FDS has taught me to cut things off right at the red flags and I’ve done that. However, there’s a guy I really liked, we were friends for years but not close or a trying. Went on a few dates here and there. I was dating another person, we just never really tried. He reached out again and we had a good time, I really enjoy our connection. And I thought to myself “wow I really like him.” And then he flakes on our plans to hang out twice in a row. The first time was because he was having acne breakouts and he felt uncomfortable or something. The second time, he ended up having dinner at his parents house about an hour away and he was drinking, so he couldn’t leave. He technically ended up forgetting and told me he’s flaking after I reached out to him.
So I was upset, thinking damn he doesn’t even like me back that much so I deleted him off my social media and told him that I don’t like how flakey he is, and that I’ll just see him around. He told our mutual friend that he feels like I overreacted and thinks we wouldn’t work now. He said he was drunk when I texted him and that I didn’t text him at all that day to confirm plans so he just forgot about them.
I know men can be forgetful and careless at times, and now I’m thinking to myself, damn. Did I ruin a Chance at a good thing? Could I have just pulled back instead of cutting him off? Part of me wants to reach out and apologize knowing how he feels now. What do you think? Would I seem crazy if I reached out again? Should I wait for him to?
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Would you do this to someone you had interest in?
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Maybe you need to call him and ask him to plan something nice for you both and if he flakes again you’ll know it wasn’t just misunderstandings. But he firm and say “hey, do you want to spend time with me as a priority and if so, will you plan something for us to do, since our dinner was apparently just poor communication.” If he jumps in and says, “yes, I’d like to give that another try” and actually puts in effort then Maybe he’s not a inconsiderate guy. But I don’t think he will do that, by the sounds of it.
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