:23+00:00

What if he’s like “girl are you Italian” at the last one?

My sense of humor is broken. Sorry guys 😂

your_last_braincell · 2021-03-07T17:55:34+00:00

Thank you! Imma start doing this with my friends!

enoughalready4me · 2021-05-19T01:09:30+00:00

We would use the ASL sign for Help. Right hand as a fist on your open left palm, then lift your hands together. Kinda looks like you are asking for a beer, but meant "get me the fuck out of here!" Also, one guy who kept hitting on my drunk friend on Bourbon Street... I asked to see his ID, and the dumbass gave it to me! I refused to return it until he gave me back my tipsy friend.

BatmanAdams · 2022-06-13T18:59:48+00:00

This is the first actual dating strategy post I've seen in 30 minutes of browsing this sub. Thanks 👍👍👍

Title	Keep your friends safe! 🌸
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Date	March 7, 2021 4:54 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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