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| 4 | I met a guy who said he’s poly but his girlfriend isn’t. Is this really a thing?So sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/22 10:58 AM |
| 51 | Spotted one in the wild.Nah I’d just not talk to guys who don’t talk to me first. No need to state it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 08:58 PM |
| 32 | Why do men “not want a relationship” because of a breakup ages ago, but women are still willing to seek real connections and love despite the amount of horror we’ve gone through?Usually social media shows me some things, but yeah that’s likely the case. So many LVs like this lately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 01:03 AM |
| 1 | I’m always the rebound or placeholder, what am I doing wrong?Guarantee these guys go hard after me. It’s weird. I don’t chase. | /r/askFDS | 17/11/21 09:13 PM |
| 6 | I’m always the rebound or placeholder, what am I doing wrong?Yeah definitely. I tend to put my hobbies before dating nowadays. The right one will just fit into my life I suppose. | /r/askFDS | 26/10/21 06:00 PM |
| 3 | I’m always the rebound or placeholder, what am I doing wrong?So true | /r/askFDS | 26/10/21 06:00 PM |
| 14 | I’m always the rebound or placeholder, what am I doing wrong?I wouldn’t describe myself that way but that’s what people have described me as. Sorry I should’ve been more specific. As in the “independent alpha female” type. I’ve had close male friends say that I’m intimidating since I’m a confident woman who knows herself, rather than insecure. Which I think in turn makes men insecure. | /r/askFDS | 25/10/21 09:07 PM |
| 24 | I’m always the rebound or placeholder, what am I doing wrong?I don’t tell them any details I just say that I’m taking my time with dating now and I’m more cautious. | /r/askFDS | 25/10/21 07:40 PM |
| 1 | When FDS Theory actually makes it in socmed: building a man doesn’t help you cement the relationship you want. Scary how many likes this post got-Same | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 11:56 AM |
| 6 | Make sure you are his first option. Men can fake and pretend you’re his #1 because they’re lonely, when in fact you aren’t the one they want.This just guy told me “Me and my ex are not on speaking terms. I don’t want anyone, especially my ex”. And proceeds to “heart” every single one of her recent photos on her moms Facebook page. She doesn’t have Facebook herself but it looks like he definitely keeps tabs on her even if they aren’t on speaking terms. Can’t tell if that’s creepy or sad?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 04:39 PM |
| 3 | Make sure you are his first option. Men can fake and pretend you’re his #1 because they’re lonely, when in fact you aren’t the one they want.That’s men for ya | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 09:38 PM |
| 7 | Make sure you are his first option. Men can fake and pretend you’re his #1 because they’re lonely, when in fact you aren’t the one they want.In this guys situation they dated for only a year 5 years ago, and she “broke his heart many times after that”. He just couldn’t let go. Sounds a bit stalkerish to me. I would love to know the details though. These men paint themselves as the victims when in fact they probably weren’t the best partners. They cling onto women as a pride thing. Who knows. Men are an enigma to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 01:14 PM |
| 39 | Make sure you are his first option. Men can fake and pretend you’re his #1 because they’re lonely, when in fact you aren’t the one they want.I was pretty upset because I was like wow someone is willing to wait for me to open up and actually likes me for me. Then nope.. But at least now I can be even more cautious. Soon enough I’ll have a whole suit of protective armor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 11:15 PM |
| 13 | Make sure you are his first option. Men can fake and pretend you’re his #1 because they’re lonely, when in fact you aren’t the one they want.That’s a solid idea! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 11:14 PM |
| 33 | Make sure you are his first option. Men can fake and pretend you’re his #1 because they’re lonely, when in fact you aren’t the one they want.No clue. :/ it just comes out of nowhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 09:47 PM |
| 51 | Make sure you are his first option. Men can fake and pretend you’re his #1 because they’re lonely, when in fact you aren’t the one they want.Exactly, feeling like a second option is not for me, some girls will put up with it though. I’m pretty involved in the music community in my city and play music as well, go to a lot of shows and there are a plethora of younger men in those areas! Always a good idea to keep a roster. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 09:20 PM |
| 21 | Make sure you are his first option. Men can fake and pretend you’re his #1 because they’re lonely, when in fact you aren’t the one they want.Also, I saw multiple videos on Tik Tok about how men don’t marry the women they actually love, they usually settle with the one they’re with at the time once they’re ready. Apparently it’s quite common. It scares me to think about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 08:45 PM |
| 10 | a day in the life of a woman who doesn’t use a separate account for FDSEvery time I post anywhere else I get this shit too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 07:06 PM |
| 39 | Grown man with a family asks “what am I left with?” if he can’t move across the country for a jobI personally would feel this way which is why I decided not to have children. He should’ve chose better and should get his priorities straight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 10:31 PM |
| 5 | Gabby Petito case is what I believe would’ve happened to me if I stayed with me ex.He was such a loser, and I was way above his league. It’s always those types. Cops need to be trained better on domestic violence situations. But they themselves are abusers so 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 06:22 PM |
| 11 | Have you guys heard of The Body Language Guy on YouTube? He has a video about Gabby and her abuser that you guys should check out https://youtu.be/E9J0Oz47PAsMy ex to a T. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 06:01 PM |
| 1 | This is a weekly reminder to women especially “creatives” to watch out for lovebombing, genuine demons lurk and will seemingly try their best to tether your guard with words to exploit your emotions and try to conquer your body.I’ve had this before. Full on paragraphs. Once we had sex he changed his mind lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 08:26 PM |
| 57 | Okay so ik I already made a post about something similar but I came across ANOTHER post of Facebook (this must be where all the LVM and pickmes are) that proves my point of men wanting to use women and normalize it. I’m showing proof because scrotes were in my messages acting stupid.My ex to be exact. Learned my lesson by staying with him after he got a DUI 🤡 he’d scream at me and then expect me to go to his alcoholic group meetings. Him and his co-worker are married now. I wonder if she’s happy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 08:32 AM |
| 9 | Was gaining a connection with this guy and learning to open up again, then he tells me he’s going on a roadtrip to see a girl.Thanks, that’s so true, shouldn’t have expected it. I was keeping my options open but not enough to just go on a roadtrip to see someone haha I’m happier single anyway. Men are so predictable at this point. | /r/askFDS | 23/08/21 02:09 PM |
| 1 | How to break a soul tie with someone?Anger is part of the healing process. It means you’re building self esteem. Once you pass that you’ll be okay. | /r/askFDS | 22/08/21 03:52 PM |
| 3 | I don’t even know where to start.Women like this are why men leave good women for doormat pickmeishas who will put up with anything and everything. “My husband” shouldn’t even be a thing anymore. It should be her estranged husband who she’s going through a divorce with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 03:20 AM |
| 9 | These men deserve to be taken off of YouTube. Absolutely revolting. Tw: fat shaming, rape, violenceYeah I think most girls from Tik Tok are telling her to leave him too. She’ll figure it out eventually like most of us had to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 05:36 PM |
| 13 | These men deserve to be taken off of YouTube. Absolutely revolting. Tw: fat shaming, rape, violenceIt’s called the Leo & Danny Show. That video is now private but he posted another video (now being racist and sexist toward black women) saying that he meant what he said about fat women and doesn’t take it back. https://youtu.be/kNEWk7cdxbo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 04:57 PM |
| 29 | These men deserve to be taken off of YouTube. Absolutely revolting. Tw: fat shaming, rape, violenceYeah where are the men speaking out against this? I’m an avid listener of comedy podcasts and this isn’t comedy. This has no humor at all, it’s misogynistic and depraved. Yet he calls himself a comedian. On his Instagram he and his pick me girlfriend are calling women fat and insulting strangers for views in public. https://www.instagram.com/p/CKMwAI0Jcim/?utm_medium=copy_link | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 04:06 PM |
| 26 | He’s dumb af if he thinks we won’t be able to pick him outBut in a comment he said he’s highly attracted to FDS women because we are a challenge and if he got us and manipulated us it would feel like a “win”. Interesting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 09:14 AM |
| 97 | A TERRORIST murdered five people in the UK. Women should learn a lesson. (Context in comments)Women are responsible for the violence caused towards them????? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 12:35 AM |
| 0 | That's a nice way of asking if I want to drive half an hour for a coffee date.I didn’t even want a fancy date with this dude though. Would’ve not been down for that then. I’m just saying sometimes the situations are different. If you say what you want, have them pic a better place and they refuse that’s a different story. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 10:34 PM |
| 22 | That's a nice way of asking if I want to drive half an hour for a coffee date.Just respond and say “I’d rather get food or something”. In the past this happened to me and I think he approached it casually cause we didn’t meet through a dating app. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 07:18 PM |
| 5 | Why do men think we are in love with them after 1 date?Such a turn off when men get overwhelmed by literally nothing. Like get a grip bro. So weird to me and not something I’d ever fall for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 08:34 PM |
| 97 | Why do men think we are in love with them after 1 date?Yeah I blocked him. He made it weird. Like just chill dude I didn’t ask you to marry me or something lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 04:48 AM |
| 24 | Guy friend turned creepy. I told him it’s making me uncomfortable but he said it’s my fault.I think because I was basically paying him to record us I felt uncomfortable saying anything. I’m glad I did now cause I’m over it! So creepy. | /r/askFDS | 30/07/21 09:58 PM |
| 25 | Guy friend turned creepy. I told him it’s making me uncomfortable but he said it’s my fault.I explained how that slapping comment sounds like he watches too much porn and he said I’m kink shaming. Rather than just apologizing and saying that he’ll stop he’s getting defensive and turning it all around on me. So yeah cutting his ass off. | /r/askFDS | 30/07/21 09:53 PM |
| 1 | Feeling down because...I’m not interested in men anymore?Exactly! All that horrible trauma kicks in and I become needy, co-defendant and stressed. It’s not worth it. I’m trying to explain that to my friend who is constantly depressed over guys. It’s just so painful to watch. I finally snapped at her pickmeisha ways and explained that she needs to be alone. That it isn’t really that bad to be alone once you know yourself and can be on your own. The only thing is, sometimes it gets depressing and lonely not being able to get close to anyone. But at the … | /r/askFDS | 27/07/21 06:57 PM |
| 1 | Creepy guy friends.Yeah it’s starting to make me feel weird, the staring is weird too. I’m just waiting to get our bands songs finalized then I’m probably outta there until we need to go over there again. | /r/askFDS | 26/07/21 01:33 AM |
| 32 | Do guys ever ghost you because you’re out of their league? Is this a thing?Most of these ghosters are unattractive LVM losers who think they’re more attractive than they are in order to feel more confident. They come back because they realize they’re trash, can’t get someone better and think you’ll give them the time of day again. | /r/askFDS | 25/07/21 02:17 AM |
| 1 | PSA: Beware of men who have Instagram accounts for their petsI wish women would stop providing men porn content on social media. They pleasure themselves to these sexualized bikini photos, does that not make them feel uncomfortable? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 01:50 PM |
| 5 | Feeling down because...I’m not interested in men anymore?I have been for so long. It’s lonely. | /r/askFDS | 23/07/21 10:40 PM |
| – | Women have insanely narrow standards when it comes to PHYSICAL ATTRACTIONUsually not. But they aren’t your typical “Chad”. None of the guys I’ve dated are over 6 foot. Probably because I’m a short girl, so it doesn’t really matter. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/21 08:33 AM |
| 0 | Women have insanely narrow standards when it comes to PHYSICAL ATTRACTIONI’m attracted to white alternative men who are a little ugly. I know many friends who are the same and friends who only date black men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/21 09:46 PM |
| 3 | Potent.Same, don’t want to have a body or be perceived. If only I could dampen my sex drive. Even antidepressants don’t help lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 04:35 PM |
| 34 | Potent.I go through that exact cycle but have never been able to go longer than a year, how do you do it? Since getting a great vibrator, I’ll think I want a mans touch until I orgasm then I’m like “nah”. I still like to go on dates and what not but at this point I’m so emotionally unavailable and uninterested in men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 11:15 AM |
| 94 | Potent.Exactly, I don't understand why most men these days refuse to treat women with respect. They treat them like sex dolls/objects. If they just treated women the way they are supposed to be treated, communicated properly, they'd get more consistent sex, and both parties would be happier all around. Do they not realize this? So many women are turning to celibacy, me included. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 08:49 AM |
| 3 | Ladies, what are your current level ups?Focused on my creative goals with music and writing, and looking for a job, which is kind of daunting. Job searching is a nightmare but I’m going to stay positive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 10:18 AM |
| 45 | How to signal I do want him to approach me?Smile, make long enough eye contact that lets him know he can approach. If he doesn't after that, then I'd leave it. | /r/askFDS | 04/07/21 04:57 PM |
| 11 | How can I stop being bitter?It definitely got worse after a horrible break up, terrible situationships following that and discovering FDS. It’s more of a “I feel hopeless” feeling than anything. I used to have hope when it comes to love but I don’t anymore, I’ve sort of become apathetic, therapy or not. Not sure if that’s a good or a bad thing but I have no energy to expect anything anymore cause it’s always disappointing. | /r/askFDS | 03/07/21 09:28 PM |
| 9 | How can I stop being bitter?Yeah that’s true. I think if they really wanted me I probably wouldn’t want them as much. | /r/askFDS | 03/07/21 05:51 PM |
| 22 | Celibacy > LVMs, by far😂 I’m trying to channel gayness but unfortunately still straight. If only sexuality were a choice! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 02:07 PM |
| 18 | Celibacy > LVMs, by farYess! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 02:18 AM |
| 31 | From Bo Burnham's poetry bookUnderstandable, as I’m as bitter as they come towards men and have had awful experiences. I think it just bothers me because this exact reaction proves anti-FDSers right that we are angry and can’t comprehend basic humor without being offended. Then again I’m a fan of comedy and use humor as a way to cope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 11:59 AM |
| 149 | From Bo Burnham's poetry bookIt’s tongue in cheek. One thing I dislike about this sub is that most on here don’t understand when something is satire. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 09:51 AM |
| 24 | How do I allow myself to be properly loved or pursued by potential suitors?Leaving a comment because I have the exact same problem, perhaps I'm just emotionally unavailable myself, so I desire those types of men. Therapy and awareness of my attachment issues has not made any difference. So if anyone has advice I'd like to know too. | /r/askFDS | 16/06/21 01:57 AM |
| 4 | Seeing posts about happy relationships makes me feel oddly jealousGet your life together and things will fall into place. | /r/askFDS | 04/06/21 02:00 PM |
| 6 | Do guys know the women they pretend to fuck on porn will most likely never ever even consider fucking them?Nope. That’s why they all think they’ll marry a 10 someday despite their receding hairlines and weak jawlines. | /r/askFDS | 31/05/21 01:17 PM |
| 5 | Should I cut this friend off? Is she a secret hater/jealous/envious?Yes, this friend is not worth it. I’m an attractive girl but not super skinny and I get a lot of male attention. The amount of times friends have made jokes about me not “ripping their pants” when I borrow them or saying that my big boobs make me look bigger when wearing stripes or something, is ridiculous. These girls all seemed pretty insecure anyway, so I wouldn’t take it seriously but I just don’t stay close with these people. Maybe we’ll hang every now and then but I don’t make them a prior… | /r/askFDS | 30/05/21 05:50 PM |
| 1 | I'm worried my personality is off-putting to most men.Just thought I’d mention the comparison. | /r/askFDS | 24/05/21 08:17 PM |
| 1 | I'm worried my personality is off-putting to most men.Also, I’ve heard a lot of LVM call a woman conceived if she knows she is attractive. You may want to reword that? | /r/askFDS | 24/05/21 06:40 PM |
| 2 | I'm worried my personality is off-putting to most men.What’s wrong with being more masculine as a woman? I used to be more feminine and as a result would be used and abused by men. How can I be more “feminine”? In your definition. I’d say I am an attractive woman, have been considered as such my whole life and I don’t think that makes me conceited. It makes others see me differently I think. That’s what I meant by the hot girl comment. I don’t overcompensate my looks, overdress or wear a ton of makeup. So I’m not sure what you meant by that. | /r/askFDS | 24/05/21 04:51 PM |
| 3 | I'm worried my personality is off-putting to most men.I have and they said I just seem to have a lot of social anxiety, I use alcohol to cope with social anxiety as well. It’s been a while since I’ve been back cause money reasons. | /r/askFDS | 24/05/21 10:22 AM |
| 6 | I’m an attractive woman who’s dated many guys below my league, and I’m hoping to change that.A man who takes care of himself and his health, a lot of these guys who are head over heals for me were either alcoholics, didn’t eat healthy or exercise. I’ve found it hard to find a man who takes care of himself and works hard to keep me in his life. I do want someone creative, successful and funny of course. Those things put together = a man with a million options. Even if he doesn’t look like a model. It’s just that these men are incredibly rare, have girlfriends already or multiple options … | /r/askFDS | 20/05/21 05:45 PM |
| 14 | I’m an attractive woman who’s dated many guys below my league, and I’m hoping to change that.Scrolling through Tinder and men are so unattractive. Fml. | /r/askFDS | 19/05/21 10:30 PM |
| 11 | So sick of itWhat did they say? | /r/askFDS | 19/05/21 02:24 PM |
| 6 | 3 Reasons Why Narcissists Need to “Replace” Their Partners:Same. What was I thinking?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 02:32 PM |
| 1 | For my own peace of mind: He just has to be lying about this situation not being personal, right?That’s so true. I need to remember that. I’ve grown so used to the passion and intensity, when that’s not necessarily love. | /r/askFDS | 27/04/21 04:03 PM |
| 0 | For my own peace of mind: He just has to be lying about this situation not being personal, right?There's still a portion on FWBs in the official PDF handbook. Either way, it happened, what's your comment supposed to do? Take me back in time? | /r/askFDS | 27/04/21 02:39 AM |
| -3 | For my own peace of mind: He just has to be lying about this situation not being personal, right?I’ll have self love, be doing so well in life and feel happy until a man comes along and ruins it. I think I’m going to be done with dating all together. I’ve said that so many times and that’s usually when awesome guys come along lol definitely getting my ass back in therapy. | /r/askFDS | 26/04/21 11:24 PM |
| -9 | For my own peace of mind: He just has to be lying about this situation not being personal, right?I’m not I was going with the FWB section in the handbook, as I explained I’m not ready for a relationship but I do catch feelings as any normal person does. I have read the handbook several times. | /r/askFDS | 26/04/21 08:04 PM |
| 72 | My hopes for the new generation of girls (from @extrafabulous on Twitter)Lol I was the girl who checked the “maybe” box. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 10:07 PM |
| 7 | How do I deal with not feeling good enough?I feel the same. It’s a struggle within myself. I’ve been taken advantage of sexually in the past and it triggers me when men only want sex from me. These days men want exclusively without the label and it makes me wonder why I’m not good enough. But then I remember usually it’s more about them than it is me. It’s so hard not to compare because I’m sort of a deep, creative, brooding intellectual type. These girls seem so happy and carefree. Simple. Not in a bad way, but I want to be them. Those … | /r/askFDS | 15/04/21 03:48 PM |
| 2 | He wanted to be exclusive but without a relationship. Make it make sense.Ugh exactly. Like the definition of “relationship”depends what the person is looking for and what defines a relationship for them. For example, I am a very independent person. I don’t get attached to the point that I’d want to be around that person 24/7, I don’t want kids, I want to sort out my life and career before marriage. But if I’m with someone, I’d want to call it a relationship and still do my own thing, while checking in with eachother. If it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work. I don’t under… | /r/askFDS | 14/04/21 07:27 PM |
| 5 | He wanted to be exclusive but without a relationship. Make it make sense.He said they were together 2 and a half years. We both had a bad break up in common which we bonded over, though mine was over a year ago. He seemed upset I didn’t want to continue things, saying “I finally found someone I’m deeply attracted to. And I do have feelings for you but I just can’t be in a relationship right now. I’m not ready.” If that were actually true, he wouldn’t want to lose me and he’d be open to a relationship down the line. 🤷♀️ | /r/askFDS | 14/04/21 04:20 PM |
| 8 | He wanted to be exclusive but without a relationship. Make it make sense.I’ll definitely use this comment as a reminder! I’m completely distancing myself. He tried the whole deep eye contact, lightly touching my arm, asking about my day, thing before we even tried dating. So I bet he’s going to try that again because he knows he’s attractive but I have enough red flags now to not be as into it. Professional stuff only. If he tries to swing the conversation I’ll cut it short. | /r/askFDS | 14/04/21 04:16 PM |
| 5 | He wanted to be exclusive but without a relationship. Make it make sense.Oh I definitely get controlling narc vibes from him. It was hard for him to take no for an answer and the fact that he wants exclusivity. I think I dodged a bullet there. I just wish he was unattractive, that would have made things much easier lol it’s rare that I’m attracted to a man tbh. If only I could swing the other way. | /r/askFDS | 14/04/21 04:13 PM |
| 3 | He wanted to be exclusive but without a relationship. Make it make sense.I don’t understand it either. Probably cause they need constant sex to function. So done with men. | /r/askFDS | 14/04/21 04:11 PM |
| 20 | He wanted to be exclusive but without a relationship. Make it make sense.Newly out of a relationship I can understand a bit. That’s probably why it’s hard to frame it that way. But you’re right. | /r/askFDS | 14/04/21 10:10 AM |
| 25 | He wanted to be exclusive but without a relationship. Make it make sense.Agreed..he charges us a decent amount though. Anywhere else would be more expensive. But I think if I don’t hang with him one on one it’ll be fine. I hope so at least, the attraction will likely wear off knowing what I know now (or I hope so anyway). It was strange that he wanted to be around me everyday, make music together and how much effort he was putting in for someone who doesn’t want a relationship. So manipulative. | /r/askFDS | 14/04/21 09:54 AM |
| 51 | He wanted to be exclusive but without a relationship. Make it make sense.He seems to think those are two completely different things for some reason. When I explained he wasn’t having it. Makes no sense! | /r/askFDS | 14/04/21 09:35 AM |
| 3 | Do you ever look back at the creeps you dated in the past? It makes me feel so disgusted with myself.That’s so true, I’ll have to remember that. | /r/askFDS | 01/04/21 04:08 PM |
| 13 | Do you ever look back at the creeps you dated in the past? It makes me feel so disgusted with myself.Omg. What a fucking psycho. | /r/askFDS | 01/04/21 01:30 AM |
| 14 | Do you ever look back at the creeps you dated in the past? It makes me feel so disgusted with myself.So true. Mark Ruffalo is hot as hell in Eternal Sunshine and The Kids Are Alright though haha | /r/askFDS | 31/03/21 10:43 PM |
| 39 | Do you ever look back at the creeps you dated in the past? It makes me feel so disgusted with myself.I believe the media perpetuated this lie. The “hot asshole” vs. the awkward guy next door trope 🙄 As we’re getting older we’re getting hotter, more confident and more selective. I’m so glad I finally realized my worth and potential at 26! I guess it’s not too late but I wish I could go back in time with the knowledge that I have now. | /r/askFDS | 31/03/21 09:20 PM |
| 5 | if you have to call yourself “nice”, you probably aren’t!Yep!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 08:06 PM |
| 33 | They’re always the victimSame! He said I always interrupt him and that I’m a terrible communicator. Since then I was insecure and scared to talk, and more than one therapist told me that wasn’t true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 02:53 PM |
| 3 | He did everything right, but the double, triple texts and moving things fast turned me off. I feel bad about how I reacted.Gotta love the future fakers | /r/askFDS | 30/03/21 08:16 AM |
| 3 | He did everything right, but the double, triple texts and moving things fast turned me off. I feel bad about how I reacted.Omg exactly. It’s hard to tell with these guys, is it just an ego boost for them to have me? I’m not just here for someone’s ego boost. Did your guy also tell everyone you were dating not even a week in? For some reason he told everyone. So unhealthy. We dodged a bullet. | /r/askFDS | 30/03/21 07:52 AM |
| 3 | He did everything right, but the double, triple texts and moving things fast turned me off. I feel bad about how I reacted.Ugh yeah I was so irritated by it. I’m finally just happy on my own and I feel like men always tend to think my happiness one day or another. It seems they want you most in these stages though. He sort of asked how he could pull back, but I was just like idk maybe we are looking for different things and left it at that. He seems extremely pressed about it so I think I dodged a bullet there anyway! What happened with your guy? | /r/askFDS | 29/03/21 09:36 PM |
| 3 | He did everything right, but the double, triple texts and moving things fast turned me off. I feel bad about how I reacted.Yep, you called it! He’s also incredibly short for a guy. I’m short too but that may also have something to do with his behavior 😬 | /r/askFDS | 29/03/21 08:30 PM |
| 3 | He did everything right, but the double, triple texts and moving things fast turned me off. I feel bad about how I reacted.Yeah I think you’re right about that. Or he’s extremely insecure. I noticed he unfollowed me on social media even though he said things are cool. Weird. | /r/askFDS | 29/03/21 06:59 PM |
| 8 | I've become what "Why Men Love Bitches" preached, now I'm dating someone and have some questions.I think the book may need to be updated for this generation. | /r/askFDS | 15/03/21 05:48 AM |
| 16 | My man is being weird as hell around me because he's 'comfortable' with me, I don't know what to do -He’s probably not the one for you. | /r/askFDS | 14/03/21 12:50 PM |
| 7 | How many of you “developed” issues while in a relationship? I’ll go first: depression and anxiety. Cured as soon as we broke up.Omg yes. I was so depressed and anxious all the time. He made me hate myself. So glad that’s over, I feel like myself again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 12:48 PM |
| 18 | Beware of the term “I Care for You”My narc ex saying he “cares” after the devaluation, cheating and getting married not even a month after breaking up with me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 12:08 PM |
| 11 | Pathetic scrote breaks a shop window and steals a sex dollEw | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 12:01 PM |
| 6 | Every single one of us....I was followed around Barnes & Noble once. It was dark out. I had to walk around and leave through another door, then I watched him look for me. It was creepy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 11:36 AM |
| 2 | Keep your friends safe! 🌸What if he’s like “girl are you Italian” at the last one? My sense of humor is broken. Sorry guys 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 02:00 AM |
| 7 | Hey look! Somebody got a picture of my ex!Men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 07:06 PM |
| 15 | Addicted to LVMSame. It’s a trauma attachment thing, I’m just staying single until I no longer pine over the assholes who are for some reason are more attractive to me. | /r/askFDS | 03/03/21 03:37 PM |
| 67 | Put your energy into the type of love that rewards youSame. It makes me wonder if romantic love is even worth pursuing again because these other things are 1. More enjoyable 2. Less anxiety inducing 3. Less damaging once it ends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 01:22 AM |
| 16 | Had a first date with a guy and he’s been texting me obsessively. It has turned me off. Should I cancel our date this weekend?😂 literally the scene that pops into my head when he sends yet another double text. | /r/askFDS | 02/03/21 09:03 PM |
| 41 | Had a first date with a guy and he’s been texting me obsessively. It has turned me off. Should I cancel our date this weekend?Yeah that’s definitely the vibe I’m getting. | /r/askFDS | 02/03/21 08:48 PM |
| 2 | Why is every man on Hinge competitive about “everything”? Oh, to be so vapid and simpleminded. Must be nice!Randy is my spirit animal. Wine is life 😂 🍷 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 04:32 AM |
| 2 | Why is every man on Hinge competitive about “everything”? Oh, to be so vapid and simpleminded. Must be nice!Omg the accuracy 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 04:26 AM |
| 2 | Why is every man on Hinge competitive about “everything”? Oh, to be so vapid and simpleminded. Must be nice!😂 That’s a great idea if you’re trying to get obliterated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 04:25 AM |
| 10 | Why is every man on Hinge competitive about “everything”? Oh, to be so vapid and simpleminded. Must be nice!I literally saw at 8 of them before screenshotting this one | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 01:42 AM |
| 38 | Let’s talk about Instagram‘s affect on hook-up culture.If you don’t do it as a women, you basically don’t exist. So either way it’s a lose lose situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 05:10 AM |
| -1 | What are your thoughts on dates that last all night?I’m not concerned about it. I’ve been vaccinated. | /r/askFDS | 25/02/21 08:34 PM |
| 2 | What are your thoughts on dates that last all night?True we drank way too much wine I think. I get carried away cause I don’t get a lot of fun times lately cause of the rona. | /r/askFDS | 25/02/21 07:12 PM |
| 2 | Why are men so disrespectful when it comes to women that don’t “meet their standards”?Because misogyny and the patriarchy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 07:05 PM |
| 2 | I can’t seem to get over the guy I never dated. Although he’s blocked and deleted, how can I truly let go?So true. I really need to let go of the hope, it’s still there because we would always reconnect. I know that if we ever do again it’s because he truly is ready to make an effort. Because he knows I won’t put up with it again. Looking at it that way, I doubt that would ever happen. Time to let go. | /r/askFDS | 19/02/21 02:06 AM |
| 69 | Men won’t even put in the bare minimum these days and it’s because there are women who tolerate it.I have trouble with this because I have friends that are dating men who lied about their name, where they lived and cheat on them constantly. And they still have sex with them. My friend just told me she let a guy move his stuff back inside because he wanted her again. I’ve explained countless times and tried to help. She’s miserable but says she hates being alone. So she puts up with it. I had another friend with a controlling, emotionally abusive man. He told her to stop being friends with me … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 04:14 AM |
| 5 | What’s the right response to a dick pic that you didn’t really ask for?Block and delete. | /r/askFDS | 09/02/21 10:03 PM |
| 55 | Anyone else?I met a guy who told me he could speak Spanish. He actually couldn’t. Men are so weird. I met another guy who said he made lots of money, he didn’t and lived with his mom. The stuff they lie about when trying to court is borderline psycho. | /r/askFDS | 04/02/21 04:43 AM |
| 32 | The whole TikTok account is her SO saying “Bitch, what’s for dinner?” And she gets mad at people in the comments 🙄Yep lol makes sense now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 07:44 PM |
| 90 | The whole TikTok account is her SO saying “Bitch, what’s for dinner?” And she gets mad at people in the comments 🙄He sounds much older than her. She’s only 18 😳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 07:27 PM |
| 139 | The whole TikTok account is her SO saying “Bitch, what’s for dinner?” And she gets mad at people in the comments 🙄Just discovered that she does porn and is only 18. I feel bad for her. We need to raise women to respect themselves and that they’re worth more than a mans attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 07:19 PM |
| 4 | It finally hit me, I’m 26 and feel like time is running out. Does anyone else feel anxious about aging?So true. It’s lonely but I just can’t stand LVM or put up with shit. I feel like most women hide the situations their husbands put them through and pretend everything is all good to keep up appearances. They don’t seem happy to me. I’m not happy because I’m a bit lonely, especially with coronavirus and everything but putting up with an asshole isn’t worth it. Glad I learned my lesson when I did and found this sub. It’s so hard to find HVM and I’m learning not to expect someone put in the effort … | /r/askFDS | 30/01/21 09:15 PM |
| 1 | It finally hit me, I’m 26 and feel like time is running out. Does anyone else feel anxious about aging?Haha sorry you just lost me at that part. | /r/askFDS | 30/01/21 06:45 PM |
| 2 | It finally hit me, I’m 26 and feel like time is running out. Does anyone else feel anxious about aging?I don’t see what’s wrong with applying for jobs if I don’t like the job I’m in? | /r/askFDS | 30/01/21 01:24 PM |
| 9 | FDS + Vetting -> matrix-like bullet dodgingMy dads a good hardworking man who was in the military. I don’t think I’d date a military guy cause most are asshole, toxic overly masculine republicans. My dad didn’t really fit in there which makes sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 07:40 AM |
| 14 | Madonna / Whore Complex...what do we think? I think it has some truth in it for sure.My psycho narc ex is also a born again christian! He's married to one as well. I don't trust born agains, fucking nutjobs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 08:29 PM |
| 0 | Did I overreact? Should I reach out again?I’m at a point where I’m not looking for anything serious. But someone who at least respects my time to have fun with ya know? This man is hot. And I’m sick of my vibrator. | /r/askFDS | 19/01/21 05:57 PM |
| 0 | Did I overreact? Should I reach out again?That’s so true. It wasn’t necessarily a full planned date though, he said he wanted to see me after his New Years plans and what not. That shows he must not have cared much but he takes the pandemic seriously so I guess he had that to fall back on, full on dates are sort of out of the question. It helps to know he’s feeling some sort of way, he unfollowed me back and seems upset about it. If he cares enough, he will reach out first and make it right. | /r/askFDS | 19/01/21 12:15 PM |
| 2 | Did I overreact? Should I reach out again?He was with his step dad I guess. But that doesn’t change anything. | /r/askFDS | 19/01/21 02:36 AM |
| 15 | Did I overreact? Should I reach out again?You’re right 😭 thanks for talking me off the ledge. I needed some tough love. | /r/askFDS | 19/01/21 02:36 AM |
| 10 | Did I overreact? Should I reach out again?Yeah, it’s hard to see it clearly sometimes. I’m not like this with anyone else and I don’t understand. I think it’s the typical anxious-avoidant/fearful avoidant dance we do. He wants me when I don’t want him. When he wanted me I didn’t want him. I’m definitely going to be discussing this more in therapy. | /r/askFDS | 19/01/21 12:01 AM |
| -8 | Did I overreact? Should I reach out again?I would usually do this If I didn’t have history with him. He’s like me but a guy version. I see myself in him I can’t really explain it. We’ve been drawn to eachother for a while and that’s why I can’t let go lol I sound so stupid but you’re probably right. | /r/askFDS | 18/01/21 11:10 PM |
| -7 | Did I overreact? Should I reach out again?I don’t know. Probably not. If they didn’t text me all day maybe I’d make other plans | /r/askFDS | 18/01/21 11:06 PM |
| 4 | I've decided to not date or sleep with men for an entire year.Yay proud of you! Any words of advice? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 06:50 AM |
| 46 | I've decided to not date or sleep with men for an entire year.Ugh. Men can’t find a balance. It’s either they’re way too persistent and creepy or they’re distant and careless. Both are such a turn off and not worth it. I’m done being treated less than, and only men make us feel as such. Makes me wonder what dating would be like if not for sexism and the patriarchy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 04:16 AM |
| 3 | I've decided to not date or sleep with men for an entire year.True. It will likely go on until fall of 2021. Best time to focus on yourself and your goals! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 04:14 AM |
| 16 | I've decided to not date or sleep with men for an entire year.I have some stuff in the works I’ll definitely share once I’ve got a song professionally recorded (that’s my goal anyway!) :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 04:13 AM |
| 19 | How to deal with a man who texts constantly?Sounds annoying and love bomby. | /r/askFDS | 07/01/21 08:39 PM |
| 0 | Does the no-sex rule apply to a guy friend?Okay I guess I thought that since we’ve been on a few dates and hangouts that it would maybe solidify this thing we’ve had going for a while. Maybe I should wait longer. I’m tellin you though, he looks like River Phoenix with tattoos so I’m gonna have to be strong. | /r/askFDS | 02/01/21 05:32 PM |
| -11 | Does the no-sex rule apply to a guy friend?Yeah actually now that I think about it, we went on two dates and hung out at a concert. I should have mentioned that he already ate me out the other night when we hung.....oops. It just happened and got hot and steamy. Now I'm not even sure. | /r/askFDS | 02/01/21 04:03 AM |
| -7 | Does the no-sex rule apply to a guy friend?Hmm we have gone on a date before, so that's why I'm not sure..maybe I'll see what he suggests to do next time we hang out. He said he wants to see me once he's back from his NYE skiing trip. | /r/askFDS | 02/01/21 03:39 AM |
| 25 | The audacity 🤦🏻♀️Send her over here ASAP! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 09:08 PM |
| 1 | What’s your physical type?Wow I’m exactly you’re type then. A woman tho lmao | /r/askFDS | 28/12/20 09:53 AM |
| 1 | What’s your physical type?Girl, I’m aware I have issues. And trust me I have dated every type of guy imaginable. I was seriously dating a good guy, he was great put in effort and still wasn’t looking for a relationship out of nowhere, while we were on a weekend getaway together. They’re all the same. I’ve just given up and decided not to date. Trust me I’m not even looking anymore. I have a preference in looks, however. As an attractive girl I do have options, but I tend to gravitate to those types for reasons that I’m a… | /r/askFDS | 27/12/20 10:01 PM |
| 4 | What’s your physical type?That’s true, I definitely have a fear of vulnerability and commitment myself. But I’m also a musician and into the same things which doesn’t help. But overall, and according to my therapist, I prefer these men because they need saving and are more emotionally unavailable, which makes these men more desirable. Then I get sad when they don’t want to fall in love with me. | /r/askFDS | 27/12/20 09:21 PM |
| 3 | What’s your physical type?Haha I blame 90s/early 2000s teen movies I was obsessed with. Heath Ledger in 10 Things I hate About you, Chad Michael Murray in Freaky Friday. Pretty much everything Johnny Depp was in...fml. | /r/askFDS | 27/12/20 09:20 PM |
| 1 | What’s your physical type?I think you’re right. Why must they be so hot though? | /r/askFDS | 27/12/20 08:53 PM |
| 7 | Her man of 6 years faked a proposal. I’d leave in a heartbeat.Yeah I agree. A year isn’t enough to truly know someone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 05:05 PM |
| 39 | Her man of 6 years faked a proposal. I’d leave in a heartbeat.She just laughed at his joke and said “I knew it”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 02:06 AM |
| 9 | The Lighthouse movieYou should still watch it. It’s a great film. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 07:22 AM |
| 39 | The Lighthouse movieIt’s a good movie I’m a huge A24 fan. It’s basically about a man stuck in limbo giving into his temptations, the old man is his older self. At the end he wasn’t able to reach the light, because he clearly failed. Men are gross but the acting in this film and the cinematography was amazing. I’m a huge cinephile and I’m into screenwriting so maybe I saw it from a different lens. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 06:50 AM |
| 3 | Anyone else at a point where you just can't trust what they sayYep. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 05:33 PM |
| 11 | Why do Men lead you on by faking interests just to dump you after?Sex. | /r/askFDS | 14/12/20 04:37 AM |
| 3 | Does anyone else notice a personality change when they catch feelings for someone?Those damn cuddle hormones. | /r/askFDS | 10/12/20 03:19 PM |
| 4 | Does anyone else notice a personality change when they catch feelings for someone?So true I’ll definitely be looking back at this comment! | /r/askFDS | 10/12/20 03:11 PM |
| 16 | Does anyone else notice a personality change when they catch feelings for someone?Yep, it’s even harder when they lie and manipulate. They’ve gotten so good at it, it’s scary! | /r/askFDS | 09/12/20 11:23 PM |
| 3 | This PostSecret shook me, I think most women can relate to this.If only it were that easy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 08:11 PM |
| 14 | Why do I fight for relationships I don’t wantSo have I, I’m sorry to hear that. So many woman I’ve met have suffered abuse as a result of men, it’s just unbelievable. If only we weren’t raised to seek validation from man and taught that it means we’re worthy of something if a man wants us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 12:13 AM |
| 46 | Why do I fight for relationships I don’t wantHonestly I’m the same way, even with a guy I’m not even that into. I guess the validation of someone wanting a relationship with you would make you realize you’re not actually as broken and unworthy of love as your subconscious thinks you are. At least that’s how I feel. My abusive ex made me feel like I’m unworthy of love and that something is deeply wrong with me, and since then no man has wanted to be in a relationship with me and part of me wonders if I am actually defect and only good for s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 12:04 AM |
| 1 | Why do men come back for basically no reason?You’re right. If only he wasn’t so attractive, I have a very specific type which makes it hard but I’ll let my brain do the talking, not my lady parts. | /r/askFDS | 06/12/20 06:06 PM |
| -1 | Why do men come back for basically no reason?It’s so hard because we’ve never had sex or anything and been friends for a while. Back then, I wasn’t into him because I was still attached to my LVM ex and sort of ruined things and then when I was ready to date, he was hesitant and I think maybe his ego was a little messed up from how I was before, so he kept bread-crumbing me and bailing on plans at the start of the Coronavirus lockdown. So I dunno. He still isn’t making any effort so it’s probably best to let it go. | /r/askFDS | 06/12/20 06:01 PM |
| 9 | Why do men come back for basically no reason?True. Unfortunately he found a way lol | /r/askFDS | 06/12/20 04:32 PM |
| 3 | Facts. I’m shocked that I even gave certain men the time of day.Hopefully. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 07:04 AM |
| 17 | Facts. I’m shocked that I even gave certain men the time of day.I fucking hate men. So much. You deserve the world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 07:03 AM |
| 23 | 14-16 was when I got catcalled the mostI was asked to join a threesome by a couple at a fair when I was 14 years old. I didn’t even know what it was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 04:38 PM |
| 18 | Always trust your gut instinct. It's not snooping, it's basically confirming your suspicions. Once again proved men ain't shit. A HVM will give you no reason to snoop. You'll always feel safe and secure.She had me at 7 years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 04:33 PM |
| 3 | It should be that simple. I’ve had a guy literally do all of these things, then proceed to say he doesn’t want us to be “official”.What’s “good enough” to them? I’ve been wracking my brain thinking that out of all of these men I’ve dated, none of them seem to deem me worthy enough for a long-term commitment. I think it had to do with my being mixed race and dating white men, so I’m put in a box of “she’s not relationship material”. Just my theory anyway. It’s hard not to get down about myself, men are impossible these days. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 09:40 PM |
| 124 | It should be that simple. I’ve had a guy literally do all of these things, then proceed to say he doesn’t want us to be “official”.Why is that? I don’t understand. “I want you to act like my girlfriend, but you’re not my girlfriend.” Is it because they’re waiting for the next best thing to come along? I can’t stand men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 11:23 PM |
| 16 | My dating fatigue summed up in one video.She didn’t have one actually 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 03:25 PM |
| 7 | My dating fatigue summed up in one video.She actually didn’t have one haha she just trails off | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 03:24 PM |
| 11 | Poor girl, we all have to learn sooner or later. Men are awful. We need to send her over to FDS.Hopefully she’s out of pickmeisha land after this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 02:33 AM |
| 28 | I hate datingI am, I'm mentally and emotionally exhausted. Men have let me down so many times in my life, I can't handle the stress of dating anymore. I have so many stories, and I opened my heart again and thought things were great and then they weren't. It's really not worth it. Now I'm putting all my energy into making music, which is something I've been wanting to do for a long time, and that's all that matters now. Me, myself and I, as well as family and what is important to me. | /r/askFDS | 30/11/20 12:21 AM |
| 10 | Why are men like this? This is why I avoid catching feelings at all costs.You can still have a family without a man! Don’t give up any of your dreams. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 03:37 AM |
| 11 | Why are men like this? This is why I avoid catching feelings at all costs.Ugh it’s a struggle, I’ve been successful like 1 out of the 50 times 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 02:16 AM |
| 24 | Thoughts on a guy who talks about his ex and is still friends with her?People think it’s weird that I don’t think you should be friends with exes and date other people. It makes me uncomfortable and it feels like I’m second. | /r/askFDS | 23/11/20 06:56 PM |
| 4 | Thoughts on a guy who talks about his ex and is still friends with her?He said he ended things I guess. They’re on good terms and were together for 8 years. She’s very successful in the music community in the city so I wonder if that has something to do with it. I don’t know but I know they’re not together. | /r/askFDS | 23/11/20 06:51 PM |
| 4 | This would have saved me so much time.Oh my god.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 01:41 PM |
| 1 | I ignored all the red flags and let a POS dull my intuition to cheat, use and abuse me for 2 years. Never again.Ugh. I think about this every day.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 06:08 AM |
| 25 | I feel like I’m flawed because men rarely see me long-term. How can I stop comparing myself to women in committed relationships?Exactly, you put it into words. That's how it feels...like I'm the placeholder that they fetishize. I tend to end up with white men, but I doubt any of them would admit they do this, it's likely a subconscious thing. I'm definitely waiting as long as I can to have sex with them now, I don't trust any of them (and certainly not a republican!). Also, I think I'll have to move if I want to meet more men who aren't like this. | /r/askFDS | 08/11/20 10:18 PM |
| 15 | I feel like I’m flawed because men rarely see me long-term. How can I stop comparing myself to women in committed relationships?Agreed...I don't think I'll find someone here. I'm saving up for this reason and for my career. I don't think this place is for me. Hopefully I can move by next year. | /r/askFDS | 08/11/20 10:16 PM |
| 18 | Forever GF Anthem ( fools gold by Amy Winehouse )Amy’s music was so authentic. Love her. Check out “Stronger than Me”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 11:47 PM |
| 11 | “You jump to conclusions” - LVM. Have you guys heard this too?That makes sense, I’m worried about ruining something with a potential HVM for this reason. It’s hard to know who to trust, since most men are total con artists. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 07:36 PM |
| 73 | “You jump to conclusions” - LVM. Have you guys heard this too?Exactly. I had a guy who kept inviting me over to his place for “wine” and I said I only do dates, and he asked why and I said it was because it seems like a more casual choice if you’re looking for sex and he said “we’re not the right fit, you always jump to conclusions”. So weird. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 06:34 PM |
| 3 | It’s my friend’s birthday. I got her some little gifts and I’m taking her out to a nice restaurant (that I found and picked and I will pay for our meal) She’s an amazing person and I want to make her feel special on her day 💗I wish I had a friend like you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 01:58 AM |
| 23 | Stop trying to find love during a pandemic 🧚♀️Where do you meet new people during a pandemic? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 03:00 AM |
| 2 | Even if he says he wants a relationship, plans trips with you, puts in a ton of effort. He will still change his mind in a heartbeat.He was driving haha terrible wording. But yeah I did, he’s blocked on everything now. He seems to be regretting it a ton, he texted me and I replied shortly then blocked his number too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 11:06 PM |
| 3 | Even if he says he wants a relationship, plans trips with you, puts in a ton of effort. He will still change his mind in a heartbeat.You’re so right. I’m feeling this horrible love hangover/ache in my chest and I’ll have to keep that in mind. I hope the right one is out there, or at least someone who won’t change his mind about me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 05:29 PM |
| 3 | Even if he says he wants a relationship, plans trips with you, puts in a ton of effort. He will still change his mind in a heartbeat.Exactly. If he had waited until after the vacation it might have been different. What hurts the most though is that I thought he was HVM and was so happy to be with a good guy for once who would prove me wrong. So part of me is thinking, “maybe I’m not good enough for an HVM.” But in reality he probably isn’t one if he could do that. I’m sure HVM can change their mind at the drop if a hat too, just like any man but maybe they’d go about it in a different way. Or know more of what they want initi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 04:22 PM |
| 5 | Even if he says he wants a relationship, plans trips with you, puts in a ton of effort. He will still change his mind in a heartbeat.That’s so true, he seems so full of himself. And thank you! I’m proud of myself. I bet 3 years ago I would’ve just went with it and felt awful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 08:00 PM |
| 2 | Even if he says he wants a relationship, plans trips with you, puts in a ton of effort. He will still change his mind in a heartbeat.Wow. My ex was like this too, except it took much longer. I’m glad I saw this ones true colors early on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 06:27 PM |
| 12 | Even if he says he wants a relationship, plans trips with you, puts in a ton of effort. He will still change his mind in a heartbeat.He did. In the text he said he didn’t expect things to change. He said it on the way back too. How on earth did he think I would? What a psycho. Glad the mask has dropped and I realized early on that he’s actually an abuser. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 06:25 PM |
| 15 | Even if he says he wants a relationship, plans trips with you, puts in a ton of effort. He will still change his mind in a heartbeat.He already sent me a long message this morning as I forgot to block his number too since I just deleted it. Makes absolutely no sense, how can someone not want to be with you but not want to lose you? He can’t just want to be with me? I’ll never understand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 05:35 PM |
| 11 | Even if he says he wants a relationship, plans trips with you, puts in a ton of effort. He will still change his mind in a heartbeat.I blocked him on Facebook and Instagram. Forgot to block his number (as I had deleted it) and he texted me early this morning, I responded shortly and blocked him there too. I’m wondering if I should post his texts here, but it sounded a bit manipulative. He doesn’t want to let me go, but doesn’t want to be with me. It makes no sense and I deserve better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 05:34 PM |
| 3 | Even if he says he wants a relationship, plans trips with you, puts in a ton of effort. He will still change his mind in a heartbeat.I had no choice but to drive back with him, which was awkward. So glad to be home now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 05:12 PM |
| 89 | Even if he says he wants a relationship, plans trips with you, puts in a ton of effort. He will still change his mind in a heartbeat.I waited two months but I really regret it. We had sex a week before our trip. I think that’s it too. I regret sleeping with him, as I was incredibly hesitant to do so because of FDS and everything but I saw that he seemed to put in more effort because of that. I was truly enjoying our connection so I thought it was time. I think after he finally had me, he became judgmental and he said there was one reason he doesn’t want to be with me but he doesn’t think that wouldn’t be a “good conversation”… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 08:47 AM |
| 2 | Experiencing anxiety after finally having sex with the person you’re seeing.I’ve been trying to post on ask FDS but it won’t let me :/ the good thing is we have a trip planned in a cabin in the mountains on Thursday and Friday. So that should be nice. I don’t know if we can hold out on the sex though haha Edit: looks like I was just added as an approved user. Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Of course there are people in the comments saying things like “why shouldn’t a woman propose to a man?“Poor woman! Send her over to FDS. Sounds like she needs a rescue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 03:16 AM |
| 5 | Of course there are people in the comments saying things like “why shouldn’t a woman propose to a man?“That’s great news! They’re so perfect for eachother ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 06:31 AM |
| 101 | Of course there are people in the comments saying things like “why shouldn’t a woman propose to a man?“I feel like the men use it against them during fights and say “I never wanted to get married in the first place!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 12:06 AM |
| 5 | “Universal Hot Crazy Matrix - Everything A Man Needs To Know About Women”This is a satire. I love FDS but you guys can’t tell something real from a joke sometimes. This has been going around the Internet for years lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 10:13 PM |
| 9 | Think about it....It makes so much sense now...if this were common place I wonder if the amount of rapes would decrease per country. Guess we’d never know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 11:55 PM |
| 7 | YesLmaooooo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 02:48 AM |
| 15 | There’s one particular LVM I can’t get out of my head, no matter how hard I try.It’s always the men you never fully date, maybe it’s the “what could’ve been” that keeps us thinking about them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 05:08 PM |
| 8 | There’s one particular LVM I can’t get out of my head, no matter how hard I try.I have read the handbook, and why men love bitches | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 05:07 PM |
| 5 | There’s one particular LVM I can’t get out of my head, no matter how hard I try.Yeah he saw it as I was trying to make something serious when that wasn’t the case at all. It was just like, “hey we’ve been sleeping together for quite a few times. How come you never stay the night? Do you see more with us?” And that scared him off I guess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 05:06 PM |
| 8 | I had to get in on the ex-boyfriend starter pack. So glad I’ve learned my lesson!Yes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 07:48 PM |
| 5 | I had to get in on the ex-boyfriend starter pack. So glad I’ve learned my lesson!Haha the photo is not far off that’s for sure 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 07:09 PM |
| 6 | I had to get in on the ex-boyfriend starter pack. So glad I’ve learned my lesson!Ugh right? Where do these dregs of the earth come from? And why are most men so similar? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 07:09 PM |
| 31 | I had to get in on the ex-boyfriend starter pack. So glad I’ve learned my lesson!My ex never took care of himself, he always looked scruffy, played video games constantly, was emotionally abusive to the point that I’d have to walk on eggshells. He emotionally abused me so bad towards the end, I was extremely depressed. Turns out he just wanted me to dump him so he could date his co-worker, who he is now married to already (we broke up in January). I wanted him to change and gain some ambition, instead I should’ve just ended it. Now he’s someone else’s problem, she’s a major … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 06:37 PM |
| 3 | I have no single girlfriendsI’m 26 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 09:46 PM |
| 4 | Tons of green flags so far with this guy I’m seeing. I like him but I’m being cautious, and would like your advice on us opening up to eachother.Yeah I’ll have to pull back a bit. He knows where I stand in not wanting to rush things. I’ve had guys rush things with me, love bomb and then it turned out awfully. It’s great that he’s respectful of that and seems to catch himself. It sucks that a lot of women are so used to worrying what a man thinks in these early stages stages and whether or not they are “good enough”. Learning how to flip that type of thinking has been worthwhile! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 10:54 PM |
| 2 | Tons of green flags so far with this guy I’m seeing. I like him but I’m being cautious, and would like your advice on us opening up to eachother.It’s too late now though isn’t it? That’s why I’m a bit worried. We both disclosed a lot to eachother so I don’t really know what to do at this point. We really like eachother. But you’re right I shouldn’t worry about what he thinks, more the reverse. I’m still keeping my options open and he knows that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 09:26 PM |
| 8 | Tons of green flags so far with this guy I’m seeing. I like him but I’m being cautious, and would like your advice on us opening up to eachother.That’s what I’m worried about. I read it and I’m just an open person so it’s hard for me to not disclose things especially when they also disclose to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 09:26 PM |
| 3 | Insecure yet cocky men men are a disease. Avoid them like the plague.What a strange guy. Dodged a bullet for sure. His personality is a huge turn off | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 06:19 AM |
| 5 | Insecure yet cocky men men are a disease. Avoid them like the plague.Even funnier is when I said he’s not funny, he said he’s funnier in person. To which I responded, we won’t be meeting in person, I’m not interested. His response? Let me know when you change your mind, you seem cool. I said, that won’t be happening. Block 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 02:55 AM |
| 6 | Insecure yet cocky men men are a disease. Avoid them like the plague.Yeah something is very off about him. I’m so glad that I’m able to stop at the first sign of a red flag and trust my gut. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 11:35 PM |
| 36 | Insecure yet cocky men men are a disease. Avoid them like the plague.Negging has never ever worked on me. What evidence do they have that this works? Worst advice ever. I recall this happening to me a few times, usually from guys who are older than me. One time a guy at a bar said “wow, I’m surprised you’re able to hold a conversation.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 10:15 PM |
| 38 | Insecure yet cocky men men are a disease. Avoid them like the plague.So men actually read up on negging? Or is it something that comes naturally to insecure scrotes? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 09:24 PM |
| 51 | Insecure yet cocky men men are a disease. Avoid them like the plague.Exactly. I enjoy dark humor and comedy, but he seems to have no idea what that is. Let alone a sense of humor at all. Such a turn off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 09:07 PM |
| 124 | Insecure yet cocky men men are a disease. Avoid them like the plague.After he said that my body seems tolerable from what he’s seen (we met on Hinge). He said, “it’s just a joke. If you can’t handle dark humor than idk what to tell you.” And I said “I can handle dark humor, you’re just not funny at all” and blocked his ass. Why does he think he’s a prize? He really wasn’t that attractive. I’m way out of his league physically. Definitely insecurity. I wish I saved all the messages before deleting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 08:57 PM |
| 21 | What do you tell guys if they ask if you’re still dating other people?I've read it when I first joined this sub, it only mentions that you should be dating other people but not exactly what to say from what I remember. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 04:37 AM |
| 2 | I’m getting a lot of green flags from this guy. He’s very much an HVM, but his texting habits aren’t that great. What “green flags” do you look for when it comes to texting?These are texts a few days after our date: https://imgur.com/a/UoLBDfD https://imgur.com/7iJVOXx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 01:01 AM |
| 1 | I’m getting a lot of green flags from this guy. He’s very much an HVM, but his texting habits aren’t that great. What “green flags” do you look for when it comes to texting?I can show you the texts. I’ve played it much cooler than him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 12:52 AM |
| -2 | I’m getting a lot of green flags from this guy. He’s very much an HVM, but his texting habits aren’t that great. What “green flags” do you look for when it comes to texting?He isn’t in therapy per say but he studies it on his own time and his podcast for men to talk about things openly. He does it in other ways I guess. His only issues as far as I know is that his parents were super religious and weren’t accepting of him leaving the church. I’m in therapy personally and think everyone should be at some point in their 20s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 12:03 AM |
| 1 | I’m getting a lot of green flags from this guy. He’s very much an HVM, but his texting habits aren’t that great. What “green flags” do you look for when it comes to texting?No | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 11:39 PM |
| 2 | I’m getting a lot of green flags from this guy. He’s very much an HVM, but his texting habits aren’t that great. What “green flags” do you look for when it comes to texting?I don’t think a guy should have to text all the time. Personally that annoys me but people think it’s an interest indicator so I really don’t know | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 11:14 PM |
| -2 | I’m getting a lot of green flags from this guy. He’s very much an HVM, but his texting habits aren’t that great. What “green flags” do you look for when it comes to texting?All of the HVM green flags pretty much! Tidy, organized, ambitious, goes to therapy, emotionally available, looking for a relationship, respectful and kind, pays for dates, wants someone who’s also intelligent and ambitious like him (he said that’s what he likes most about me because that is important to him, has hobbies and a career (he’s a drummer, developer and has a podcast about open discussions) and a lot of friends. We have all of the same interests from music, to our mindset about our go… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 11:14 PM |
| -6 | I’m getting a lot of green flags from this guy. He’s very much an HVM, but his texting habits aren’t that great. What “green flags” do you look for when it comes to texting?We’ve talked longer than when we first went on a date. I should’ve mentioned. He’s a very open communicator and there are many green flags. He’s also looking for a relationship. But how long does it take to fully know? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 09:32 PM |
| 3 | Easiest decision ever!Only thing worse than a vain attractive man is an ugly scrote who thinks they’re a prize. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 09:06 PM |
| 4 | I buy myself flowers for no reason & any time I feel like because I am the most important person in my life.I’ve started doing this too! Makes me happy 😀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 03:57 AM |
| 9 | This is why you VET and NEVER have sex too early - bullet dodgedUgh god men are depraved. So sick of them. That’s why I’m taking a stand from dating for now. Especially in 2020. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 06:22 PM |
| 113 | Friendship is MagicSo true. Most men don’t take care of themselves. Scrolling through dating apps is so disappointing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 05:05 PM |
| 7 | Such good lessons...Exactly. My ex did this, he was emotionally abusive and dragged me down. Now he’s engaged 6 months later to his shiny new object and a “born again Christian”. I’m left picking up the pieces and healing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 02:59 PM |
| 3 | Unattractive guy I was talking to made me feel like shit. Why am I upset about it? Is it an ego thing?Wow, this is a great way to look at it. Thanks for sharing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 04:46 AM |
| 1 | Unattractive guy I was talking to made me feel like shit. Why am I upset about it? Is it an ego thing?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 12:10 AM |
| 16 | Unattractive guy I was talking to made me feel like shit. Why am I upset about it? Is it an ego thing?I know that’s part of it for sure...I’m in therapy working on that. It’s a deep rooted thing with my mom issues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 09:40 PM |
| 15 | Unattractive guy I was talking to made me feel like shit. Why am I upset about it? Is it an ego thing?He came back before and I got fed up again with his bs negging. Maybe he’ll come back again though, who knows. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 09:14 PM |
| 22 | 😲Oh no, is that what you thought?Why do they continue to go after pretty girls who are better than them after they leave you in the dirt then? Makes no sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 06:18 AM |
| 62 | 😲Oh no, is that what you thought?Why do short or ugly men treat you like you're an option when you're way more attractive, interesting and intelligent than them? Do they expect to bag Mila Kunis one day or something? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 04:38 AM |
| 4 | The audacity is astronomical .. Can you say toxic?So fucking truee. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 02:40 AM |
| 1 | On r/sex a woman let’s her boyfriend have sex with her while she’s asleep. I wrote a comment in response and a Pickmeisba went at me for it.Should I delete the post? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 04:00 PM |
| 13 | On r/sex a woman let’s her boyfriend have sex with her while she’s asleep. I wrote a comment in response and a Pickmeisba went at me for it.Pickmeisha* | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 08:08 AM |
| 7 | Just a reminder that being a “girly” girl is totally awesome and valid and to shame girls for being feminine is to give in to a patriarchal culture that demonizes femininity because it’s largely associated with womanhood in a world that hates women. We can be feminine for ourselves, as well!I’ve been judged by men and women for wanting to look my best most of the time. Some guys (LVM especially) have said I seem too “high end” and fancy. And girls have said things like “you don’t look like you like to camp and do outdoorsy things”. When in fact I love doing that. It’s silly how we put women into boxes as if they’re just one way or the other. We should be able to dress and look how we want without being judged but I guess that’s human nature. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 03:10 PM |
| 2 | How to deal with rejection?I think so too and I have been working on myself. It’s just that I’m extremely picky, and he checks all of my boxes. I’m not sure someone else will for a while. It’s rare that I feel that type of connection. But I’m sure I deserve better. Maybe part of me just isn’t ready for something serious so I go after emotionally unavailable men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 10:47 PM |
| 8 | How to deal with rejection?That’s true. It’s suppose it’s best to let go and stop wondering what could’ve been. These guys always come back though, and if he ever does there will be some serious boundaries. But honestly, I’ll likely be over him by that point. Those “what ifs” do mess with me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 05:46 AM |
| 0 | How to deal with rejection?Likely not...but now that he knows what I want maybe if he came back we'd be on the same page, but you're right. I don't know why I feel this way about him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 04:34 AM |
| 33 | Where’s the lie, though?Try three and a half years! 🤡 I put my all into our relationship and trying to make it work, for the sake of a future with him and the idea of what it could be. What was I thinking. Biggest waste of time, so similar to everything you described! At least we both learned a very important lesson—NEVER settle and never be afraid to leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 06:06 AM |
| 20 | Where’s the lie, though?Ugh I feel you girl. And he couldn’t even last more than a minute either 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 04:24 AM |
| 12 | My dad reminded me why I need to vet men even harder than I ever did beforeMy dad is so caring and does everything for my mom. That’s why I have such high standards I think. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 04:34 PM |
| 2 | Deleted a fuckboy off my social media today. Does blocking/deleting give them satisfaction?True, I started to catch feelings for this guy, but the red flags were certainly visible beforehand. Trying to learn and catch it early though! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 06:11 AM |
| 1 | I know this is a joke, but these indie boys are hard to resist. I’m leveling up though, slowly but surely 😭That sounds incredibly rare lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 06:28 PM |
| 8 | I know this is a joke, but these indie boys are hard to resist. I’m leveling up though, slowly but surely 😭For some reason I tend to be drawn to musicians, writers and artists, not the 9-5 guys with great jobs. I’m also a creative myself, and I find it hard to connect with the dudes who have it completely “together”. I wonder if there’s any FDS advice for girls who are into creatives? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 05:36 PM |
| 67 | like a mother!!! mad props to herI'm in! I have no money, I do have great PR skills however, lol and that's a rad idea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/20 04:19 AM |
| 7 | Men and their “trust issues” 🙄Lmaooo. So true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 09:20 PM |
| 19 | Why are men so willing to let a great woman go and not make any effort? I can’t wrap my head around it.I’ve been called intimidating as well. As if we have to dim our light to get a man or something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 04:05 PM |
| 1 | Do all men have the Madonna/Whore complex? I’m convinced men just see me for sex and always will.I know, that's why I made this post. I'm tired of this shit. Men are so predictable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 12:38 AM |
| 0 | Do all men have the Madonna/Whore complex? I’m convinced men just see me for sex and always will.That isn't the point of this post, move along. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 12:37 AM |
| 1 | Do all men have the Madonna/Whore complex? I’m convinced men just see me for sex and always will.I live in a small city, so I know quite a few of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 12:36 AM |
| 1 | Do all men have the Madonna/Whore complex? I’m convinced men just see me for sex and always will.Yeah I agree. I'm very honest with them about my intentions. I'm just going to have to hold my ground even more firmly I think. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 12:33 AM |
| 1 | Do all men have the Madonna/Whore complex? I’m convinced men just see me for sex and always will.It's hard...I feel like some people just don't understand what it's like. They're telling me I just need to become more confident, when in reality this has been a problem ever since I could remember. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 12:32 AM |
| -10 | Do all men have the Madonna/Whore complex? I’m convinced men just see me for sex and always will.Yeah cause I’m not just going to tell everyone my insecurities. I’m going to just be my most confident self, especially when dating. Why are you on here if you blame women for now men act? That they can “sense” it like it’s our fault? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 10:31 PM |
| -3 | Do all men have the Madonna/Whore complex? I’m convinced men just see me for sex and always will.I’m not. What makes it seem like I’m not working on myself? I meant I’m not confident in dressing up cause I look sexual and shit. I’m a confident person overall, just not in the way people expect me to be. I don’t show off on social media or anything like that. I just don’t like attention. Unless you’ve been sexualized your entire life then I guess it doesn’t make sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 10:24 PM |
| 7 | Do all men have the Madonna/Whore complex? I’m convinced men just see me for sex and always will.The thing is, everyone says I seem super confident and guys have called me intimidating. I’m great at hiding it. So I’m not sure how else to do this. I’m in therapy, on Lexapro. The whole shebang. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 09:45 PM |
| 2 | I’ve met guys who like this energy. I dig it 😂Pretty much, it's hilarious though lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 07:22 PM |
| 3 | I love this idea! The look on their faces is so wholesomeSo sweet ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 10:32 PM |
| 13 | Periodt.Where do you find these men? I need to know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 11:35 PM |
| 21 | Honestly, same.Pretty sure it's just a joke lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 08:12 PM |
| 10 | Elon musk LVM tweeted “take the red pill” and Grimes mom called him out.Does he have autism? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 06:27 PM |
| 25 | These men shouldn’t be allowed on Bumble. I feel bad for his wife, not sure how involved she is in this so called “open relationship”A women completely tied up with rope during sex. A BDSM thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 05:09 PM |
| 2 | I have yet to meet a man who is as interesting as he pretends to be. Where are the men who read and can keep up with me intellectually?How do they treat it? The last guy I dated had it. I liked him but he couldn’t keep up on communicating with me because of DnD 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 05:01 PM |
| 38 | These men shouldn’t be allowed on Bumble. I feel bad for his wife, not sure how involved she is in this so called “open relationship”How many women are going to sign up to be his “rope bunny” really? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 04:17 PM |
| 21 | I have yet to meet a man who is as interesting as he pretends to be. Where are the men who read and can keep up with me intellectually?As they do. Almost too good to be true lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 12:01 AM |
| 19 | I have yet to meet a man who is as interesting as he pretends to be. Where are the men who read and can keep up with me intellectually?That’s a good way to put it. I like video games myself. Like Last of Us, Red Dead, GTA and they’re awesome. Some are almost like films. But if that’s their only hobby then it’s definitely a turn off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 10:54 PM |
| 8 | I have yet to meet a man who is as interesting as he pretends to be. Where are the men who read and can keep up with me intellectually?I was involved in film and screenwriting at my college but only took a few classes (just graduated). Maybe I’ll look for local clubs, theaters, etc. meet some interesting men there once social distancing is over. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 08:26 PM |
| 37 | I have yet to meet a man who is as interesting as he pretends to be. Where are the men who read and can keep up with me intellectually?I’ve had the same issue. They’re usually insecure if you’re smarter than them, I’ve seen it first hand. One guy told me that he likes smart women, but if they “overdo it” then it’s not attractive. I’ve had guys shocked that I was on my second degree, and so many guys I’ve met say “I hate school” after they tell me on a dating app that they studied at so-and-so university. They always fail to mention that they didn’t actually finish and get their degree. Such a turn off. How hard is it to study a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 08:14 PM |
| 51 | I have yet to meet a man who is as interesting as he pretends to be. Where are the men who read and can keep up with me intellectually?Omg exactly. You’ve put it into words. They come across that way at first, until it’s four weeks in and they just want to talk about their useless DnD habit, work or video games. I definitely could have been projecting that onto them, but they also fake who they are to “suck you in” if you’re that intellectual, well-traveled type of person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 08:08 PM |
| 13 | Those “cater to your man” days are over.I don't know, it angers me though. I remember she would comment on his photos that I took of him at a restaurant. Flirting hardcore, knowing that he's in a relationship. Why can't they find someone who isn't taken? Maybe they go for men with girlfriends because they have low self-esteem and feel good about themselves when they ruin relationships or if a guy who is on a date with another girl gives them attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 01:42 AM |
| 148 | Those “cater to your man” days are over.Yet most guys still expect this type of treatment. LVM men will want and be attracted to independent women until they get lazy and leave them for pickmeishas (exactly what my ex did). A girl at work would bring him gifts everyday, he said I don’t do enough for him and left me for her. Dodged a bullet! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 03:46 AM |
| 5 | My female friends don't like my the guy I'm interested inMy friends aren’t attracted to the guys I date, and I’m not attracted to the dudes they date. We all have different tastes. Just go for what you like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 04:19 PM |
| 9 | LVM ex I wasted years on, is now in a relationship with a girl he said was ugly and annoying because she spoils him and buys him gifts.I have him blocked in everything thankfully. Sort of upset my friend told me, she said she thought I knew. Mind you, this friend was basically a frenemy growing up. She was always been quite jealous of me. I think she wanted me to feel some type of way. But honestly I’ve moved in. He’s not even worth thinking about. I’m just surprised he found a relationship so quickly, with this girl of all people. The only thing that still affects me is the abusive shit he said to me and how he made me feel ab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 08:52 PM |
| 10 | LVM ex I wasted years on, is now in a relationship with a girl he said was ugly and annoying because she spoils him and buys him gifts.I hope that’s true. She’s the complete opposite of me. She’ll probably be easier to be with (in his mind), less independent, easier to control, etc. he’s 31 so I’m sure that’s what he wants or else he will mentally fuck her up and ruin her self-esteem like he did to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 08:50 PM |
| 6 | The moment you show interest in return, they don’t want you. What’s the psychology behind this? I’m so done.Weirdly enough I haven’t slept with either of these men. Just made out and stuff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 03:42 PM |
| 23 | The moment you show interest in return, they don’t want you. What’s the psychology behind this? I’m so done.Do you suggest I just cut them off then? Feels like that would make me feel so much better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 06:48 AM |
| 23 | The moment you show interest in return, they don’t want you. What’s the psychology behind this? I’m so done.I don't see why that's so hard to find. Turning 26 next week and honestly questioning if I'm gonna die alone, why it is men don't see my worth. I hate that I'm feeling this down about myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 06:39 AM |
| 39 | The moment you show interest in return, they don’t want you. What’s the psychology behind this? I’m so done.Telling them I like them in return or merely showing attraction. They seem to want me when I don’t want them. It’s so frustrating. Mind you, these are two guys I’m referring to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 06:02 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on guys who “suck at texting”. What does this mean exactly?He does call me from time to time. And we have great conversations, he’s pretty communicative. I’m still a bit wary though. But maybe some people really do suck at it. I know sometimes I can. At least before the Coronavirus and having more free time I was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 04:42 PM |
| 4 | Thoughts on guys who “suck at texting”. What does this mean exactly?How come? I’m a little wary about it too. But not sure why. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 05:02 AM |
| 2 | This subreddit has saved my life. I’m looking back at the red flags I ignored and I just can’t believe I put up with them!I wouldn’t say I was a pickmeisha cause I would be honest and not put up with it, my mom is a very strong woman and always wore the pants so id never let him walk over me. He would tell me he’s going to change until he just stopped caring and became super abusive. I should’ve left much sooner than I did though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 06:52 PM |
| 1 | This subreddit has saved my life. I’m looking back at the red flags I ignored and I just can’t believe I put up with them!Ohh I see! Yeah usually moms of mommy’s boys are crazy, that’s for sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 02:15 AM |
| 1 | This subreddit has saved my life. I’m looking back at the red flags I ignored and I just can’t believe I put up with them!Wait sorry his mom was sweet. He was an alcoholic bi polar mommy’s boy lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 02:01 AM |
| 3 | This subreddit has saved my life. I’m looking back at the red flags I ignored and I just can’t believe I put up with them!Thank you for this, that’s a great way to look at it! I guess I’m so worried about the time I wasted, especially since I’m turning 26 next month. But I guess if I didn’t learn those things were on, then it would have happened sooner or later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 01:50 AM |
| 10 | Incels/Mgtows in a nutshellI’m short and broke, not ugly though. Still a catch or nah? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 10:02 PM |
| 1 | Pro tip: have two or three guys on rotation at all times when datingIt’s easier than it sounds. At least during Coronavirus 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 01:45 AM |
| 7 | Pro tip: have two or three guys on rotation at all times when datingI’m talking to one guy I met on Tinder, one is a flirty guy friend who has a thing for me, and the other is a guy I met in class (although we also matched on Tinder). So, I’d recommend meeting men in other areas besides dating apps once this Coronavirus stuff passes and connect through social media/ get to know them. Also, what’s really worked for me is being honest about the fact that you’re dating around so they sort of have to work harder to keep your attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 10:53 PM |
| 6 | Pro tip: have two or three guys on rotation at all times when datingOh, men with their basic ass responses 🙄 I’d completely just ignore the ones who aren’t reaching out as much! And focus on the ones that are. For instance, two of the three guys I’m talking to message me everyday. The other doesn’t really reach out as often, but we have plans to hang out once the movie theaters open up and stuff. It’s also a weird time to date right now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 10:51 PM |
| 21 | Pro tip: have two or three guys on rotation at all times when datingLol exactly, it saves you from disappointment as well. I've noticed when I would pull away and focus on one out of the three more, the others would pick up on my distance and try to make more of an effort. Why are men like that? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 10:03 PM |
| 3 | Getting rid of my old bdsm stuffYeah same. There are sensual pegging videos out there that are more intimate. That’s what I’d be more into. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 07:18 AM |
| 14 | Getting rid of my old bdsm stuffIs it weird that I’ve developed move of a dominant view of sex? I get turned on by sensual pegging videos and men being more submissive. I’ve never been into BDSM though, where the woman is abused and what not. I think I’ve always wanted to take back control since men have taken advantage of me in the past. If I was dating someone open to it, I’d definitely give pegging a try. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 05:14 PM |
| 6 | Age that women first noticed men were looking at them sexually in graph form. Comments are full of the usual male denial that this ever happens. Gotta wonder why they feel so personally offended at this graph that they’d issue kneejerk rebuttals🤔So disgusting. This is why I’m going to be extremely picky about who I choose to have a future with. Don’t want to end up pregnant by the wrong guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/20 07:37 PM |
| 2 | Age that women first noticed men were looking at them sexually in graph form. Comments are full of the usual male denial that this ever happens. Gotta wonder why they feel so personally offended at this graph that they’d issue kneejerk rebuttals🤔Jesus. That’s terrifying. I wish I thought to tell someone about this at the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/20 07:13 PM |
| 45 | Age that women first noticed men were looking at them sexually in graph form. Comments are full of the usual male denial that this ever happens. Gotta wonder why they feel so personally offended at this graph that they’d issue kneejerk rebuttals🤔14 for me. I was asked by a COUPLE, the woman was pregnant at the time and had a baby with her, to join a threesome at 14 years old when I was at a fair. Her husband was behind her staring at me. My response? "What's a threesome?" She then asked how old I was and then booked it out of there and told me not to tell my friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/20 06:26 AM |
| 14 | Leave dirty men immediately. Don't waste your time with nasty-nessI slept with an extremely LVM rebound after a messy, devastating breakup. Once I smelled his disgusting feet, I was nauseous and sent him home in an Uber (he didn’t even have a car. Not my proudest moment). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 06:17 PM |
| 2 | How do I get over an unreciprocated crush?I’m in the same boat except me and my crush just marched on Tinder and he started flirting a bit more. Maybe that signaled to him that I am interested, but either way he knows I’m not waiting for him. I put my foot down and said “if you want to see me, don’t be a stranger. Text me instead of hitting me up on IG for a change” and he said he won’t be a stranger. I’m looking for more of a casual hookup thing right now honestly, but I think we’re pretty in sync. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/20 03:05 AM |
| 2 | HVM slam poetryI’m the artsy type so I guess I’m drawn to that. My ex was the opposite and we didn’t mesh well, he had almost no emotion or passion for anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 03:03 AM |
| -14 | HVM slam poetryK you guys are reading way too much into this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 02:10 AM |
| 3 | HVM slam poetryY’all must not date artsy boys then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 01:18 AM |
| 13 | HVM slam poetryIt’s a place to express art. Lots of filmmakers use this platform. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 12:10 AM |
| 8 | HVM slam poetryTik Tok is pretty popular now lol I know a lot of people who use it. It’s basically vine nowadays. 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 12:10 AM |
| 1 | It seems like men will only settle down with someone who’s absolutely perfect, and I don’t have the energy anymore.I’m interested in a guy who doesn’t post on social media and hates it, which is great. However, he does have an IG still. I just hope he sees some of the people pleasing ladies he follows this way too. Who knows. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 11:29 PM |
| 2 | It seems like men will only settle down with someone who’s absolutely perfect, and I don’t have the energy anymore.Yeah I sort of maintain mystery on there in a way cause as I said, I don’t have the energy. I’m also back in college and working on a field that requires social media (journalism) that could be why I’m a bit worried about how I’m perceived there too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 03:56 PM |
| 13 | It seems like men will only settle down with someone who’s absolutely perfect, and I don’t have the energy anymore.Fat Norman Bates? Ugh so disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 04:43 AM |
| 31 | It seems like men will only settle down with someone who’s absolutely perfect, and I don’t have the energy anymore.Why do most men always think they can do better? Like why are they so delusional? I honestly feel weird even complementing a guy because it immediately goes to their head and it inflates their ego. Is it a testosterone thing? I’ll never understand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 11:13 PM |
| 14 | It seems like men will only settle down with someone who’s absolutely perfect, and I don’t have the energy anymore.Women are taught at a young age that we have to keep up with trends, and be beautiful and feminine in every single way, from our head to our toes. We also have to look great every moment of the day. It’s so exhausting. I just want to be happy and it’s honestly so freeing to let this mentality go (unless that’s what makes you happy, then so be it). Beauty and clothing companies prey on our insecurities to make us feel like we need these things or else we aren’t going to be the most beautiful woma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 10:24 PM |
| 15 | It seems like men will only settle down with someone who’s absolutely perfect, and I don’t have the energy anymore.That’s so true, I’d be miserable if I had to do that. I’ve been focused on guitar and creative writing (things I’m pretty good at). I’d love to find someone who’s into those things too, but even then, a lot of creative types fall into the “hipster” shallow category who have an obsession with aesthetic and outward appearances. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 09:28 PM |
| 9 | It seems like men will only settle down with someone who’s absolutely perfect, and I don’t have the energy anymore.I deleted Instagram for a while for this reason, but got a new account because no one uses Facebook anymore and it was hard to get a hold of some people. But maybe I’ll permanently get rid of it if this continues to affect me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 09:25 PM |
| 10 | My crush prefers white women. Makes sense now. Onto the next ✌️Thanks! Having a crush is awful and such a waste of time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/20 07:24 PM |
| 1 | How To Build Sexual Tension With WomenI bet you're the village idiot. | /r/seduction | 13/03/19 02:52 AM |
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